Play fighting gone too far?
By katisaurus
@katisaurus (1038)
Canada
March 16, 2008 11:11pm CST
Okay, so, please don't misread this and think it was all intentional because I know it wasn't. lol
I apologize for this being so long, but if I shortened it, it would make the injury look intentional. lol
My boyfriend and I like to wrestle.. a lot. We have a very comfortable relationship and we joke around about giving eachother the beats. Last night we decided to throw down 'cause he thought I was weak and would back down easily.. I had to prove him wrong, it's what I do! So we were wrestling, and he grabbed my wrist and bent it a little too far. This about an hour and a half into it. We stopped once 'cause I had to catch my breath (I had a breathing problem; not asthma, long story. lol).. Anyway, he bent my wrist down and kept pushing, I broke right out in to tears. I've bent it down farther than that before but I don't know what happened, it hurt so much. I tapped out, and layed there holding my wrist pretty much bawling my eyes out 'cause of how bad it hurt.. I've only ever seen my boyfriend cry once, and last night, I knew even though he was hiding it that he was starting to cry! He got up after I told him I was okay, went for a walk around the house, came back downstairs and just ignored me.. When I asked what was wrong he just looked at me. I told him I was fine and he just felt so terrible, he said it didn't matter whether I was fine or if he broke my wrist, he hated himself for even just making me cry. I know he didn't mean to hurt me, we've thrown eachother around wrestling and playfighting. But after that, he was so gentle with me.. All day today too he was just so careful around me because he felt so terrible.
My wrist is fine for the most part now. It's a little sore to bend it but I can still do everything I could before. No broken bones. :) lol
Have you and your partner ever playfought so much one of you actually got hurt?
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
My fiance and I wrestle all the time. I was brought up with a bunch of guys always saying I have to stand my ground in case something were to happen and I have to hold my own. I know I am a tough one sometimes. But not all the time. You just have to know the limits that you can push with eachother. When stop or no mean to stop or no more. We have gone as far as me having a bleeding nose, broken nose, black eyes, and a broken arm (which was broken in 3 different spots right up to the elbow.) Alot of people will look at us funny and say why did you hurt her like that or something along those lines. But in reality I could of stopped it if I thought it was going to far. But they were accidents and I didn't say stop or no more.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
Oh wow.. I don't think we'll ever go as far as actually breaking bones. But as long as you make it clear to people they're accidents. 'cause I wouldn't be surprised if someone called the cops because they've seen you injured for a reason such as "play fighting" They might not believe it. We both know our limits but he knew I wasn't giving up till one of us tapped out. And he knows I would never hate him no matter how much we wrestle around. if I get hurt it's my own fault for not telling him to stop. I know I'm the weak one, but I'm the same as you, I was brought up around guys so I'm very defensive and can be tough when I wanna be.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
Yes we have to make it clear to a few of the friends. I had one of my friends pull me over to the side and say I can help you I can help you if he is beating me. That's what this person was convinced that the fiance was beating me and hardcore beating me. This person did contact the cops as well. Needless to say had to go through about 4 months of the cops the cops the cops always around so really had to be careful and what not. Some people just don't understand us and why we would want to "hurt" eachother persay. But we love play fighting and nothing is going to change that.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Sounds like you just pulled your tendons in the wrong way a little too far.
My husband and I play fight like that too. I have to fight dirty because he is so much bigger than me! 
He trains in MMA (Mixed Martial Arts) and always wants to teach me all these moves. There is a reason for weight classes! He weighs like 205 and I weigh about 98 lbs! I just can't get him to understand that even the weight of his legs weigh me down! It's funny though.
I told him yesterday to just stick to teaching me the kickboxing and boxing techniques because he is just TOO heavy to grapple with!
He trains in MMA (Mixed Martial Arts) and always wants to teach me all these moves. There is a reason for weight classes! He weighs like 205 and I weigh about 98 lbs! I just can't get him to understand that even the weight of his legs weigh me down! It's funny though.
I told him yesterday to just stick to teaching me the kickboxing and boxing techniques because he is just TOO heavy to grapple with!@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
I think so.. My wrist is fine though. It's been a little sore for a while, and I actually think I have a cyst growing there.. when I bend it down there's a little bump, only it hurts to touch it.. I think that slipped his mind when he had my wrist down trying to get me to tap.
But WOW, he's got that much on you?! That's incredible. I can just visualize it. Definitely cute.
My boyfriend's a wrestler, like highschool wrestling, and he's a football player so he could take me down in a snap. However even when he's careful with me, I'm pretty strong so he doesn't go TOO easy on me. haha. I could grapple with him but he'd probably snap me like a twig if he really put all his strength into it. lol
@subha12 (18441)
• India
17 Mar 08
i never had been into a relationship. But once i had a so called good friend. he was a little short as compared to males. we were on a trip and i just told him by a name wj=hich means short person. he was furious and hit me. But i was very much hurt by this event. after that he was sorry and was begging to me to forgive him.
I think its so sweet from your Bf's part.
@rsa101 (40976)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
I would say that he is such a sweet and loving person although he could may be well overpower you, but he is sensitive enough to sense that he went overboard with what he did to you. Well take good care of him as he is to you. So next time enjoy your time together and be aware how he could hurt you unintentionally.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
He could never over power me.. atleast not emotionally/mentally. physically he's got about 20lbs on me so he could easily take me down if I was actually trying to overpower someone else, or even him. But all our fights are playfights. We would never intentionally hurt eachother.
@muse02 (213)
• United States
17 Mar 08
My husband and I "play fight" all of the time. There was one time we decided to see who could bruise first. of course I knew it would be me, but I wanted to see if I could do make him bruise. Needless to say we both had a bruise on our arms for a week! I don't think anyone believed us that we were playing, so now he won't even play punch. We still wrestle, but no marks! LOL!!!
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
HAHA. Wow! I actually have a bit of a black eye because we were fighting. I'm not sure HOW I got it because I don't remember getting hit in the face. But it's insane. I love playfighting with my boyfriend. We're both young (I'm 18, hes almost 19) and we act like little kids so much. I'm almost afraid to go back to school tomorrow because of what people are gonna say about my eye. Especially teachers. I'll be packin' on the coverup in the mornin'!
@CheshireKat (564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
My boyfriend and I could never play fight. We pretend to punch at each other on occasion (slow motion action or kung-fu movie style, because we're strange), but as for actual wrestling around, I don't think we could do it.
Not because we aren't playful, he always is just afraid of hurting me. I'm 5'5" and rather small framed, and he's 6'2" and spends a lot of his time running or at the gym. He's terrified that he'll hurt me, and whenever he accidentally bumps me or hits me (not like actual hit, like turns around to ask me something and doesn't realize how close I am and we hit) he freaks out an apologizes, even if I repeat over and over that it doesn't hurt.
It's sometimes nice to be cared for like that, though...
It's just a bit awkward at times to feel like he thinks I'm made of glass. ^^;
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
17 Mar 08
I hate it. It might sound a little weird but I hate being treated like I'm incredibly fragile. It is nice at times, like for him to be sensitive and sweet and all that. But when he does it too much I just wanna kick him. My boyfriend's only like 5'8/5'9. I'm 5'4. But he's a football player and pretty well built so he tries to take it easy on me. He never hits me as hard as he can hit 'cause he could probably leave a mean bruise if he hit me even once, so he's still pretty gentle but he isn't like... tapping me when he hits.. When we playfight he hits me as hard as I hit him.. And I still hit pretty hard apparently.
I do understand though. If my boyfriend had that much height on me I don't think I'd want to playfight. He could probably break a bone if he got a little outta hand,lol.
