Why do people like to talk about other people?

United States
March 5, 2008 5:22pm CST
Neighbourly gossips can consists of casual or idle talk between friends. While gossip forms one of the oldest and (still) the most common means of spreading and sharing facts and views, it also has a reputation for the introduction of errors and other variations into the information thus transmitted. So knowing this, why do people like to talk about other people?
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
5 Mar 08
I think that it is one upmanship. We like to think that we know that little bit more than the next person thus giving the impression that we are somehow closer. Of course sometimes its just plain old jealousy, that's when people stat to run each other down. I'm struggling here K, its too late for me I shall have to go to bed. But you get the idea. I'll give you a fuller reply tomorrow
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• United States
6 Mar 08
Tired or not, I knew the point you were trying to get at. People like to think they are more in the know than the next guy.
@p1kef1sh (45638)
6 Mar 08
I think that everything that I was going to say has already been said. I had my first ever instant messenger conversation last night yesterday and it absolutely exhausted me. All that I wanted to do was crawl into bed. But no, I thought better and came on here first. What a fool. Sounds silly I know.
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• United States
5 Mar 08
Probably because they don't have a life of their own, they can't think of anything else to talk about, as they may not read or do anything creative. They may never take a good look at themselves, or are scared to, so they look at everyone else. I guess it depends on if when they are talking about others, if it's in positive way, or a negative way. I feel that gossiping about others, and judging others, is very destructive to one's consciousness, and what they think they see in others, is probably inside themselves. I think if one can always be learning something, that would give them something to talk about other than other people, or if they are mindful of what's around them, that's beautiful and miraculous, or if they can think of ways of helping others less fortunate than themselves, that would give them plenty to talk about.
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• United States
5 Mar 08
Great answer. There is much truth in your words.
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Mar 08
Makena you just said a mouthful there. There is so much to learn in this world and to be mindful of the real beauty around us. for example I felt really upset when we moved to the complex we now live in we were ten or twelve blocks away from Larwin Square with all the shops and everything handy. But after awhile I looked around and saw why this is called El Dorado gardens.There are trees everywhere and different kinds of trees, flowering shrubs, and green grass. it is truly beautiful here and much quieter than our old apt building which was stuck up against another apt building and no trees, no flowers, just pavement. Here we even have a resident hummingbird with a ruby throat a beautiful litle bird. as for reaching out to help others, that really pays you dividends in the long run.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
5 Mar 08
The most popular magazine in USA is "People" ,right? "People" magazine is talking gossip about stars. All news are form of gossip. Reputation can be total destroy by gossip, not only on local level, but also globally with internet gossip....
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• United States
6 Mar 08
Thats true. When you hear about celebrities you never know whether to believe what you read or if its just all hype for publicities sake.
@punlonnjack (1309)
• United States
5 Mar 08
i think most people who gossip to try to win approval from there friends.like they are in a competion with others.it make them feel better about themselves to gossip and win someone on there side and make others look bad.oh well just my opionion.
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• United States
5 Mar 08
And I like that opinion. Sometimes we need to talk about others to take the spotlight off of ourselves.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
6 Mar 08
it could be due to many different reasons as mentioned here. but mostly, people like the superior feeling i guess when no one knows anything but only they do whether it be true or not. also, like they curiosity kills the cat. they become really curious and can't hold them back especially if the people are the talkative type and can't keep secrets. at my place here, this is so common that we're used to it. people tell us gossips and we listen simply because we have nothing to do. others like to bring people they don't like down. i guess each has their own reason of why they gossip. it's just that they when they are talking, they don't think they are gossiping but to others, they are.
• United States
6 Mar 08
I think we are all guilty of gossiping. It happens at home, it happens on mylot, it happens everywhere around us. People love to talk about other people.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
6 Mar 08
yep, true. we all like to talk about other people. thus we also like those reality shows too. most of us anyway. have a good day.
@dtroas (481)
• United States
7 Mar 08
I am not one that really talks about people, I say what I have to say to them. If they don't like what I have to say o Well, if someone has a problem with me I would rather them come and tell me then to set back and not say nothing but say it to everyone else.
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• United States
7 Mar 08
Its funny you should say that, I was just sitting here wondering how many people step lightly and how many people are willing to sacrifice a friendship in order to defend their beliefs.
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
I've heard this from one of the speakers in a sales training that people love to hear that other people are more messed up than they are. By realization, I think it might apply to some people. But for me it's such a sick hobby. Just because many people are doing it, it has become an impersonal offense. The primetime shows that feature gossips are the concrete examples.
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• United States
7 Mar 08
Its just the way it is. For whatever the reason, people somehow are validated in their own right, by talking about others.
@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Mar 08
I think that they are trying to get attention that they cannot seem to get from other sources. they can really do some awful damage because truth often gets mutilated and somebody is going to catch the downfall of that gossip. When I was a kid all the old women gossiped about aN elderly woman who lived along and had several cats. they all thought she was a witch which of course was not true. she was just a tad senile and all alone and a bit eccentric. When she heard all that gossips she committed sucicide and later we learned at one time she had been a very dedicated school teacher who had been beloved by her students. I did not join in the gossip as I knew from what my dad had said that at one time she had a much beloved school teacher. gossip can do some real harm. its one thing to gossip about some movie star you like or dislike but when it comes to trashing someone who is not hurting anyone then its malicious.
• United States
6 Mar 08
Thats a very sad story, but a bitter lesson.
@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
i suppose talking about people makes people feel better about themselves. its just how people are. we mostly talk about how they are like this and like that... it just seemed obvious that they do it because they think they are better than those people, which is so sad.
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@gemini_rose (16192)
6 Mar 08
I think I live in the worst area I know for people gossiping! People where I live will sit and have a coffee with you, wait until you have just about got out of the room and then you can literally feel the knives go in! They pull each other to bits and talk and put each other down and then pretend they are best mates when they are together. Hence this is probably the reason I have no friends, because I cant stand it, and you cant tell anyone anything because you know within minutes it will be all around town. I last made the mistake of telling someone something a few months ago, Ive known her for ages, and I had confided in her something I was worried about to do with my sister in law and her exs family, she went straight to the person involved told them what I had said added a few bits and nearly caused an all out war between two families.I was quite gutted as I had been friends with this girl a long time and I felt quite gutted. So now the only person I talk to about things is my husband and myself!!! I dont know why people love to do this, around where I live they seem to thrive on it, its so hurtful to be at the centre of gossips.
@icon_001 (586)
• India
7 Mar 08
Hello, This is quite an interesting question.I too thought about this .There does not seem to be a single reason for this . One reason could be it being a natural instinct we are born with . Secondly,we sometimes do it to kill time or what we call as "TimePass" . Third,we might have our own problems or frustrations in life and we discuss about others to take our minds off our own problems . As for I , I do not like too much talking about other people.And even If I do ;I don't spread any Ill-News about others. With Regards, Icon
• China
6 Mar 08
i hate gossip so i seldom talk about other people's bads. some of my friends and my classmate often do this,sometimes just for finding a funny topic.
• Singapore
6 Mar 08
i think most of them are faineants, they have nothing to do in their lives so gossip has become the only thing in their lives. perhaps some of them jealous of other people's successes......
• United States
6 Mar 08
Some people are just straight gossip queens I think. I think the main reason why people talk about others is their insecurities and jealousy. So they have to say something about someone else to make them feel more compentent.
• Nigeria
6 Mar 08
well i think that all living things talk about the others. if you can hear the language of the animals, i believe that they talk about other animals too. or if you can hear plants, they talk about each other too. it is just natural to want to comment on someone else but you should be careful what you say cos every word you say will be used against or for your favour on judgement day
@azure29 (30)
• Philippines
6 Mar 08
The answer to this actually lies in the make-up of people. By nature, people are social creatures who crave for information. Gossiping itself is not really bad, it;s actually a way of sharing information. The only problem with gossiping is that sometimes, the gossip goes out of hand, and usually people unknowingly spread incorrect information. I guess that this behavior is just natural that even should the sky fall down this instant, people will still talk about other people. I guess that the best solution for this is to double-check first the information you possess in order to prevent the transferring of wrong information.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
6 Mar 08
I think when one talks about someone else in a not so good way, they are making themselves out to be better than them by putting the other person down and making themselves bigger and better.
@lionceak (65)
• Moldova
6 Mar 08
i think people talk about other people as some sort of way of making others not pay attention to their own flaws and mistakes. some do it because of envy , some just because they find it fun to gossip . either way gossip does more bad than good
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
6 Mar 08
seems to me that some harmless gossip is just of way of conversation between 2 people that have nothing more to say or know of nothing better to talk about. i never talk about anyone that could hurt someone. i read the gossip magazines, and chat about the articles. just conversation maybe? now, mean gossip, that is so uncalled for, and i don't take part in that.
@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
6 Mar 08
People talk about other people when they don't have the intellect to talk about something constructive.