What makes it all worth it for you?

By Leca
@lecanis (16664)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
February 27, 2008 7:28pm CST
As most of my friends know, I've been having a bit of a hard time lately. I haven't talked about this yet, but yesterday and today were both really stressful days for me at work as well, on top of having a cold and still not breathing as well as I'd like to be. (Before anyone mothers me, I did make a doctor's appointment.) Anyway, today I came home from work and immediately played with my son. I was tickling him and talking random nonsense at him, and he giggled and giggled and giggled... and it was all okay. The tension all just melted away from me, and while I had planned on ranting about my workday, it just didn't happen. None of it mattered anymore. Do you have something in your life that makes everything seem worthwhile to you? That makes all your worries seem insignificant? It could be a person, a hobby, a beautiful place, a spiritual or religious aspect, anything...
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• Australia
28 Feb 08
My husband Richard. I can be having an anxiety attack or just a stressful horible day and all he has to do is hold me and I feel at peace. He's the best man I have ever known and I love him with all my heart. Great question!!!
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
29 Feb 08
That's wonderful, Sassy! I'm happy that you have such a great husband to make you feel so at peace. Thanks for sharing!
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• Australia
29 Feb 08
You're welcome!
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
28 Feb 08
My son is such a people person, not only my husband, but a friend gets relief whenever he is around. One time my husband took my son to a friends house and he left my son with the friends wife who was depressed the day. She was so thankful, because my son made her feel good just by being himself..:) For myself, it depends on what is bothering me. Sometimes my son helps, but others times, being in G♥d presence lifts me up..
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Aww that's such a sweet story! Glad to hear that your son is so good at cheering people up... what a ray of sunshine! :)
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• United States
29 Feb 08
Well he can be a real stinker too..lol
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I'm glad to hear you made a doctor's appointment - just hopping it's soon :) For me there are a variety of things that 'cheer' me up - one day it may be my grandkids, another my youngest doing something kind or good, seeing the deer in the back yard (haven't seen them in a month or so), or reading something special or touching. Today as does happen often it's a silly thing another friend shared here on myLot.
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
28 Feb 08
This is what cheered me today and I'll be laughing all day over it. What do they call pastors in Germany? German Shepherds
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
It's Monday, that was the soonest I could get to see my regular doc. If I have to go sooner, I'll go to emergency, but I think I can wait til Monday. Sounds like you have a lot of wonderful things in your life! :) Hehe, that's a great one! German Shepherds!
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Actually I don't. :( It used to be music but that's not really much an option anymore. No wonder I'm walking around so miserable half of the time. I'm still looking for that thing though... ;)
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Oh, filmbuff, I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you the best of luck in finding the thing that will make you happy, and make everything worthwhile! :)
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Thanks. :)
• United States
1 Mar 08
These days it is hockey. It is coming down to the end of the season and soon the playoffs will start.I love, love hockey and this is the most exciting time of the year. That and spring training has started.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Mar 08
Ooohh hockey! That's an original answer. :) I'm glad that you have something you enjoy so much!
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• United States
29 Feb 08
My kids, they are so sweet! And hugs, anytime I can get one, I like hugs, hehe.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Mar 08
Awww. Kids and hugs! Sweet! :)
• United States
29 Feb 08
My back yard helps me do that. I have a pool and it is so quiet and peaceful out there I can relax out there I am glad you are feeling better. Isn't is great to have your beautiful son. I miss my children even thou they are adults.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Mar 08
OOhh that must be nice, having such an awesome back yard! Yes, it is great having a beautiful child in my life! :)
@childsca (39)
• United States
29 Feb 08
At least you were aware enough to notice the things that make you happy. So many times we go through life stressed out and forget about the meaningful things and the reasons we're put here on earth... : )
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Mar 08
Being self-aware seems to be one of my major positive points. :) You have a good point... a lot of people simply miss wonderful and meaningful things because they're too busy stressing!
@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
28 Feb 08
My friends often make it worth it, my relationships with people -- I never cease being grateful for them. So after a crappy day, I often talk to them, and I feel soothed. "As long as I have people who care, I won't care about the drama." And, a some people here on mylot know..I'm very active in politics and campaigns for people...and efforts to make people's lives better. I volenteer sometimes, and all of that. And as some people who also does stuff like this knows, this is often a thankless task. So, hard as it can be, and I keep up with it pretty much daily...what makes all THAT worth it, for me, is when I hear some breakthrough. Doesn't have to be big. Anything to know that my efforts helped someone.. And that makes all the exhaustion and stress go away. It doesn't happen often, but when it does it helps me feel like I can go on and continue trying to help people.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
29 Feb 08
Very well said! You're right... it can be very hard helping people and feeling like no one cares, but when you find that one person you really manage to help... there's nothing to beat that feeling. I've been there before. I do a lot of volunteer work and such myself, and it's amazing when you can really feel like you helped someone and they actually appreciate it. :)
@childsca (39)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Yes...my husband, beautiful sunsets, warm wind blowing through my hair, and sitting quietly on a beach...
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Those all sound like beautiful things to make life worthwhile, childsca. ;)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Hey lecanis. I'm glad you are going to the doctor. I need to make an appointment myself but I keep putting it off. Anyway, when we adopted the boys I quit an 85000.00 a year job in order to be a stay at home Mom for them. I hate that I have to try and make as much as I can on the computer every day in order to feel like I am helping a little bit with the bills but it is all worth it. It's worth it because when the boys get home from school, I can spend quality time with them and help them with their homework. I don't think I would give that up for any amount of money.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
What an inspiring story, girlgonefishing! Really shows you what's important in life. It can be difficult having to scrape by, but it's great that you can be home with your boys like that. :)
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 08
Mine is my beloved retreat which I go down to by the ocean, I go four times a year and it keeps me going because I have something to look forward to, I can be myself if you understand no pretences I can be who I want to be, I am with great friends, it's truly a wonderful place and it makes me sooo happy, content, relaxed and totally chilled. My next trip is the end of April.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Wow, that's sounds wonderful, wolfie. :) I haven't been to the ocean in quite a while now, and this made me crave a trip.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
28 Feb 08
I wonder who mother's you. Fantastic, positive thinking at work. I was really pleased to ready your post, as I am not about much at the moment and literally drop in for 2 minutes at a time. Mylot is in itself a bit of an escape for me. But I go walking or go down to the coast and sit by the sea. Sometimes I just read and escape into a book. I prefer non-fiction, and to me, a reference book can be as escapist as a work of fiction, if written well. keep up the good work. Oh, and well done about the Drs appointment.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
You know, that's a bit of a funny thing for me. Just about everyone I meet except my actual mother seems to have an urge to mother me. I must have a sign on my forehead saying "In need of mothering" or something. Wow, reference books, eh? I like some about nature, and history and religion ones, those are my favorites. I do occasionally read others, but I must admit a lot of my time is spent on fiction.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
28 Feb 08
I think there are many things in life that make life tough. Again many things taht makes life like there is really no point to worry. Sometimes I worry so much about dad. after some moment i think let me face it. I can manage all. so life goes on.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Sorry to hear that you have to worry so much about your dad. It sounds like you're pretty good at handling things... and yes, life goes on.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Awww lecanis, that is wonderful that you can turn to your son and find the wonderful things in life to enjoy! Nothing is more pleaseing than a child's giggle or a dog's tail wagging or a cat's purring. Things like that make like all the more worth while. Doesn't it?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Definitely so! :) It's funny how simple life is when you really stop to realize what's important.
• United States
28 Feb 08
My kids do it for me too. I had the worst day of this whole year (even though only 2 months have gone by) today and I was ready to rip the head off of anyone who even blinked wrong in my direction. My attitude was so bad today that I had to sign off of here before I responded to any more comments on my discussions because I saw that I was about to take my aggressions out on poor unsuspecting myLotters. My sons came home and I was in the kitchen being p!$$ed off about a comment I read in a blog about people who should be taking care of their children instead of wasting time on the internet. My oldest walked in and kissed me on my cheek and told me he loved me then just walked away. Shortly afterwards my youngest son came in and rubbed my back and asked if he could get me a soda if I was thirsty. I woke my avatar up from her nap and all 4 of us just rolled around the floor playing and giggling and being silly. This was 4 hours ago and I still don't have it in me to rant and whine and moan about how horrible my day was because after the evening I spent with my kids it is almost like it never happened. Too bad they have school tomorrow and won't be here when I have to clean up even more people's messes.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Sorry to hear that you had such a horrible day. It's great that your kids were there for you! You must be doing something right to have such thoughtful children. :)
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
28 Feb 08
Knowing that my wife is there at the end of a long day is something that makes it all worth it for me. Sometimes, after a particularly long and frustrating day, it is good to know that there is some one there for you. Just like in your case, your son was there for you. It doesn't take a lot to be happy. As long as you know that you love and you are loved in return, that is really enough to make it worth while for anyone, IMHO.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
You have a wonderful point... knowing that you love and are loved in return is a wonderful thing. Thank you. :)
@goldeneagle (6774)
• United States
28 Feb 08
It doesn't matter what kind of day I have had...when I come home and walk in the door and those 3 little dogs come running up to me wagging their tails and jumping up and wanting to give me kisses...it all seems to get better
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Thanks for sharing with me! It's great that you have such eager and loving dogs to come home to! :)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I am sorry you are feelin under the weather, hope you feel better soon. Sometimes, kids have a way of doing that, they just make it all better.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Feb 08
Thanks! Yup, kids are good for that. I never cease to be in awe of that affect, since just a few years ago I thought I didn't like kids... or at least claimed not to! :P
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I stay home with my son now, and I love it. I love spending time with him. No matter what happens, it's all ok because of him. If I need to talk to someone about something, I talk to my dogs. :) They aren't judgmental, and I don't have to worry about burdening them with things they don't need to concern themselves with. They just give me an understanding look and let me pet them. It works out well.