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Who wears the pants in your relationship? Or do you both wear the pants, lol??
By kiran1978
@kiran1978 (4134)
Australia
March 16, 2008 6:17am CST
Sadly, I hate to admit this, but I think my partner wears the pants in my relationship. If he does not want to do something or go somewhere then he does not do it. There is no convincing him, he can be very stubborn at times. I tend to go along with him most of the times. Plus he always seems to be nagging me lol, about the simplest little things, most of the time I just go along with it just to keep peace could not be bothered arguing about silly things such as who left the door open. It is funny in past relationships I always thought I wore the pants, lol, but now the situation has reversed. I need to get my pants back. 
How about you, who wears the pants in your relationship? Why is this, or is it equal? Ideally the perfect relationships of course, noone would wear the pants, however I find it is common for one partner to be more dominating then the other in a realtionship.
How about you, who wears the pants in your relationship? Why is this, or is it equal? Ideally the perfect relationships of course, noone would wear the pants, however I find it is common for one partner to be more dominating then the other in a realtionship.5 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
18 Mar 08
You know what? I got thinking and I can't really answer this question. I THINK my husband wears the the pants in our relationship (which I do not like...'I want my pants back'!) ...but if you ask him, he would say that I'm the one who wears the pants in the relationship.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
18 Mar 08
lol..it's because we are always arguing about the same thing....he thinks I get my way with everything and I think he does.
You know what....I think no one wears the pants in this house!!!
We both are still pulling at it...it's going tear down the middle one of these days...and I think I'd like that better than either one of us wearing it...rofl.
We both are still pulling at it...it's going tear down the middle one of these days...and I think I'd like that better than either one of us wearing it...rofl.@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
18 Mar 08
I am with you, I want my pants back too, lol. How dare they steal them off us. IT is funny how you said, that your husband would think that you wear the pants. I guess it is from what angle you look at it. For example -If it comes to running the house, you probably wear the pants there??? (guessing) Why is it that you think your hubby thinks you may wear the pants?
@ciciwillio (79)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I do. although somtime I relly wish that I did not i hate haviong to make sure things are done and all that jaz. I'm just afrid that if I let up on him life would fall apart because he seems to need a great deal of direction.
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
18 Mar 08
That would be tough for you having to make all decisions on your own. Hope your parnter/hubby finds some direction. I think sometimes partners can become so dependent on their partner doing everything for them, that they forget how to make decisions, lol. Thanks for your response.
@littleowl (7157)
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17 Mar 08
hi kiran-i am just thankful i'm not married now-but i wore the pants in my marriage and my husband just took the yes dear approach-in a sense it was good but at the same time i found it annoying cos he could be stubborn and go the other way but most of the time he was like a doormat! not that i treated him like it! theone thing we didnt like doing though is arguing over petty things-i was in a relationship like that and it made me feel like i was walking on glass all the time and that was awful i just felt i couldn't do anything my partner at that time even chose whom i could be friends with!--I really hope things work out for you-you are in my thoughts--blessings littleowl
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
Thanks littleowl, my relationship is okay, don't worry about me. Just thought I would share in this discussion about who wears the pants in my relationship, find it interesting. Yes I agree with you it is not good either when men just agree to everything you say, that can become pretty boring and dull. I have had that before too in previous relationships. I have also had very violent relationships where I was always walking on eggshells, it was no way to live. That is not good that your ex tried to choose your friends, they won't win that battle. I have learnt that lesson too. Good friends are hard to come by, no partner should ever make you choose. Thanks for your response littleowl. @joy_03 (26)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
it should always be equal. we talked about everything after alll that is we called as partners. in every decision each of us should have a voice specially when the relationship will be affected.
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
Yes I agree with you Joy, it should be equal and that would be so nice. I have tried to make my relationship equal however it does not seem to go that way. Thanks for your response.
@axle_shockhits (460)
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16 Mar 08
to be honest, i think the wife wears the boxer shorts in our house. she lets me win the token discession making but in general she rules the roost.
when it comes to tv viewing, my 6 year old daughter wears the pants!
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
Hi axle, thanks for your honesty, it takes a brave man, lol, to admit that his wife rules the roost. I know what you mean about your children ruling the tv, my 3 year old wears the pants with decisions about the tv too, Dora the Explorer always wins!!! Thanks for your response.