I need you back.....
By gabrielle47
@gabrielle47 (1219)
Philippines
March 11, 2008 2:04am CST
Have you ever been in a situtation wherein you have broken up with your girlfriend or boyfriend and later realize you still love him or her?
Then after time have passed you realize you still love him/her and want or need him/her back? Thinking it was best for both of you to part ways because you are so hurting and difficult for you to be in the relationship thats why you bid goodbye?
But then at some point you realize all is too late to get the one you love back and ask forgiveness just for you to get back?
It has happened to me to different situations but then thinking what would be the best. Yes, altough painful, I have to let him go because...
1) I dont want him to hurt me again and again having realized that I was already being emotionally abused,
2) I discovered he was chaeting on me
3) Many other people will suffer (he was married)
Well, dont get me wrong as these happened in different circumstances to different people. But I guess it was worth the experience as It made me stronger.
Have you been in so such painful and difficult situation?
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13 responses
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
11 Mar 08
i've never been in this situation before thankfully. someone once said the heart can be treachrous,thats why we have our head. i think that means that what the heart want's may not be what's best. sometimes we need to just let the heart grieve but continue to move forward with our live's.... just something for you to think about.
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@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Thanks dragonfly for the wisdom. Nicely said. Yes, as they say, we have to think more than let the heart rule in most cases and its the reason why the head is placed above the heart.
Well, I have learned to move on forward with my life and think better.
@Poneet (40)
•
11 Mar 08
wat happen is......."we alwaz run for dat thng wich do nt care 4 us at all.......n dnt luk at wat actually we hav(happy moments)".........so moral of story u hav 2 change ur attitude..........even i also being in dese situation.........rght nw am goin thru sme of ur condition............lolz.........
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@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Thanks again Poneet. I have been wiser and smarter when things like this happen and I try to hold back my feelings and assess it.
It gave me a laugh there when you were serious at first then finding out you are also in that situation. LOL. Well i guess its hard to forget the person we have known to love. Be strong and you will get through also.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
11 Mar 08
i think its a mixed kind of situation.
you are already cheated by him and you have broken up.
But still you wants the live back. actually it is not rare also.
you loved him truly and the break up is not at all due to you.
but be sure what he did to you before making any decision to get him back.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Thanks Subha for your insights and advice, those things I enumerated happened for different men and not a single one. But yes it sometimes takes time to let go of your feelings when you have fallen in love with the person who have hurt you.
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Break ups are always hard, but so are abusive relationships, and on-again-off-again relationships. They can all be very mentally draining. Sometimes you're in a bad relationship and you know you're in a bad relationship, so it ends, but once they're gone, your mind kind of blacks out all of the bad and focuses on the good, thus making you miss the person. This can be bad, because if you take action and get them back, and it goes bad again, and it's ended again, it can turn into a cycle. And something like that is never healthy for either party involved. The best thing you can do is count your losses, be glad you got away with whatever you did and start moving on. Stay positive and learn how to live as an individual, as a whole, instead of as a couple and as half of a whole.
@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Thanks Samanthavv. Nicely said. Well yes sometimes when we miss the person and the "rituals" or usual things you do together that you start to miss, you also start to miss the person.
True, if you still love the person, you sometimes focus on the good things and not see the bad things. Im still lucky that I dont always end up in a bad vicious cycle of a bad relationship.
Its a good thing to check if after all, will you still be happy with the person or not and will it still be worth it to be in the relationship and fight for it?
@Poneet (40)
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11 Mar 08
okay....i think its a part of life......u r nt only person in dis world who r goin thru dis pain.......luk dere's alwaz two effect positive n negative..........u r getting hurt.....bt on other hand u r getting strong n n gettng 2 knw hw world works..............
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@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Yes thanks Poneet. Yes I believe and always see the situation and learn much from it. And in this sense, it makes me a stronger, wiser person in the next relation I will be in.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
It says that... it is easy to say it's over but hard to let go... don't look behind to keep you moving...If the intense of love is there even though it is forbidden, you will go through it... even though we have our head above our heart... we still unable to use it to do the right thing.... But you should know your limitations and ask your self who is your priority... Then you will realize that soon time will heal everything and it is easy to go...
@afternoontea (1005)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 08
Oh I like this discussion because this really hapened to me. I was in love my bf and we are having a very nice relationship for almost 2 year when we decided to finish it because both of our parents don't agree with our relationship. In my country you can't ignore your parents and family response otherwise you'll be in trouble. After 2 months I realize that I still love him badly and want him back to me, and thankfully he feel the same way too.. However we are still facing the same problem; our parents. We are coming from different ethnic and background and therefore our parents don't want us to be together.
For goodwilling, we split again and I feel the broken heart for such a long time. I feel like he dont want to face any problem together with me and I started to hate him, but deep in my heart still I love him and regret that we have to broke up for that reason.
After years passing by, I realize that there's no use I want him back. He maybe don't want to be with me again. so step by step I just let him go of my heart...
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
I think everyone has been in a situation similar to this. I know when I broke up with my husband, now my ex-husband, I questioned myself so many times, that I did call him and take him back more than once. But every time I took him back he would be good for about a month and then I would catch him cheating on me again. This yoyo marriage I was in went on for about 3 years and after about the 10th time of him cheating on me, I finally gave up and divorced him. But even after our divorce I thought about him all the time because I still loved him for a very long time after. I finally went to a councillor and she helped me to get over him. I then learned to have more respect for myself and learned that I deserved better than what I was getting. So life went on.
@gxnfly (1147)
• China
12 Mar 08
I thing once you broke ,you never go back.You broke up for an reason that can't be avoid.Even if you feel like that you still love him ,that doesn't mean you can make it work again.Being a ralationship,you spend most of the time together,that ralationship can be complicated as time goes.When you broke up with some one ,you feel like you still love him,that's quite comman, End up a ralarionship is hard for you,so you are still painful .Maybe after a few years or even a couple of weeks you will get over him.
That man you loved is just friend,that's all.
@fossesor (268)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
I agree that past experience made us stronger. we can face another day because we change. We change because of the things happen to us. I've been in the situation quite similar to you, There comes a time that you'll realized that you still not over to them but It is not the same feeling you felt before. (it happens to me) bu I believed thats theres so much stories In a different people for a different views in your discussion..
@spiderknight (54)
• China
12 Mar 08
I am sorry for the girl I ever hurt , and then may you happy everyday
@JpMuhlach (10)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
Well gabrielle,its alright, always remember things happens for a reaon, everything has a purpose. changes will always come our way may it be good or bad, what happened to you is just part of life and reality. You will still be in love and get hurt again its a cyle thats why when we fall in love we always take the risk the risk of getting hurt. But hey life is not always hardships there will be a brighter future ahead of you. just remeber if you fall in love again just make sure that its for keeps now. its not how many times you fall but its how high you stand up. God bless!
