How do I get help for my parents?
By kathy08
@kathy08 (46)
United States
February 28, 2008 12:39pm CST
Hi everyone I haven't been here for a little bit. I have a question and I need some advice. I have a brother and sister in law that live in NY not far from my parents. They were having financial troubles for yrs and yrs. Alway came to my dad for help. He NEVER told them no. Now he is $70.000 in debt and they don't even call him. He had to tell them the bank was empty. He goes to pantrys for food lives on a pension. Thats it. Now he is in deep financial trouble. He isn't well and my mom has alzheimer. Isn' ther anything we can do to get his financial situation taken care of. His lawyer said he can't prove the payments to them. He paid them all in cash. I believe this is called ELDERLY ABUSE! . He refinanced his house to save theirs which they are now going to lose anyway. I live in Ca and I really wish I could do something.I need help on info. Is anyone out there a lawyer with advice. I don't have the money to hire one. PLEASE HELP
2 responses
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Ugh. Unfortunately if you father doesn't have any type of receipts there isn't much he can do legally in the court system. But if there is even on piece of paper that shows he gave them money, or maybe paid one of their bills directly, he could at least sue to get that amount back.
The only other thing I can suggest is to help him apply to the state aid programs. There is usually some type of state aid program that will assist lower income people with financial assistance and food stamps.
Another suggestion is to bring the situation to light with his church (if he belongs to one). The community is often a great place to turn when in need. -Tink
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I'm so sorry this has happened to your parents.
Unfortunately, if your father gave them money of his own free will, there's probably nothing you can do about it. If you could prove that he was not capable of taking care of himself and they took advantage of him, you might have a case.
If it was just a matter of not wanting to deny his son, then I don't think there's much you can do about it.
Its sad that it got to that point, but it doesn't sound like there were any laws broken.
