how do you forget someone you once love dearly?

Philippines
March 13, 2008 12:27pm CST
Call me weird but true, its been way back years since the relationship ended and yet here I am.....i've moved on i guess, but since the 5 year old relationship ended, i've never loved the same. now, 8 years had passed, and i cant help but still wonder, what had really happen? We both have different lives now and still i think of him once in awhile, i hate myself for doing this, but i still end up wondering.....I know its not healthy, but what can i do? I'm not hoping for anything, i just hope maybe we could talk, maybe things would get better, i know he could never be mine, not before, not now,i just need the peace of mind,enlighten me please?
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10 responses
@lateesha (94)
14 Mar 08
well giving up on somebody u once loved or still love is not easy no matter if you move on i think that person will always be with you i feel like that sometimes even if i try to 4et i cant thats wat makes me so confused sometimes
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
A friend once told that once you are confuse, there's no denying that you still love that person, giving up is a matter of choice and circumstances, but keep this in mind, there's no such thing as too late if you decide to fight for it. Unluckily, on my part-i choose the other way, to set him free.
22 Sep 08
I don't think that there is not such thing as not giving up when that person as clearly moved on and doesn't feel the same way about you. It's one of the worst pains but thinking that u still can't get back together the only things it does is not letting you move on.. it can become into something obsessive and distorted where you feel that person was just perfect and just think about the good times and not also all the problems that made that relationship finish.. believe am.. just going through that phase now
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
14 Mar 08
That for sure is not possible-it doesnt matter whether the love was there or not between you, couldnt possibly ever forget some one you loved-if you ever forgot, then either the person has changed shape beyond recognition or your yourself could have lost vision!
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
hi:)You response made me smile, i guess what i really mean is forget the feeling, cause i know i cant forget the person whatever i do,though both is hard you know:)If i were to loose my vision, still it aint possible, since in loving, the eyesight go beyond more, the heart would be your eyes to see your love through:)
@subha12 (18452)
• India
14 Mar 08
it is very hard question i guess. i think most of the people have tried the same after they broke up but unable to forget that person. Many thinks or pretend that they are able to forget, but somehow it remains in the heart. Try to engage in activities that will keep you focus on other things,
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
The ultimate cover, they call it pride. Seldom we humans admit that we're hurt but instead we make a cover, opposite of what we really feel deep inside.True, high time for me to go back to reality:)thanks for the advise
@GreenMoo (11837)
14 Mar 08
I don't think you ever do forget someone you once loved dearly. But over time it does fade. I think you just have to look back on this love with fond memories, and remember how lucky you were to have had this experience in your life. Wondering is one thing, but I don't think trrying to push a meeting is a really good idea. I think you'd just be disappointed & your memories will be sweeter without.
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
yeah you're right, you never forget the memory, its a part of a person, may the experience be good or bad, the important part of it is we all learn from it.I guess, the meeting is just one of my wild imaginations, i guess i just simply had to let go of all the wonderings for me to start anew.wish me luck.
• India
6 Apr 08
hi...i also dropped my love one year before....it was just because of our parents problem
@cripfemme (7713)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I get relate. One of my ex's is a good friend, but it's really hard to get over someone when they still play a role in your life.
• Philippines
14 Mar 08
You are not alone with what you are feeling. Maybe because, if you really loved somebody and that relationship lasted for many years, it would not be easy to forget the person. Just let the process of healing and you see that one day, you may still remember in your head the person you once loved before...but your heart would have forgotten how you dearly loved that person once before.
@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
14 Mar 08
You need to forget him or her altogether. You need to destroy everything which might be related to him/her directly or indirectly. Where there is a will, there is way.
@rohit0471 (195)
• India
14 Mar 08
i still dont know.
@azahari33 (221)
• Malaysia
14 Mar 08
I don't think you could ever forget someone you once love dearly. I'm gave up on trying and it's only been 4 years since we divorced. I still think of her once in a while and i sometimes hope she thinks of me too. For a while after the divorce i was hoping that we'd get back together again, but after some time, those hopes faded. Time to move on. Now i, once in a while, whenever i think of her, i try to think of the good times we had.