a 3 year old and a 19 month old sharing a room

I don't know if this is a possiblity for you but I raised 4 girls and often bedrooms had to be shared which meant little sleep for anyone. What about an air mattress. They could still share the room but when it came time for bed, how about putting the little one in the room and the 3 yr old in the living room or your room on an air mattress? If you place him in the living room of course, then you can't have the tv on or maybe you could plug in a movie and turn the lights down for him. Once you have the baby to bed, if you cuddled with him on the couch and read him a book and then firmly told him it was now bed time and he had to be quiet or the tv went off and put in the movie, i'll bet he'll be out in no time. You have to stick to it tho...if he acts out...no movie.

Michelyn posted exactly what I was going to say. But, I am responding anyway to let you know it is what will work. It will be a long night for you, or several nights, but well worth it in the end. You can either sit right in the room or go in each time they get out of bed. Personally I prefer sitting in the room because otherwise I would get in the middle of something and let them slide for a few minutes- BAD BAD BAD! You will find you have to sit there for less and less time until they are going to sleep right away. As far as when your child comes into your room (this is even harder!) you GET UP and take them back to their bed. Do this every time they come in even if it is 5, 6, 10 times. It will be hard...but it will work. Just make sure you are 100% committed to doing it for however long it takes because if you give in even one time it will set you back even farther. YOU CAN DO IT!!

Thats easy, Get some bedtime story books, put them in their beds, cover them up are read to them. All kids LOVE to listen to Mom reading bedtime stories. This will put them both to sleep. Turn off the light and they are away for the night. Interesting thing about kids! They will soon get attached to the stories and want you to read them over and over again. this is ok because they will go to sleep just the same.

I know exactly what you are going through. My children are a year and 11 months apart. I had a two bedroom townhouse so they had to share a room. It seemed impossible! They would just NOT go to bed. If one started falling asleep, the other one would tackle them or throw a toy at them. I would be up all hours of the night, crying and tearing my hair out. It finally took sitting in the doorway to their room and everytime one got up, I would have to grab them and lay them back down and tell them it's "bedtime". Eventually, one by one, they would go to sleep. After consistently doing this night after night and adding in walks before it got dark, they figured out that I meant business and fell into line. It was rough, nut it worked. I hope something like this works for you and if not, that someone else can give you one that does. It's a horrible feeling you are going through now.