My husband and I may be getting a son-in-law sometime in the future
By SheliaLee
@SheliaLee (2736)
United States
March 1, 2008 8:11am CST
For those of you who have been keeping up with my discussions regarding Amanda and Mark going out last week on their first date, well, last night they went out again and they had another very good time. Amanda has always been very open with me, for which I am so grateful. After he left last night she opened up my bedroom door and was ready to talk. She asked me "Did you hear what he said when he left?" Our bedroom is right next to the living room and the front door so she must have thought I heard. But when I told her I had not she told me "He said that he loves me!" She then proceeded to cry. She is still so new at this and even though it didn't upset her at all she was just caught by surprise. She told me that she just said "Okay." When I talked with her further she admitted to me that she loves him too, she is concerned though about it being too soon. I told her no, that I have heard of cases of people falling in love on the first date, in fact, I fell for her dad the first time I went out with him. He and I celebrated 24 years of marriage back in December. I told her, though, that she still needs to take things slow, because she still has college to get through, at least the one she is at now. She has two more classes to take and will finish either this fall or next spring, depending on if they will let her take both the classes together or if she has to take them separately.
He brought her a box of candy last night when he came to the door. He
is coming back next Saturday to take her out again. He wants to take her to Mississippi to show her around, we live in Alabama, he is about two hours away. I may be wrong, but unless something changes it wouldn't surprise me a bit if he gives her a ring by Christmas. I talked to my husband about this before he got up to go to work. Amazingly he wasn't surprised either, I think he is like me, he can see where things are heading.
Thanks for listening to me this morning. God Bless and have a wonderful day!
SheliaLee
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5 responses
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
1 Mar 08
I think it's great that she's met someone though like you said I'd suggest she take it slow and really get to know him. I'd be somewhat cautious about going on trips until she knows him a little better though. I really hope it works out well.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Hi! I appreciate what you said about being careful regarding a trip. When Mark comes to get her they will only be gone for a few hours and then he will bring her home. Mississippi is only a couple of hours from where we live. He just wants to show her around where he lives and probably the church he goes to. He had told her at one point that there is a museum he would like to take her to showing items from Elvis Presley. From the get go he has been nothing but a man of his word. He is a fine Christian man and extremely old fashioned which is something else that I'm glad about. I'll keep you posted on what happens. :)
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
1 Mar 08
I'm very glad when I read your story that you have a good relationship with your daughter like me. My daughter is also in college now and I'm just thinking it right now how will I react when my daughter will tell me that she is already in love ans she is going out with her boy friend. I just wish she finished her studies first before going to a deep relationship.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
1 Mar 08
I tell you, it is scary isn't it? We raise them up the best we can and then, even when you know it is coming you don't always know what to say or do. Amanda is still really nervous but I think she will keep a head on her shoulders and I hope Mark will also. I believe he will when he realizes that she wants really bad to be a teacher. If I get a chance I will talk to him and my husband probably will too. Thanks so much for listening and for your response.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Thank you dear Gaby!! I really believe Mark loves her even though it has been such a short time. If you could see how he is with her when they are together it is just so sweet!!! I made some copies of the picture I had taken and sent to you so she could give him one if he wanted it. When she gave it to him he told her he will treasure it. Now isn't that sweet??? Hope you are feeling better and will talk to you soon. :)
@AmbiePam (121200)
• United States
2 Mar 08
That is wonderful Shelia. I think you handled it correctly. Although it is completely possible to know you are in love that fast, taking it slow is always best. Because if it is love, then it is not going anywhere. By Christmas I am sure Amanda will be more self-confident in the relationship to truly evaluate what should be done now and what can wait until later. The wonderful part is that they are both close to God, and since they are serving Him and following His will, then they won't ever be going down the wrong path. Congratulations honey for being a wonderful mother, and an awesome friend. You have managed to do both for your daughter, and fulfilling both roles successfully and simultaneously is rare.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Thank you Amber, believe me it isn't always easy being a mother. I wish the job had come with an instruction manual LOL!!! But we have raised Amanda in church and brought her up the way we feel God would have us to and the time has come to let her branch out. She agrees with us that if he starts talking about marriage any time soon that she needs to finish what she has started. She only has two classes left and will graduate in Spring 2009. That will give them plenty of time to get to know each other better too. I told her that even if they should become engaged that they can still make plans while she finishes at this school and then decide about transferring her credits.
I'll defintely keep you posted about how things are going. :)
@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
2 Mar 08
Well good for Amanda!!! I have a step daughter named Amanda, and we'd sure like to see her hook up with a fellow as she's in her mid twenties and hasn't had a first date yet. This is terrific news and I hope it puts any bad thoughts towards all men aside after that bad experience she had. Best Wishes Folks!!! Oh and Thanks for the follow up, that's alway a bonus.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Thank you for your response!! :) I hope your stepdaughter will find someone too. After the bad experience Amanda had in July I was honestly afraid that she would be afraid to even date anyone but knowing that my mother's friend knows him so well made a big difference. She knew he wouldn't introduce her to someone who would hurt her because he cares for Amanda and my son as if they are his own grandkids. I'll let you know what happens. :)
