Do you enjoy being alone?

@gxnfly (1147)
China
March 15, 2008 10:21pm CST
Haved you enjoyed being alone?I do enjoy being alone most of the time. I think it's for the best when I am alone and nobody diturbs me from what I am doing.I can do whatever I want.Now I am working on something I want to do in my life ,I need to be alone for a long time.I don't contact with my friend,I just want to succeed as fast as I can.So I work as hard as I can ,sometimes even don't say a word the whole. Yes ,you may ask,do I feel lonely?Yes,I do,sometimes,I felt that I am isolating from outside.But I have made my choice,this career is what I want in my life,I just started I have a lot to learn,so I don't have time for anything else.I take this motto by my side,Sometimes You Need To Be Alone To Go After Your Dream,So You Just Enjoy Being Alone. I believe in myself ,I can succeed one day. So ,What 's up in your mind?
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@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
16 Mar 08
I like being alone, and I need to be alone a lot. But I also like to be with my friends and family. But my situation is such that I cannot be with them as much as I want to. A mix is the best in my mind. having the choise. beeing forced either way is not good.
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@gxnfly (1147)
• China
16 Mar 08
Yes ,I think you are right.Mix is the best,but sometimes we don't have a choice
@angeljenn (894)
• Zaragoza, Spain
16 Mar 08
hello there to U...yes, i do enjoy being alone...i love being all alone actually...just all by myself...but i have so many friends, and i'm working, so i really have no time for being all alone... I enjoyed working a lot, and i really love my job...but there are moments and times that i really wanted to be alone... Being alone sometimes is lonely...yes, it's true, you can do whatever you want when you're alone...but being lonely isn't really good...as the saying goes, "No one is an island." About you case, it's pretty understandable, because you really enjoyed being alone without anyone disturbing you...and you really want to be successful in life... People have different views and opinions in life, and i do respect your views regarding about being alone...being alone is really cool sometimes, but we really need friends and family beside us to guide us and help us... I hope you'll be successful in life and you'll find what you really want in life...enjoy life...have a blessed day ahead of U...may GOD BLESS U & UR family always!!!
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
16 Mar 08
there are many times that i would just love to be alone for even five minutes to myself. i really do enjoy that time by myself, whether it's to get my house completely spottless or to just be able to sit down an watch a movie all the through without having someone wantig me to do something for them all the time. it's very relaxing to me. i'm sorry i've misspelled so many words on here, but i am utterly exhausted. God bless
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• Hong Kong
16 Mar 08
Are you an aritist, a programmer, a writer, or even a professional SOHO? As far as I know, those kind of jobs always make people live a lonely life, I mean, when they are working, they usually try to find a lonely place without any disturbance. As for me, sometimes I enjoy being alone. Stay in my room, reading my favorite books, watching TV, listening Music, or enjoying some classic movies, or even doing nothing. Also, sometimes, on the weekend, I like wandering around this city alone, walking or taking a bus, without a destination in my mind. I always think that's a kind of life experience, and people need some lonely time. However, I can't go through a long-time lonely life. we human beings prefer living together in our own nature, and that's why we have built so many villiages, cities, and countries. we need to communicate with others, and feel their response to us, love,friendship,even hate. I can enjoy being alone if I don't feel lonely. but when I have some kind of lonely feeling, I'll choose to stay with my familly, or have a noisy party with my friends. have a nice day!
@gxnfly (1147)
• China
16 Mar 08
I think I can call myself a SOHO,I just started my SOHO life and am enjoying it.I think it's cool. It's not easy for the beginning,but I never feel frustrated.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
Hey good luck in your endeavor! I'm quite a loner myself, but I do pursue a woman when I'm in love with her. I take care of my family so I spend a lot of time with them. I don't make the first contact with my friends to go out with them. They're the ones who contact me. Otherwise I don't see them for a long time.
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• Canada
16 Mar 08
Hello gxnfly, You might simply be an 'introvert,' which has nothing to do with whether or not you enjoy being with people or not. Being and extrovert or introvert has more to do with how you re-energize yourself throughout life's happenings. Extroverts typically feel energized when they are with people and they often 'think better' bouncing ideas to and from themselves and others. Introverts typically feel energized by being by themselves, recflecting upon things, sort of like a solitary re-boot, if you will. While extroverts are often at their best with others and feel energized by conversations and activities, introverts, if set in a 'people' scenario for too long, tend to feel like their thoughts are becoming 'muddled,' and they will often feel literally and physically drained by being in large crowds for too long. I like being by myself quite often now, and I don't sweat anymore about what people say about this. I thought I was an extrovert for over 20 years and didn't truly understand the differences between extroversion and introversion. I thought one meant 'likes people' and the other meant 'doesn't like being with people,' however, 'preference' doesn't have much to do with whether or not you are one way or the other. Also, all people have varying degrees of both dynamics in their personality, but the deciding factor is found by figuring out, "how do you collect yourself, regroup, re-energize youself?" I must have 'extended' myself for over 20 years, learning from a child, how to be extroverted in a family that primarily values togetherness and extrovertedness. I think in my family, introvertedness might be mistaken for 'depression,' 'moodiness,' 'dislikes people,' and other negative things. Truly, it was only about 4 years ago that I learned I am an introvert, but I totally believed otherwise up until this discovery which was made while I was studying 'personality' in a University classroom. I'm glad I know this stuff now, however, because when I start to feel drained, I take a look at whether or not I've taken time for myself, and if the answer is no, and I still have to be around people, I can simply plan a quick walk by myself to regroup my thoughts, no matter where I am at - even if I cannot actually return 'home' to wind-down. If more people understood the dynamics of introverted and extroverted features of personality, I think a lot of people would be less stressed. Even an extra walk to the water cooler, alone, during a hectic office business day where someone is enduring large meeting groups, is enough to make an introvert feel more energized. I wonder, gxnfly, if you are really isolating from the outside world or not...perhaps people are telling you that you're isolating because they are used to you being out and about more. If your 'alone-ness' has something to do with career or life event choice, maybe you're not 'isolating' per se - perhaps you're just doing short-term intense focus on something and people will have to come around to your way of thinking. I hope that you succeed soon in your endeavors, whatever these are.
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• China
16 Mar 08
I really admire your courage and aspiration. and i like your motto that "You need to be alone to go after your dream",just like the saying "genius are always alone". i think it's meaningful in some way. For me, i think i don't like being alone in my daily life, but if i have something important task to finish ,i can stand and enjoy being alone for the time being.
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I enjoy being alone quite often! As a parent, I do not get the same amount of opportunities to be alone as I did when I was not a parent! I enjoy reading, going for a long, quiet walk, or doing stuff on the computer alone when I do get the chance!It is good for me, so I can meditate while having "me" time too!
@aims179 (25)
• United States
16 Mar 08
no i have always hated being alone. no matter where im at or where im going i have to be with someone or with a group of others.
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@rhane7315 (5670)
• Philippines
13 May 08
it depends on my mood. sometimes i just want to be alone but i don't feel lonely about being alone. but when i'm going outside the house like shopping or watching movies, i prefer for not being alone
@Angel3yes (455)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I absolutely LOVE being alone. I feel like everything gets done twenty times faster when I am alone. Also, when I am alone, I feel so free to do anything I want without having to please anyone else that is around me. It's like a day or complete freedome. I never valued my alone time as much as I do now. My fiancee had a bone marrow transplant eight months ago and I am his caregiver, he isn't allowed to be left alone AT ALL and that means we are around each other twenty four hours a day. I can't even work and neither can he. After a while, you realize how precious your alone time truly is.
• United States
18 Mar 08
I really do enjoy being alone. I work from home and am alone from 8:30 to 6:30 every day. It's really nice because I can get so much done. But it is also nice to take a day or two off every week and hang out with my parents, my husband, or my friends. Being alone is okay but sometimes you also need to be around people.
@siZidni (1860)
• Indonesia
17 Mar 08
i enjoy it. sometimes i really need my time for being alone. and while i am alone i love hearing soft music to calm my heart.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
17 Mar 08
This sounds like you - because you sound very ambisious which is a good thing but don't forget your friends, you may need them one day
Everyone needs time alone at one point or another in their lives so they can get their thoughts and feeling together but to be alone all the time isn't healthy. I'd rather have my husband by my side more times than not.
@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
yes, i do like being alone. sometimes it is peaceful that way... i can do whatever i want to do and no one will mind me. hehe i liked being independent at times.
@edaabby (134)
• Malaysia
17 Mar 08
i have enjoyed being alone but just in bedroom...hehehe...this is because i live with my friend...i sleep, reading without any disturb from my housemate. I feel lonely when i'm alone because before this i live with my big family. I hope u can achieve your dream and not alone in the future...
@karma118 (294)
• United States
17 Mar 08
you know, sometimes I will lock myself in the bathroom just to be by myself. I ABSOLUTLEY appreciate my alone time. It's hard to keep up with friends, relatives and hell, everything else that you have to do in life as it is. I think our minds just need a break every now and then ya know? And sometimes it just takes longer to get your mind back on track. You do what you have to do and if that's good enough for you, it should be good enough for the people who know you.
17 Mar 08
Being alone is good when you really wanna concentrate on something but i think some of us get carried away and forget about the outside world, the world that we are apart of and belong in...its happened to me when i am going through a hard time i shut myself away but by doing this i am also pushing people away with my none communication, for that momment you forget others but they dont forget you...Its good being alone but dont do it to the point you will resent it..x
• United States
16 Mar 08
I really love being alone but not many of the people I hang around with understand that. When I'm out with friends I don't always feel like I can ever completely relax. Maybe it's my friends or something, but I just like being alone. I don't eat in the cafeteria during lunch. Instead, I go to the library. If I'm invited out, I make up an excuse. I think I'm just really anti-social, lol. I know it will end up being a detriment to me, and like you said, it does get lonely, but I just prefer it. I like having myself and only myself.
@sugarfloss (2140)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 08
hello gxnfly!I enjoy being alone a lot!Infact,if I can't get some alone time,I'll get very cranky.I don't feel lonely,I mean I don't stay home all the time,sometimes I'll meet up with close friends but just like you,gxnfly,I dream,I work better when I'm alone and I strive to achieve!