Is not loving somebody good enough reason to get a divorce?

@dawnald (84201)
Shingle Springs, California
March 18, 2008 3:49pm CST
A discussion with a friend and some things I have read and observed over the years prompted this question. You're married and there's a spouse who loves you, property and most importantly, children. Is not loving the person reason enough to get a divorce?
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• Canada
18 Mar 08
If I ever get married, I would leave my hubby if I didn't love him anymore. You can't sacrifice your happiness for anyone and if you and your hubby are fighting around the kids thats not healthy for them to see or hear so it is better in the long run to leave the marriage.
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@dawnald (84201)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Mar 08
no fighting, just a one sided relationship...
• Canada
22 Mar 08
Well I know I would not want to be in a one sided relationship so I would divorce.
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@MsEddie86 (234)
• United States
19 Mar 08
well i've never been married before so i cant answer that for myself but from hearing my mother and her husband argue in the past it seems that that could be enough. i mean i have heard him say we dont get along we dont have anything in common we should jus go our separate ways and he has said this so many times to my mother but yet he's still there. and he has put out a singles add before online and my mother found out about it but she hasnt done anything about it. they dont sleep in the same bed they havent since the year 2001 when my older sister graduted from high school, they dont kiss hug or anything. my mother isnt happy but she says why leave when he's paying all her bills for her. i mean is that enough reason to stay with someone even though u are not happy. thats one of the reasons why i have chose to stay single cuz things like that i dont want to go through with my husband. what do u think should she stay or should she go?
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@dawnald (84201)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Mar 08
Now that definitely sounds like grounds to get out!
@gemini_rose (16268)
18 Mar 08
Yes I think so, I know I could not stay with someone if I did not love them, it would just make me miserable and unhappy, which would in turn make everyone else miserable and unhappy. Marriage is such a tangle, you become one person with your partner in that you have children, and a house and you only have one of everything, so splitting up for some people just seems to be too difficult and so they stay in the marriage. I think that would be such a waste of life, to be unhappy with someone. If I did not love my hubby then I would leave him no matter what.
@dawnald (84201)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Mar 08
Some people don't have the courage, I think.
• United States
18 Mar 08
Yes and no.No if you just woke up and you fell out of love with your spouse. As long as you still like and respect your spouse, you could remain married.But I say yes if you not only fell out of love with your spouse And you love someone else and you want to be with them. I am not talking about a casual affair but if the spouse can only love the other person. They want to grow old with them instead of their spouse.Then they should divorce because their spouse's heart isn't in keeping the marriage together. They could stay with their spouse out of dutry but if they really love another, their heart isn't there and worse of all everyone will feel it.Or worse , they will stay married on paper but they will spend more time away from the family.I think it is better for the couple to break and set up visitation for the kids that they can stick to than have both parents in a "marriage" where one parent isn't really there. The kids would be abandoned eventhough the parents are still together.
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@dawnald (84201)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Mar 08
sounds a little bit like my adolescence :-)
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Ok, I will admit, I am a bit confused by your question. If there is no love, there really is no marriage. To be married just to say you are married, really makes no sense to me. Now if you mean they fell out of love, and the relationship is going no where, then yes, I think it is grounds for divorce. For everyone should be happy and the right to be loved. Loved for who they are, and not how much they have, or what they can provide to you. As I said, I was a bit confused as to what you were asking so if I am way off base on my answer I apologize.
@dawnald (84201)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Mar 08
Nope,you got it. Although there is love,just one sided. The person who doesn't love the other is doing the asking.
• United States
18 Mar 08
Since I have been married and divorced for this reason mainly. I have to say yes to this. I know a family is a good thing to have. To raise the kids in a good home. When your in a loveless marriage. It's not good to stay for any other reason. If you had the option to live another life maybe. I can't see sticking in a relationship without love. There is just no way to grow. Everyone deserves the right to have love and happiness. Sticking in a loveless relationship. Causes the person to look outside the home. For all the things one should have under the family roof. So dear if your friend is in this position help him to find love and be happy.
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@dawnald (84201)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Mar 08
well it's a she and I'm not in a position to help her out that way, but thanks :-)