Is long years of marriage is an assurance of lasting loved?

Philippines
March 1, 2008 3:55pm CST
For how many years you have been married is your loved still the same intensity as before?Or it is really a natural thing that it tarnishes or sometimes it does not last long so separation comes in?I'd been married for almost 12 years I would say that it would not perfect but at least i did my best to keep the marriage last and to be the best wife and a mother..however when we become both so busy we become more strange to each other as if we don't have time to each other anymore..we misses the way we were before how we handle our life as simple as it was ,like we watch movies or dining out and he spent quality time for us..now our relationship is on the rocks and we are now talking the separation..it hurts me but I need to face the realities of life that I cant force him to love me if he feels not...we have been through difficulties in life but we able to solved it but this problem that we facing is the hardest one..now can you please let me know how you handle this kind of situation?
5 responses
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
It is both of you who will decide if you will work it out or you will call it quits later when you encounter the odds in your relationship
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
you are very correct it should be both partner to decide and work out for the marriage...sometimes its ahrd if the country does not have a divorce law..thank you for your time hope to see you again
@ersmommy1 (12595)
• United States
1 Mar 08
Long marriage not really a guarantee for long lasting love. For the longest my mother dealt with alot. Including being basically ignored. As long as dinner was on the table, kids quiet ec. So after 34 years she has filed for divorce. Feeling like she basically wasted a lifetime.Sometimes people just don't work at things. Or only one works at it. Love like most things takes work. Letting the other know they are appreciated goes a long way.
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
you have that point..yes it does not guarantee... good for your mom coz your country has a divorce law not in our country the Philippines so usually we sacrifice a lot the least we can do is separate legally but not entitled to remarry..so it takes two to tango to work out your marriage...thanks for your participation
• Pakistan
4 Mar 08
Long years of marriage is an assurance of lasting loved i am agree with this but there are some factors which are so importantn in this factor and no one is children. Because children make this loved strengthen and strengthen. and secondly there is mutual understanding and it is so important i think .
• China
3 Mar 08
If I were you ,I will choose to break up for some time. Maybe after that you and your husband will get a long well with each other .In my opion , marriage need time to have a break. It's good for both you. You can have a try.
• Philippines
2 Mar 08
I'm sorry to hear about your marriage and all the years that you've been married ending in a separation. Are you both sure that you really want to end your marriage? Maybe you just need to rekindle your love for each other? Maybe you just need to set time for each other to try to relive your pre-marriage days? Just my two cents of worth.