Sign/s: How would you know if he/she's the right one?

Its such a tough decision of committing a lifetime to someone. Sometime in the past, I thought a person I was with was the right one for me. Out of being so young and irrational, I even thought to have a lifetime commitment with him. Thanks to a friend who gave an advice not to rush things and think billion times before I decide on such serious matter. A year or so after I separated ways with that person. I am at present engaged to someone I love most. I feel it in my heart that he is the one. A life without him is nothing. I decided on this matter with God's guidance. I am not deciding neither on impulse nor on emotion. This time, I asked God's guidance and considered some factors.

Hi in answer to your question it is very hard to answer as my first marriage I got married in the church and that was in front of God but that dose not mean anything to the vows you repeat to each other, I would say about 30% cases they will end up in divorce or maybe more. My 2nd marriage ended up the same you still same the same vows even if you don't get married in a church. In this case we lived together for 5 years and it was great but soon as the papers were signed it started to go bad and my wife was looking for other men.After I thought I had found the right one second time around after living together for 5 years you would think it would last. My advise to you try living together first see how that goes and maybe you will have better luck than me. Ralph

Committment is something that so many people are afraid of. No matter how much you think you aren't in the beginning. When that day comes you don't know what to do with yourself. I wish I could say my boyfriend and I will spend the rest of our lives together but I just don't know. Things are amazing now, and we have that "Too good to be true" relationship.. But neither of us know. No matter how much we talk about it, neither of us know how far we're gonna go. Or how long we're going to last. Or if it's going to stay as strong as it is. Marriage is such a serious committment and I'm so scared of it. I think for the most part, the guy I'm seeing now IS "The one", but something could always change. Every day is new and I'm always terrified that someone's gonna come along and that'll be the end. When you know he or she is the right one.. I think you just feel it. There are no signs, you just know.

I believe in destiny.Love is not finding the right person.nor waiting,..LOve will come in the right time.And you will not know that.Time will come that you will just realize that that was your right one.

Ive been in 4 serious relationships for the past 12 years of my life and now looking back, I believe, to know if the person is the right one for you is when you realize yourself if you can be the right one for that person too.. Because most of the time, we just think of ourselves when we are in a relationship, whether we are happy with this person, if this person makes us feel special, treats us well to our expectation. But did it ever occurr to us to ask the same questions to ourselves? I believe that its better to CHOOSE if the person is the right one for you than to know, because you will never know..If you choose him/her to be the right one for you, no matter what circumstances you are both in, you will find a way to compromise and make it work and at the end you will find yourselves perfect together. But if you think you know that he/she's the one, when conflicts arise you will tend to assume that that person is not the one for you because he didnt meet up to your expectations.It takes a lot of work to make a relationship/marriage last, dont expect the person to come to you wrapped perfectly for you..

Personally I think that every time people enter into an intimate relationship, there's a period that can last weeks or months in which a kind of irrational elation is felt. Once everyone in the relationship is over this feeling that's when everyone can be themselves and true emotions surface. Hence why newer relationships have less problems than older relationships. For this reason I think getting married is something that shouldn't be approached too quickly. Everyone must feel comfortable, you must be able to live with that person day in and day out and be willing to accept that everyone involved is human, and nothing but. I know what it feels like to love someone- if you've found a good mate then you will too. Keep in mind that in this day and age we have to be careful as divorce rates are higher than ever and separating possessions might be a less loyal, but more financially responsible, route to take if marriage ensues. Good luck!

Honestly, you don't know and you can't know. You do your best to assess the situation, think about what you want and how you want your life to be and try to make it, but you can never actually know. Life happens, things change, you may not be the same person you are now ten years down the road. Choosing a partner is like educated betting. Some people get lucky, some people don't. I think I've found the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. And we are getting married, in two months. But I'm not a fortune teller. I don't know what the future may bring. I don't want to lose him, I don't want to break up, or get a divorce, but you never know what might happen.