How would you feel if your friend is moving away from you?

Philippines
March 4, 2008 6:43am CST
I've been experiencing this kind of torture for almost a month now. My closest friend, who happened to be one of the people whom I really gave my trust to, suddenly moved away from me, physically and emotionally. She is busy, yes. I am too, in fact. But, schedules doesn't mean that even a little chitchat during or after classes would give a big distraction to the balance of her tight schedule. In fact, she even spends MOST OF HER TIME with her boyfriend, which is rather enviable and makes my self-esteem drop. I thought she is my friend till the end... but what is happening now? She still doing this but I don't have the courage to confront her because she might get angry with me. I feel really sad because our friendship will be put to waste. Please give me a piece of advice. I need comforting words.
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7 responses
@rookiekan (882)
• China
6 Mar 08
i will be very sad if my closest friends move away from me,but something must be happened that we cant stop such as me,i will graduate this year and all of my college friends will move away from me.but it's the life,maybe time will heal u like a cup of coffee will dilute after continuous days.my best advice for u away from the sad was that to find new close friend and new friendship will cheer u up again.
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
You are right. Things just have to happen in order to make way for new and more beautiful things. It's just that I don't have the strength to be happy if inside, I'm really sad.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
5 Mar 08
I would definitely feel bad. actually few months back it was a case with me. I had a so called good friend. we were very close friends. but after i shifted to my home town, he started avoiding me. After that when ever i called,he was like just talking to me without any will. Later I found out he was just cheating.he only took advantage of me.
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
Aw, that was really bad. I think, because of the friendship, we became blind or short-sighted; we can't see the true colors of people around us. We give them trust, but they are only taking advantage of us. Friendship must be really treasured... and be cherished.
@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
4 Mar 08
im not sure there is comforting words to help you.as hard as it is we sometimes lose friends due to them relocating.they say out of sight out of mind.i have a best friend i moved away from and have tried to stay in contact with her but she doesnt seem to give me the same effort.she doesnt call me its upsetting to me as well.i thought we would be friends forever.im not even sure how she feels about it.we are not communicating at this time.she may be hurt i dont know and may never know.sorry i couldnt be more helpful or positive for you.my moto lately is nothing last forever not marriage or friendships or anything:(
@nghaipao (89)
4 Mar 08
Hi so sad you might be feeling so bad like me Ah... what to do come on yaar... lets make up our mine coz tomorrow is there let today be your sweet memory. yap sometime we rely think that we live only for a person but that's not right way for a man like you so be brave and don't be selfish coz when the times come you will just be ok
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
I guess you're right. I don't have to depend on my bestfriend. There are lots of people there around who could help me and who are always there for me--those who wouldn't let me down and won't move away from me. I think I closed my senses from other people who are willing to help me.
@yannycui (376)
• China
4 Mar 08
I have several close friends and we live near each other. We usually get together on weekends to play cards, chat or go shopping together.If one of them moved away from me, I will be very sad. I hope we can stay near each other until we are very old.
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
That's good... you're getting a great relationship with your friends and I hope there would be no misunderstandings in the future. I hope they won't move away from you. It's really satisfying when our friends and us stay in contact with each other.
• China
9 Mar 08
sorry for that,in my opinion,friends will not be together with you all the time,especially when both of you have your own schedules. as she is your closest friend,why not find a chance to talk to her.if she really cares about you ,there is no reason for her to be angry with you.right? well,to me,i am studying for a second degree in college now,i will not graduate utill this july, but most of my friends have graduated last year and begin to work, they don't have time to be with me and talk with me,i sometimes feel upset and lonrely,but i beleive that real friendship does not mean staying with each other all day long.
8 Mar 08
My best friend left when we were 11. We were friends since pre-school. It was really tough because they'd be migrating to another country. I sent her off to the airport and we cried all the time. It was sad, though. But we kept on sending mails (didn't really know if there was email already that time). We're still best of friends until now - we already have our own families. Don't despair. It's not the end of the world. I'm quite sure you still have a lot of friends around who you can spend time with yet not replacing your closest friend and it wouldn't be put to waste.