wedding regrets: Dos and Don'ts

@ruthinian (2311)
United States
March 5, 2008 6:49am CST
I am married for only 8 months and still in the adjustment period. The "honeymoon" is over, quite literally and figuratively. Adjustment period is tough for people (like us) who came from different background, orientation and culture. I wonder how many people are undergoing the same phase that I go through now. And how many have survived or otherwise? I know no marriage is perfect. But is it possible to make it perfect? How?
2 responses
• United States
5 Mar 08
I chose to go through the adjustment period before getting married. Yes, it is hard and it is a lot of work, but it is possible. The grand, main key is communication. Talk to each other about what annoys you and what you absolutely can't stand. You'll both have to alter your habits and lifestyles for each other, but you can't know what or how unless you talk about it. Don't just "try to ignore it", talk.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
5 Mar 08
You are right. Communication is really the key to harmonious relationship. But sometimes it becomes a problem with us too because of language barrier. I understand and speak english but sometimes it's hard to express what I really feel because of limited vocabulary and difficulty in diction and accent and pronounciation. thanks for the response. I'm marking you the best response because you are the firs to reply with this. take care.
• United States
6 Mar 08
Maybe you can take a language class together, or with with someone bilingual who can help you get your meanings across. If you can't talk to each other, things may not turn out well.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
6 Mar 08
I am yet not married. bUt i feel sometimes that the most tough part is the adjustment in marriage. If its arranged marriage its more so. because you do not know that person well beforehand.
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I guess your are right.