Should I marry him?
By yannycui
@yannycui (376)
China
March 5, 2008 6:26am CST
I am a single mother with a 5 years old girl. He is single and 6 years younger than me. We falled in love one year before but his parents refused to accept me and my daughter. Now he proposed to me and wants to marry me next month without the permission of his parents. Should I marry him?
5 responses
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
5 Mar 08
If you are in love and he is of age, then go ahead. Being though that you didn't say how old you are...we really don't know how old he is either. If he is 18 and really has no life experiences - it may be in your best interest and in the best interest of your daughter if you just continue to date until he matures some like working more - having a place of his own - paying bills- etc.
If he is actually older and has had the life experiences to mature alittle then fine. Who cares if he "has permission" from his parents or not as long as he has a backbone and will stick up for you and set them in their place if they ever try to come between the two of you in your marriage...if he doesn't seem like he will stand up for you - then no.
Good luck!
@jennysp8 (855)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Then I would say go for it...if the two of you are in love and you believe that he will defend you against his parents then -do it!!
I have two children who were from a previous relationship. My husband married me because we were in love and wanted to be together. He also wanted to be a part of the lives of my children. His parents did not approve at all (I was 25 at the time - he was 27)...when we were dating - even before talks of marriage they refused to meet me because in their words I was "not right or meant for their son".
We ended up getting married later on and it was only until after that - that they finally wanted to meet me and they learned they had to suck it up - accept things as they were - and keep their mouths shut - if they wanted to have any sort of relationship with their son.
Good luck!!
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
5 Mar 08
Well absolutely.. Thee are very few lucky ones in this world who find their true love.. And you are luckier to get it twice.. Well just think over how much he would be loving you if he is ready to sacrifice his family for you? Itwould be a matter of time before they accept you..
But seriously there is no question of doubt in it..
I m single but i can understand the importance of being together.. The guy is ready to commit.. Then why not you? If its the hesitation only about the guy's parents then leave it on him.. I think he can handle it..
@fredgame (1260)
• China
5 Mar 08
I think you can go ahead and marry him. since he can stand on his own and loves you and your daughter that's wonderful. i don't see the difference in age that hinders love. so far as you both fell in love with each other you can keep up with all the problems. good luck.
@snowzhxq (46)
• China
5 Mar 08
marry him. if I am you. and if you love each other deeply.
age can not stop the really love. and use long time and love to make their parents to accept You and your daughter. to prove that their son have made the right choose. if they really love their son and don't want to lost him, they will give up and accept you finally if you are the one who are the most important of their son.
@plainhousewife (332)
• Philippines
5 Mar 08
I think you are the only one who can decide on this. What do you feel? If you truly love him against all odds, then follow your heart. :)
A marriage is made up of a husband and a wife and not the husband, wife and the parents of either one. It is the two of you who will work on the marriage and will be living together as a couple, so it is your decision to make.
Good luck! :)
