I need some advice
By julievy
@julievy (593)
United States
March 10, 2008 6:30pm CST
We have a very good friend that passed about a year ago, after an 18 month battle with cancer. The anniversary of his death is at the end of this month.
Do you think it would be appropriate for us to send some type of memorial to his wife on that day, just to remind her that we understand how she feels and that we're thinking about her?
What do you think would be appropriate to send? Some pictures that we have of them? Flowers? A Card? I would appreciate any suggestions!
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9 responses
@julievy (593)
• United States
11 Mar 08
I was wondering about the photos.... I should probably skip that for now huh? We've travelled together quite a bit and I have a lot of good ones, but I think I'll just save them for some other time.
Thank you for your most excellent response!
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@superbren (856)
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11 Mar 08
The first anniversary is always tough and for someone to remember it is so nice.You could place some flowers on his restinb place and add a little poem.I'm sure she will be glad that you haven't forgotten him.
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@julievy (593)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Thank you for your advice! I did order flowers yesterday, to be delivered to their home on the appropriate day. I ordered a boquet of bright yellow roses and lillies. I wanted something with a sunny happy color to make her smile. Hopefully she'll bring a few of them to the cemetary.
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
11 Mar 08
Hi,
I would do flowers and a card. Something simple though just as a reminder that you are still there if she needs someone to talk to.
Hope this helps
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
11 Mar 08
it all depends if you have been in constant touch with his wife a letter or card might be nice but if not then I would donate the money that would have been spent on cards flowers to a charity that assists and helps cancer victims.If you have not kept in touch she might have felt abandoned even with all your good intentions
@julievy (593)
• United States
11 Mar 08
We have kept in touch with her Robin, and we'd love to see her again. I will definitely send a card and flowers, unless i can talk her into flying up here.
My husband had a bout with cancer over the past couple of months, and she has been my constant source of comfort and information. We've become even closer in the last year! We surely want to do something special to remember her on this difficult anniversary.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I think that flowers and a card would be nice and it would let her know that you, too, miss him as well. I think it is a very commendable thing to do and i respect you for thinking of this man and his wife like this and wanting to do something to show that you care. God bless you
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@dtroas (479)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I would and have done things like that
in the past, that lets them know that you care
you understand the hurt with them. And to just honor that
person even know they have passed on. I would do whatever you
want to do. That shows you are a loyal caring friend.
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@2btrueinu (700)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
A card would be nice to express how you feel. But if you have enough time you could drop by to their house maybe there a little celebration on the memory of her love one you can celebrate with them. By doing that they will know you really care. It doesn't matter what to give all was appreciated but thought really stay in the heart.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Mar 08
sending pictures with him can add the saddest moment of his wife, so don't send her any picture..you can send card and flowers with comforting message that will make her valued. or you can call here asking her about what her feelings at that moment.
@amit12bara (3)
• India
11 Mar 08
I understand how it feels when the person who has been so close in our lives and has been a part of our sorrows and happiness is now resting in peace forever. Well, as a well wisher, I suggest you not to send any pictures to his wife as it will bring alive all those memories back in her mind which might trouble her all the more. Instead, I suggest that you all may go to her place on the anniversary as she will feel better by all your presence in this moment. It will make her feel mentally strong that she is not alone.
