Update On My Sister
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
March 2, 2008 1:01am CST
I called my sister last night at 6:30p.m. She was just getting in from vacation, I mean work. She roamed around the house for about five minutes trying to find a quiet place to talk. No sooner has she gotten settle, when her husband starts yelling at her about something.
She yells back and tells him that she is on the phone with me. He tells her not to tell me about something and she tells him that she is not telling me about it, but is explaining escrow to me. Which she was.
She says that the tenant upstairs has not lifted a finger to start packing up to move. I asked her to ask this lady if she needed help. I will be more than happy to go over and help her get her things together.
But it seems that this lady is the only one in this situation who actually knows the law and she is not budging. She told my sister that they should have told her in December that she needed to move. They told her on the 12th of February that she had to be out on the 25th of February. You would think that they all knew better than that.
But then again, my brother-in-law knows everything. He treats my sister like she has no brains at all. So my sister went downtown to learn the law, while the know it all idiot laid in the bed and watched television.
Now the person who wants to buy the house is the one that hast to serve papers to this lady, but she is afraid to deal with her and my sister says that they can not do anything to help move the process along. They are stuck.
I assumed that the cell phone that my sister was talking on was her own personal phone. Every body in the house use to have their own phone. Come to find out, the phone that she was on is the only phone in the house and her husband was rushing her off of it so he could use it.
My sister seems so insignificant in her own home. All she does is work, pay bills, run errands, take orders from her husband, cook for every one including the children's fifteen or some odd friends and oh yeah, play taxi for everyone.
She has no friends close by and family is kept at a distance by her husband. If by chance they do make it to Atlanta, she will be even more isolated. So today, I decided to change some of my priorities. I need to spend more time praying and standing in the gap for my sister. I am starting to feel nothing but anger and hatred for this whole situation and this is not healthy for me.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
3 Mar 08
Rozie my friend Petie sends you a lot of wet sloppy kisses, Sammy and Abagail are sending you lots of purrs. They say people who own cats live longer. You can share mine at the moment they are bathering me because they think it is time to eat. According to Abagail it is always time to eat.
I am so sorry there is so much wrong going on with your sister and her move. I wonder if the woman who is buying the home, is going to back out? Is the home in Escrow yet? I do not know if she can back out if the home is in escrow.
I hope your sister can get her life back and stand up to someone like her husband, kids or who ever so she can feel empowered.
Rozie you know all this anger is not healthy for you it is not good for any of us. I know it is easy to feel that way when you see how they are taking advantage of your loved one. Your sister needs to go to some woman's empowerment classes to learn to have a back bone to so she can stand up for herself. I know it is not easy.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
3 Mar 08
An empowerment class sounds like it would be good for both of us. If I could just find a way to get her there. I will definitely look it up and pray on it. Yes the house is in escrow. I heard that when it is in escrow, it can still fall through though.
My sister said that the lady just sold some property and in order for her to not have to pay taxes on it, she needs to buy more property in like 45 days. I do not believe that the lady upstairs will be out that soon. I do not want my sister to move anyway. I know that the Lord is in control. I am just praying for peace with it now.
I know that anger is not good for me. I can feel it having a negative affect on me. I do not want to end up with an ulcer or angina, or anything crazy like that. Thanks for the love and hugs and sloppy wet kisses.
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
3 Mar 08
If it doesn't bother your sister....it shouldn't bother you. If she asks for help that is another thing. But much as you love her and want to help.....people can only help themselves. But praying will also help. And you are right. It's certainly not healthy for you to stew about something that is out of your control.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
3 Mar 08
I know that it is tearing my sister up inside. My sister is a very prideful person. So the mere fact that she is talking to me about all of this and not pretending that everything is fine, means that it is really bothering her.
She is just scared and doesn't know what to do. I am trying to tell her to trust God and stop trying to trust her husband. I am praying for peace with this also.
@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
2 Mar 08
You have every right to be angry about the situation. Its totally normal, I know I would be peed off royaly. Your BIL sounds like he is off his rocker. Mr. know it All doesn't know nuthin. I would be having fits if I lived someplace and then someone told me I had to move in 10 days. That is not enough time to pack, find a place, save up enough money to move, make arrangements to move, etc. I do feel sorry for your sis and the kids, the lady who has to move too. You have your answer...keep praying. God will somehow, someway make sure things work out. Just hand it over to God.




