Be Thankful You're Smart Because You Sure Aren't Pretty

For me the answer is in her eyes. If they sparkle, look "intelligent" then I am attracted. Of course if she can only mouth on about "Britney, Paris and Big brother" then I shall politely excuse myself and look elsewhere. Bright and "ordinary" whatever that means, far better than pretty and stupid every time. Any way who said that I was an oil painting. Oil slick more like.

I'm not obese nor aneroxic nor disfigured so does that mean I'm beautiful? and I can add, subtract, debate on the theories of math and science, and draw, so does that mean I'm intelligent, if yeah, then I can say I'm both! haha but I'd go for brains any day because the mind is what is powerful. The mind can deceive, think, and plot! bwahaha! I think that it's more powerful because you can make yourself beautiful too if you're intelligent. =)

Intelligent but ordinary (and both of these have their leeway though) And yes em Cyni, you are gorgeous and intelligent. A work of art, and someone really worth being with. I do like your changed remarks though. I'll be a bit silly/sarcastic and answer a couple though. "There is no plastic surgery that is going to fix stupid". Uh, me and the scientists and working on that. Honestly. One solution is a cybernetic-mechanical application that downloads the information into your brain. We are almost there, especially with our work in the brain-operated PC. We just have to get the input-output and interface variables worked out. Oh and we are having trouble with the Stop:OxOOOA and other "not found" errors. But, hey we were able to make a supermodel increase her intellect to that of cabbage. That's a 210% increase from what it use to be. Our other solution involves genetic engineering. Dangerous? Maybe. Unethical? Nah... *sly* "You are stuck being stupid forever" Well there always is education or going out and learning about some subjects... there are also books. Oh wait... all of those are discouraged in current mindsets. Hmm... This statement may withstand the test of time.

I am smart, and I wouldn't trade that for all the beauty in the world. I think beauty is over rated, especially since it is in the eyes of the beholder, whereas smart is just smart- there's no disputing it. I have days when I think I'm pretty, and days when I avert my eyes from the mirror. My husband tells me I'm beautiful, and that makes me feel good. He doesn't just say 'you're beautiful.' He says specific things. He says when he sees me on the floor playing with our son I look radiant. That's the kind of beautiful I want to be. He also tells me that one of the things that first attracted him to me was my intelligence. That means more to me than any comment about my looks.

It's safe to say I have brains and beauty- at least that's what I'm told. So on that note, I think that the standard answer would be brains have gotten me further in life but that really isn't the case. Brains get me good grades, amazing intelligent conversation with a few select people, and a shot at making a good living when I get out of school. That's pretty far I guess but that is the boring stuff.. The beauty is what gave me some amazing experiences. The beauty is what initially landed that guy I always wanted at first or any guy that came my way that I liked . That beauty can make a man fall to his knees in want and it's good to be wanted- nice for the ego. Beauty is nice when you want to go out and play stupid because your tired of thinking, lends alot to the free spirit in me. Beauty helps me to be outgoing when I'm really an introverted private homebody. When you feel good about the way you look on a hot day..you can feel like just about anything could be yours. Is it reality? Who knows? I don't think so but when it's happening it sure seems like it is. Both brains and beauty make me who Iam but honestly I like the beauty part better most of the time..I spend too much time overthinking (kinda like this post) so it's good to be free of that if only for a little while.

Definately rather have brains, although sometimes I dont even think I have them. I wouldnt say I was really pretty, but some days I can look in the mirror and think that I dont look too bad. Gosh though your mum doesnt sound very nice to say that to you, my mum was strict but she would always tell me how beautiful I was to her. I used to have a badge that said, I may be fat, but you are ugly, and at least I can diet. My mum got it me when I was having some trouble with my weight and was feeling pretty low in myself, it helped me a lot!!

I guess I am pretty average in both departments. I'm not beautiful (even though my husband says I am) but I'm not ugly either. I'm also not a genius, but not dumb as a brick either lol. As I've gotten older I have realized that attitude has a lot to do with how attractive someone is.

what a great and interesting post. I think I was blessed with both. I also think that both have gotten me where i am today. I have always worked in a man's world kind of job. I worked for years on a trading floor. and that is such a mans world. I think my looks got me in the door, but my mind kept me there. and that is just how things have worked for me. this job i am in now, the office is almost all women, the first for me. and my brains got me here for sure.

I have never been one to be choosey on the way my men look. Looks isn't that important to me, but they have to be smart, or at least not dimwitted.. I usually followed my little heart where ever it led me, which probably wasn't too smart on MY behalf :P *sigh* but i ended up with BOTH!! or at least i think so ;) and after all taht's what matters right ? You can't be ugly with a beauty of a baby girl like that hun ;) Tell your mom to stick it ;)

I don't know what you look like or how old you are. I grew up in the 60s and my mom was like that. I felt so ugly. She dressed me ugly and talked to me as if i was...all the time. I was deeply convinced that I was just ugly and becuz of such low esteem...even tho i could easily get pretty good grades. grades meant nothing to me. I still am not big on esteem but just to let you know...I get told that I am beautiful all the time. I am 51 and I have younger men hitting on me. it does not build my ego as i've reached a point where i don't care but it really makes me want to encourage women like you.....just maybe your mom was wrong.

well to begin with i think beauty is in the eye of the beholder,so in her eyes you may be smart but ugly ,but in my eyes you may be smart and beautiful.

I love those sayings you made up, those are so great! You Go Girl! That's awesome! Ok, now, as for your question, I personally don't like to say I'm pretty because I personally think I have seen much better, of course. However, people have always told me that I am. I KNOW however, that I have brains. In fact, it's one of the reason my husband went for me in the first place. He has said that he's glad that I'm beautiful but if I hadn't had brains, he would have never went for me LOL... As for which one that has gotten me further, I would have to say my brains, without a doubt! I think someone can have all the looks they want but looks fade, knowledge doesn't (well unless you have seniality or something but that can't be helped really). Also, personality does not fade as well. By the way, I think that's awful that your mother would say that to you and I commend you for being able to see it for what it was, STUPIDITY (she was probably just jealous because you had both LOL). I'm glad to see you didn't let it rule your life and instead, it only improved it! Good for you! Once again, You Go Girl! ;-P

Sadly, I am pretty, but I am fat. So that doesn't help me. And I am smart...but it's in the "Fine line between genius and insane" way. But hey, I am cynical, and unique. Guys seem to love that. :S

I grew up being told that I was capable of achieving anything, people also told me I was beautiful. I had the tendency to not believe them when they made such comments. I think that brains and beauty both have their limits. If you have ever watched Beauty and the Geek then you would know what I mean! Beauty is nice and it might get you a few free drinks or meals at times but it wont pay for everything. Brains are great for figuring out problems and solving mysteries, however, if you lack social skills then you might be a rocket scientist but have no connections. Having a healthy mix of both qualities is a great advantage, people pay more attention to those who look good. By looking good I do not mean you have to be Angelina Jolie or Catherine Zeta-Jones, I mean if you take time to put yourself together and look presentable, as if you care about yourself and your appearence. Then if you add brains to the mix you sound more qualified. As for me I enjoy the fact that I am considered beautiful, but I would definitely like to be considered smart and intelligent more and not be treated a certain way just because of looks.

I think The man I have is perfect. He is very smart, and he has some good lookin charms. Especially his legs, his legs almost dont match his body because they are so perfect and strong! Anyways If I had to choose I would pick intelligence. My cousin on the other hand is very conceited, and if the guy doesn't look good, he doesn't get a chance. I didnt think people like that existed, but my cousin proved me wrong. I guess some people need that physical attraction. I think even if they aren't super attractive, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder". I think my man is more and more attractive every day!!!

I have enough self-esteem to say I have both beauty and brains. I'm not perfect in either but I know my boyfriend loves that I'm intelligent 'cause I'm not like the dumbies he's dated in the past. And he thinks I'm pretty so that's all that matters to me. lol However I think intelligence will get me farther in life. Beauty only gets you into pictures. And I'm not photogenic. :)