Do you tell your kids no just to ....

@ebsharer (5515)
United States
February 28, 2008 8:54pm CST
tell them yes six times later??? My kids know that if I say NO I mean NO. They know better but if they ask me six more times I am still going to say NO. I know a couple people that tell there kids no six times just to finally say yes. The kids know damn well there parents are going to give in thats why they keep asking. Or the parents that say okay one more time ... sixteen times later the kid is still on the sliding board. Is it just me or is this really agervating to watch?
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@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Consistency is important. When I tell my daughter NO its NO. I work from home. So I am here with her and when she comes home from school.(preschool)She has figured out that she might be able to get a different answer if she waits for daddy to get home. However this has only happend a few times. We try to present a united front.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Yes I have noticed a lot of kids play there parents against eachother. We don't have that problem too often. We can normally tell if we are the second parent being asked.
• United States
29 Feb 08
My younger siblings have been known to do that a lot. So most of the time, if my siblings ask our parents for something the second time, they just say, "NO and that is the end of discussion on this issue!" My siblings would not dare ask our parents anymore because they know that they just irritated them. My parents do not tolerate that kind of nonsense! NO means NO. My parents have never in their life changed a decision that they make. -Feel Free to Disagree!
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
29 Feb 08
If I tell my son no, it means no. We might let him get by with doing something 2 times, after we tell him just 1 more time, but that's it. Never more than that. He knows that what mommy says is what matters (or daddy if he's the one around).
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Its on thing if you just get to the park and your child wants to spend all there time on the slide. Its when you (not you spacificaly) tell them we are leaving in 5 minutes and 20 minutes later you (again not you spacifaly) are still saying okay 5 MORE mintues.
• United States
29 Feb 08
You don't even train a dog like this..i hate to put it this way but it popped in my head...you just tell them once in a stern manner..my kids are 37 and 36 so i never hit them but they knew not to do this and I did not have custody of them but seen them on weekens and holidays in the summer..vacation.. but they were not always perfect and sure they pouted..or probably thought i was a fool..but they knew not to do this at an EARLY AGE...but my folks never hit me but that came later or when I was in school..then it was allowed..i guess..but you should be able to control them the first time...but six is just making you look like a fool.
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
29 Feb 08
I don't understand when you say "you don't even train a dog like this" I know that I only have to tell my kids 1 time for them to understand the word no. I am talking about other parents that tell there kids no you can't have it or no you can't do it then after the child asking 3 or 5 or 8 more times the parent gives in. I didn't say any thing about hitting a child I just said basically do you give in after your kids keep asking the same thing.
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
13 Mar 08
Neither of your posts make sence to me. But thanks anyway!
• United States
29 Feb 08
thanks for the post it was good that you are doing the right thing by your charges
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
29 Feb 08
It is annoying to watch or listen to. We say no and mean no, but our kids keep asking anyway (usually in 5 - 10 min. intervals) until we get the really mean sounding no out, with the threat that they won't get to do it the next day either. I don't know why they do that, because we don't give in.
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@virgo73 (17)
• Spain
29 Feb 08
Probably they are doing this because they had results with this behaviour before. Our parents did a better job with us in a very old fashioned way and it works so very well. Get the board and lock it up. Get the cookies and keep it away. Pull out the internet connection. It worked with mine. Now they listen to music on earphone, donĀ“t watch the TV during the Week and get better marks at school, even go out to play with their freinds.
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@johanz (25)
• Latvia
29 Feb 08
As i remember from my childhood,i hated when my parents don't buy me stuff not because of no money,but because of that,they don't want to :( It depends on what kids ask.
@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
13 Mar 08
Of course you wouldn't like it if your parents didn't give you every thing you want.