Bullies in the Workplace

@myfanwy65 (1030)
United States
March 10, 2008 2:37pm CST
How do you handle them? I have no idea. I've never had to deal with this before. But, there is a woman where I work who is ordering me around and chewing me out all the time. She is not my supervisor and has no authority over me. I can't handle this type of confrontation. It is giving me anxiety attacks.
4 responses
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I would take her aside and quietly tell her without anyone around that you dont need her advise or guidance and that if you do you will ask her. Also throw in that you appreciate her interest in you. This may sound like an odd way to handle it but in doing this you might actually put her in a corner and she will be astounded that you would say that. The key is not to get mad (she wins) and to treat her professionally(you win). The only other thing you could do would be to go to your supervisor, again quietly and ask her if this person being considered for a supervisor position. Don't be upset, just curious, if your supervisor asks why you ask that you can just say that the woman is taking on that role. In handling the situation this way you always come out on top. It may not really change anything but you will be looked at differently.
@aseretdd (13732)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I experienced a lot of bullies when i was still working abroad... i was considered as the lowest of the low because of my race and gender... but that did not stop me from keeping my ground... at first... i tried to ignore them... but when they became too much to handle... i showed the boss in a quite tricky way how i am being treated... and after that... they mellowed down... So if the one bullying you is not a supervisor... and is really bothering you... try to devise a way in which her actions will be caught by the supervisor or manager... and hopefully... they will help you... Just keep strong...
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
10 Mar 08
I stand up to bullies and don't let them push me around. I would get in her face one day and tell her in a quiet calm voice that I am not going to play her games and if she doesn't like it she knows where she can put it. If she wants to quit playing games and be friends that is cool too but in the meantime I am not going to take any of her crapola.
@NeoComp (1320)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I punch them in the face! I tell them OK you wanna play rough? Let's play rough! Say hello to my little friend!