Are you cynical and outspoken?

Ah, Cyn, only you, darlin. Very nicely worded, I must say. A joy to read. But, to your question, hmmm, defining me.... Let's start with loving, because you know that really should top the list for me, and then I'd go with (and not necessarily in this order) smart, well-read, funny, open-minded, uninhibited, well rounded, and romantic. Ok, there it is. Of course, there are infinitely more adjectives to use, but I'm not coming up with any of them right now, so I'll just go with those I've used. Feel free to add any that you'd like. :)

I know I'm outspoken, but I've been repressing the cynical side of me all my life. I had one of those deprived childhoods too. *sigh* I found release in humor. So if I had to use two words to describe myself, I'd have to say, Outspokenly funny. Most people don't get it though, so spark of insanity pretty much says the same thing, just from a different perspective. People can relate to insanity, but for some reason can have a very difficult time with outspoken humor. They get the sting of the outspokeness, but miss the twist of the humor. Are you shaking your head yet and thinking "what a nut job?" See what I mean? LOL

No Cyn, I am neither cynical nor outspoken. Cynicism I think is something which is in-born and cant be developed artificially and out-spoken requires a lot of effort from within, which I lack at this moment. I was out-spoken in my growing years when I was not bothered about the consequences of my reckless comments. But maturity has made me more dismissive (I should say) of situations and people and it has also dawned on me that I am not perfect in any way and my imperfection denies me the right to be judgmental about people. In most cases I am not soft-spoken exactly, but I just don’t bother about people around me. It’s a kind of comforting numbness as I feel that in today’s world, most people actually do not mean what they say. So I just refuse to be dragged into inane conversations and childish problems coz I know myself too well. Once I am into something, I am really into it and then I see people do not actually require or look forward to my thoughts or my inputs. Most of the time most of them just babble away coz they have nothing better to do.

YES I am most definitely. And like you, I have had to basically eat s*** my whole life. I was bullied a lot and never fought back. I didn't know how, I just was bait for them and I was a target. I had no mean bone in my body. I am struggling with this myself now, and realizing that all the feelings of anger I felt I internalized by over eating and this is why I have struggled with food. But when I don't eat to soothe my anger, I lash out, not always in the nicest way, and I will speak up, sometimes if I am really in the need to get it out I have been known to be insulting. I try to not intentionally upset people if they haven't done anything to me first but.. I have anger issues unfortunately. Going from one extreme to the next.

I agree that you will probably live longer because of it. It is not healthy to hold things in. I am on a mission to become more outspoken, but not necessarily cynical. I like to think I have a positive outlook on life and the world around me, as hard as that is sometimes. I know the world at large is going to hell in a handbag, but I like to think that my tiny piece of it is relatively unaffected by all the goings-on. Maybe I'm fooling myself. I think that I would describe myself as cautiously optimistic, but I'd like to be Satisfied and Outspoken. Though I am happy with my own life, there are people who sometimes play small parts in my life that need a good talking-to, and I'd like to be the one to do the honors. Any tips for overcoming the fear of being outspoken? I think my fear is that other people will outcast me for daring to say what everyone wants to ignore. I'm surrounded by ostriches. They just want to bury their heads in the sand and ignore problems until they go away on their own.

i used to be that way. mousey little doormat. let anyone and everyone say or do whatever it was they felt like, and hold my tongue so as to not appear mean and nasty and then go home and cry withmy mind racing over the conversations and all of the things i wished id said in response. and itd eat at me for days. not anymore.. i know that epiphanous moment and what that freedom feels like to not let others walk all over you anymore as if you have WELCOME etched into your forehead. the explosion and release of years of suppressed expression. now instead im told im too blunt, too crass.. no tact. meh.. im respected now ;nods; and more importantly, i have respect for myself. hmm, how to describe myself.. obsessive compulsive perfectionist with violent tendencies. "deleterious" awesome word btw.

I never stood up for myself and then one day it hit me! I was so tired of just taking all the put downs, etc. I don't do that now. I stand up for myself and tell him crap back. Doesn't it feel good to stand up for yourself? No one deserves to just stand there and take it. I will NEVER do that again. I have changed so much and I think that is why my relationship changed. He starts fights every once in a while and they are not little fights and says hurtful things. Well, I fire back! And I do not talk to him for a few days. He can't stand that. I define myself right now as outspoken.

I'm definately outspoken and have been for the past many yrs which is a nice change since I was always the quiet wallflower type growing up and in my teens....I say what I need to say and if ppl dont like tough t!tties LOL I'm far from being cynical though...In fact I dont think I've ever been a cynical type of person..I dont have that view of ppl or the world at all actually and could never go through my life not trusting anyone or anything to that degree..that would drive me batty..well more batty than I am I mean LOL How would I define me? Hhmm there are so many words and such little time LOL Well I'm headstrong, stubborn, entertaining, outspoken, wise, mindful, loving, cheeky, generous, talented, violent, wicked, moody, critical...just to name a few LOL

I am cynical and outspoken. In fact, most of the people who truly know me tell me that I am brutally frank. I could be polite if I had to just don't cross my borders. I also wouldn't sugar-coat anything just to please other people or just to make them feel good.

First of all, love your descriptions! Yes, I too used to be soft-spoken, even shy. I once had a co-worker say, (when I declared that I was mad as H), "you couldn't get mad if you tried." Then she laughed. Well, things changed. I am a redhead and am sure I was born with a sharp temper. But somewhere in my upbringing, I learned it wasn't nice to show it. That's when the trouble started. After I grew up, had children and got a divorce from a husband who wouldn't work in a pie factory eating pies, my temperment started to change. I went to the doctor because I was having headaches. He sent me home with prescriptions for migraines, depression and who knows what else. He said, "You know, you'd be better off if you just tell whoever is bothering you to go to H---." I took the 5 prescriptions and threw them in the trash when I got home. A few months later, I went to another doctor, convinced that I had a brain tumor. No, not a brain tumor, it was migraines. He gave me a prescription for them, and told me to tell the people who were stressing me out "to kiss my A-- 3 times a day." I got the prescription filled this time, only to find out that one of the ingredients was phenylbarbital, something I am highly allergic to. Then I started thinking... I've just had a migraine that lasted for almost 2 weeks. Why don't I just give other people headaches instead? My supervisor asked me what the doctor said. I didn't want to tell her. But she kept asking. Well, she was numero uno in the stressing me out department...so I tried my new headache remedy. I said, "He told me to tell you to "kiss my A-- three times a day and I'd feel better." She didn't say a word, just turned and went back to her office. So that was the start of my outspokenness at age 26. I try never to keep my mouth shut if I can help it. You don't get any prizes for staying quiet. :)

Well, I'm definitely not cynical, and definitely not outspoken - except when it comes to scolding my kids. Otherwise I'm empathetic, optimistic, creative, resourceful and sometimes brooding.

i'm in the same state of mind as you are ,i say whats on my mind to your face like it or not ,if you dont like what i'm saying ,well then i guess you must know its the truth and as they say the truth hurts..... P.S. still trying to find that salad dressing recipe,i'm a chef and i have so many recipes to look through but i promise i'll find it for you.......................

You and I have done the opposite flip. I used to be cynical and outspoken. Now I am pretty much quiet I'm not sure about soft spoken. I normally don't have too much to say. That's why I think making friends on mylot and getting more involved in these forums is helpful for me. It also kind of let's me know what other people are thinking and talking about.

No I dont for one minute think that im cynical and outspoken.Maybe not my nature. But I understand what you are saying. My Mum is a self confessed cynic on a grand scale!!! Also she can be quite outspoken,which she will tells you go along with her age!!!!

I'm very outspoken. I'm also growing more and more cynical as I grow older and learn more about the ways of the world. Sad but true!

I used to be a lot sweeter then I am now. Naive. In fact I am not crazy just been in a very bad mood for 40 years.

I'm rational and at times outspoken. I also have a cynical side. In recent times I've come to realize it as a dark side or other half. Maybe I'm too much of a nerd about it though, but it seems like this to me. Heck, even a few mylotters have said I'm dark, scary, loud, too opinionative, ogre-like. Ain't that something. -_- Maybe I'll let the darkside play a little more.

i used to be soft spoken. people didn't take me seriously. i now am outspoken. people have not choice but to hear what i am saying. i know i wont' be ignored.

HUH?? You??? HUH????? I like you better now...I'm not sure about a soft spoken Cyn that leaves you wide open for what you have been through. You are definitely better now.. Depending on who you ask my adjectives greatly vary. But I would define me as: ChestyandBendy Just boosting up your mature content my friend. Thank me later! :) IntelligentandOpinionated Those would be good for now- I'm sure there are better adjectives but the words escape me now!

Being cynical is perhaps self-harming.Well, we can be out spoken to some extent. Speaking out appropriately and relavently as per the demand of a situation is O.K., If it is directed at individuals, well there might be rebuke also.Speaking out on issues that benefit a group will not be objected to. Out spokenness can bring somebody an identity of sorts.