Student is harassed-What should i do?

@rposta07 (240)
United States
March 10, 2008 11:56am CST
My boyfriend recently went to a wrestling tournament. One night, the coaches got drunk in the hotel. At first, it was just harmless fun. They ran in his room and were play fighting with him. Then it got worse. They started hitting him and smacking his butt until it was numb. They busted his lip and made him bleed. Obviously, he retaliated. When he was fighting them off, he took one of the coaches into the television and it broke. Now they owe the hotel for the tv. Who should pay for it? Technically, it was my boyfriend's fault that the tv got broke, but he was just fighting the coaches off of him. The coaches want him to pay, saying they were just playing around and he took it to far. My boyfriend thinks the coaches took things too far, though. So whose fault is it? He was really upset about the incident and actually wants to transfer schools now. he was so mad at this that I considered taking it to the school administration. First of all, I go to a christian college, and the coaches should not have been drinking on this trip, or allowing students to drink. Secondly, they hurt a student. I dont think this is right at all. What should i do? do you agree with me?
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@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I don't see the big deal with drinking but I do have major issues with how they treated your BF. Since he feels abused, he needs to report this to the campus police and to the head of the coaching department. As far as who pays for the TV, he should because even though they were messing with him, he caused the TV to break. Do not fight his battles for him, he needs to learn how to stand up for himself.
@rposta07 (240)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I don't know. thats what I thought at first, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that having him pay for it just isnt fair. They made him freaking bleed! Any normal person would have fought back. I couldn't respect him if he would have just sat there and allowed this to go on. I personally am not doing anything about the situation, I just want him to. it is just rediculous. You should be able to feel safe with with your coach.
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
10 Mar 08
The problem with this is that as soon as they started play fighting and he knew they were drunk, he had the opportunity to walk away, but he didn't. He probably could have gotten away when they spanked him. I do agree, you should be able to feel safe with your coach, but in situations like the one you described the best thing to do is just get away.
@rposta07 (240)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Well thats just the thing, he couldnt get away. there were like 3 or 4 coaches doing this and a couple of them would hold him down and cheer on the other ones abusing him. That's why Im angry about it. If he was actively participating, then thats different. Oh well. Wrestling season is over now so Im sure my boyfriend will be fine in a day or two!
@anonymili (3138)
10 Mar 08
As his girlfriend I don't think it is up to you to fight his battles for him as this could make things even worse. He needs to take it up with them himself and stand up for himself and stand his ground. They came storming into his room when they were drunk and the TV would not have been damaged had it not been for their stupidity. Your boyfriend should hold his ground and consider making a formal complaint against them if they try to force him to pay for the damages. Why should he consider changing schools when he is not in the wrong here?