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Teens can me a headache, I understand! Our oldest is 17 and you can go back through my discussionsand see all sorts of issues! He hated getting up early to meet the school bus at 7am for a 80 minute bus ride so his mom and step dad bought him a $500 truck with the understanding that he got a job. He got a job but still can't pay for anything but gas because he doesn't get many hours and drives all over the place since it's his truck and he thinks he can do whatever he wants with it. All his running around made it harder to get up for school so he more or less quit going. We took away everything but his truck as punishment and told him no school, no work. That worked for about a week but it was too late and the school was threatening to kick him out anyway for poor attendence...he figured why bother going and stayed home until they made it official. It's been a few weeks, he still hardly works, still runs all over with his friends whenever he wants and nothing we say matters. You son sounds a lot like ours...he expects the world to revolve around him and wants to get his way at all costs. I'd love to say it's a phase that will pass but ours has been like this for as long as I've known him. I just wish I'd stepped in sooner since he does seem to respond to me more than the others raising him. I know it's not advice, I just wanted to give you some support. I know how hard it can be!

Oh I know that feeling! My son is 14 and he seemed to change overnight round about 12! Luckily he still behaved at school though did let things slip a little! All the hormonal, physical and emotional changes are hard and I know that whilst you moved for his benefit it is yet another change to deal with! My advice to you is to draw up rules and stick to them - if you start to give in to him he will grow to expect it and throw even more tantrums til he gets his own way I know it is extremely difficult and frustrating - there were many times that I was in tears over my sons attitude and behaviour and everyone kept on telling me it would only get worse and would last for years! Well sweety there is light at the end of the tunnel, my sons behaviour has improved dramatically, he still has strops and attitude, he still throws occasional tantrums but they are usually far less often, not as bad and fade out much quicker than they used to! I talk to my son and he knows he can talk to me about anything, no matter what it is and I know for a fact that some of these talks have helped him tremendously! Don't give up hope sweety, stay strong, stay consistent and stay yourself - things will get better - I promise! xxx

My oldest is a teenager now (he'll be 15 in Oct) and we live out in the country...a good 15 miles from his school friends which of course is an issue (for both my kids actually) but we do our best to comprimise..For example I have no problem him staying after school for open gym and takign the second bus home..or him having a friend over for the weekend etc etc... My boy didnt really change any once he became a teen though..I mean he tried to push the limits and I put a stop to it...We do bump heads on occasion but its rare and when it happens we sort it out pretty fast...We also have a very open and honest relationship and talk about everything so when we DO have a disagreement or bump heads we talk it out and find some sort of middle ground... Other than telling you that, I really dont knwo what to tell you...Wish I did..hopefully you can talk it out with him maybe and work out some sort of arrangement....

How old is your son?. i will start by asking that... then i will think what i think might work for him...

hi friend. most teenagers push and try to move boundries.they break laws to see how much they can get away with. as parents this can be a challenge. most kids rebel at one time or another. while it is good to give our kids some room to grow and manage their live's without us, we should also insist that they respect house rules. no matter what we do our kids will say we're to strict i hear it all the time. but if trying to protect them makes me strict then so be it.remember they will try emotional blackmail...you must stand firm in the knowlege that you know what's best for him. and only has his best intrest at heart. but look on the bright side although it dose'nt seem like it now things will get better. i wish you the best of luck.