Could this be considered cheating?

Philippines
March 18, 2008 6:19am CST
My gf went on a 10 day trip with a group of friends that includes a person whom she had a past fling with. She usually goes along with this circle of friends even here in the city as she rents her office from this said guy. Of course, she's been telling me all along that nothing is happening between them anymore. Even if we have had long arguments because I was telling her to stop going with them, she defends herself by saying that she was just a friend to that lot, and nothing more, as well as to that guy. Now I don't want to be narrow minded here, but just in case, can anyone lend some insight as to whether I should believe her? Or could it be that I'm just being jealous? Any clarification would be much appreciated.
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5 responses
@omar0913 (942)
• Legaspi, Philippines
18 Mar 08
Your really are jealous bro!, If that situation comes to me, I maybe got that thinking too, so better do some detective works, but do not be caught, I do that everytime but never I got caught, I do not go where my GF go, instead I look for something in her shirts, in her face, the reactions when I ask her about their night out, do thesame bro, post it her and we'll do respond and make our judgement. To tell you frankly bro, I hate cheaters so much!!!!
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
You really think so? Weeeell... I really am not sure. But maybe there could be a 50-50 chance to it. Detective work? Probably not. If I have a need to do that over and above what usual people in a relationship do, then maybe I'll resign to the fact that our relationship will not work through. I mean, with business, work and life colliding in my daily schedule, I don't find adding some more work worth it. Because I believe I go into a relationship to be happy and to share my happiness with that person. Now if things were "unhappy," I might as well get out of the relationship and enjoy my headaches alone with my friends Remy and Martin, or their cousin Hennessy. Oh, and yeah, I agree: cheaters can go to *beep*
• India
18 Mar 08
Well i woudnt call it narrow mindedness, if i were in your situation i would also have thought about the same thing. But as she says there is just nothing going on and they are just frends..i mean all the bunch, so i guess you can trust her, but if thats making you so uncomfortable even after discussing it, you just b a bit careful and yeah you can hang out with all her frendz at least once a while and c how they behave towards each other. I say you trust her, if any thing wud b going on, it wont b long b4 you know....
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
Well said and thanks for the input. This is precisely why I wanted a female to answer, as I always seem to make a decision opposite theirs (with regards to situations like these). Here you go guys. Read through the posts and see that k_o suggests to trust my gf's word, whereas all us guys think about this situation is to be cautious. Mmmm...oh well... guess I'll weigh this into account then. On a side note, this again shows men and women really don't think alike. Now factor in the work deadlines and HR problems plus this problem... arrrr... my head hurts...
• United States
18 Mar 08
I am not quite sure what you might be. It is probably a bit of jeleousness but I mean why would you guys still be together if she is cheating on you for all that time? The only way to find out is by joining them, wherever she goes you should just join her?? I dont mean like follow her every where she goes but I mean like join the croud os friends with her... she is your girlfriend after all?! Hope this info helped!
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
I'm not sure where I am at - feeling wise. Right now, I'm just into feeling whether I could trust her some more or just let go of the situation. It is quite confusing because I think that if she really loves me, then maybe she'll concede that she need not go with them on such trips? Or would this reply just be my selfishness talking? Ugh. I don't know. As to imposing myself into their circle, I don't think I'll do that. Beside cultural differences, I simply just do not want to see that guy. He's an old rich bas---- and I could lose my temper and beat the ---- out him. I'm avoiding that situation since the beginning and I have been running this relationship on pure trust. Alas, trust that is starting to wane.
@kakayu (57)
• China
18 Mar 08
i think keeping your girl away from that guy won't be wrong.Woman always change their minds,so prevent that happen is the best thing you can do.Maybe she can understand you well after you two have a peace talk.good luck to you,man.
• Philippines
18 Mar 08
Yes. Thanks, that was actually in the back of my mind. Maybe I'll have it a go sometime.
@subha12 (18449)
• India
18 Mar 08
i think you have to consider the whole sitaution. are think and then enquire it.you really jealous?is it right?