my daughter's teacher seems to be lying

Canada
March 18, 2008 5:41pm CST
since my daughter started school this year i keep getting letters from the teacher and talks when i go in to pick her up. the teacher is telling me things like my daughter is the only person not speaking french at school and she is the ring leader who pulls all the other kids aside and makes them talk in english. well last week i talked to a few of the other parents and they all said they got the same talk and letters. so how can it be all are kids are the only one. today i had a meeting with the teacher and again she told me my daughter was the one making everyone else talk in english. do i call her out on this. how can everyone be getting the same letter that their kid is the only one. would you say something. this report card i just ignored it. i don't beleive what the teacher says anymore about my daughter not talking in french enough cause she does talk a lot of french at home so i just ignore what the teacher tells me now since i've found out the other mother's get the same letters
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@sanell (2112)
• United States
19 Mar 08
YES ABSOLUTELY call this on the teacher. Do not ignore her nor ignore what your daughter gets on her report cards because this is HER LIFE, her education is very important and to have bad grades due to a teacher who is just poor at her job, is NOT something to take lightly for your daughters sake. If I found out a teacher was lying to me about my kids I would say something and I would make sure that if the teacher was not the owner of the school or what have you (Right now I am in montessori schools not in the elementary schools just yet) Believe me I will have something to say to that person. I have had talks with my daughters teacher and the director of the school. As my daughter was told to me that there is some concern with her speech, we have worked through it and so far things are going great. We have resolved the issues and so far, things have gotten way better. Her teacher and director of the school is great. So do what you can for your daughters future and call that teacher out
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• Canada
19 Mar 08
she's not getting bad grades on her report card it's just the comment section that i'm ignoring about her being the only one not talking in french and so on. sorry i should of made that part more clear.
@Darkwing (21583)
18 Mar 08
It sounds to me that this teacher is not in control of her pupils, and needs reporting to the Head of the school. What I would do, is approach the other mothers who have received letters and ask them if they would mind giving me the copy of their letter. Then, when you have accumulated them all, carry them with you each time you go to the school. If the teacher calls you in again to speak to you about your daughter, ask to see the Head Teacher, and don't leave until you do! Show her the letters, tell her what the other mums have said, and also, tell her that your daughter speaks French perfectly well at home. Tell her you want it dealt with, because your child is suffering as a result of all these complaints from the teacher, and so are the other children involved. If that doesn't do any good, then call together all the mums who have received this letter, and ask them if they'd mind backing you up, by coming with you to confront the Head Teacher. If all this fails to get the teacher reprimanded, then go to the Education Department with it. This teacher's standards are not good enough! Good luck, and Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21583)
6 Jan 09
Thank you for BR. I hope you managed to get the problem sorted out to your satisfaction and that your daughter is now happy in school.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I think that i would either confront the teacher, or go above her head and talk to one of her superiors. If you do talk with the teacher, make sure you have someone there, so it doesn't get blown way out of wack.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I've known teachers like this sadly enough. Don't let her get away with it because if you do she'll do it to others. I suggest getting with the other mothers to set up a time to talk with the Principal or head of the school. Let that person know what is going on. Going in with all of them it's a bit hard for him to just placate you and not do anything about it. Having several there with copies of their letters will make the issue evident and harder to dismiss. I'd also see if there is someway to get your daughter switched to a different class. Obviously this teacher has her own agenda and doesn't care about the students she is supposed to be teaching. A different teacher might be just what is needed even if it is almost near the end of the school year.
• Singapore
21 Mar 08
the teacher's lying. she's just lazy to type a report for every child. so she simply printed 1 for everyone.
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• Canada
19 Mar 08
You and the other parents should contact the schoolbord in this mater..its easy to go blame every child in the class with the smae letter just to make the parents then deal with his problem of not being able to teach the kids right and to get attention. Good luck
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
19 Mar 08
i would definitely feel that the teacher is lying... how can every single mum gets the same letter??? that is obvious that she is lying... i will gather the evidence from the other mum if i am in your position and bring the evidence to the principal to be dealt with... if the principal doesn't want to do anything, then i will bring the letters to the ministry of education and make a formal complain... i won't let this go...
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
19 Mar 08
yes it is obvious that she is telling lie. but why is it so? does she have any personal grudge against her? you can take the matter with higher authority and also can consult other parents.
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19 Mar 08
What I can't understand though is why she is lying. Is she an experienced teacher? I would maybe speak to the head of the school because I can't imagine much French is being spoken at school. Otherwise why would she be bringing it up.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I would call the teacher out on this and I would be sure that she knew that I knew that several other parents had the same letter that I did. I am sure that if you can get some of the other parents to go with you and talk with the school administration that she will be reprimanded if not let go. She could be making your children feel bad about their behavior at school even if they aren't doing anything wrong. There is no reason for the teacher to be lying. I now homeschool my children due to some problems with teachers.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
19 Mar 08
teacher - should be telling the truth at all times. This one is setting a bad example for the kids
I'd first go to the principle of the school and explain everything that is going on and then I'd confront the teacher. It's the only way to get to the bottom of this once and for all. She isn't a good teacher if she's lying which of course she is because you obviously know french and hear your daughter speaking it so how could the teacher be telling the truth? It doesn't make any sense at all.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
If it were me, I would confront the teacher and ask her why she has sent the letter out to so many parents, and yet claims your child is the only one making everyone else talk in English. You may want to do this with at least one of the other parents who also received letters and "talks". You could always take it to the principal if your answers from the teacher are not satisfactory. But keep in mind that the principal will almost always side with the teacher in situations like these.
• United States
19 Mar 08
I would talk to the teacher about it or talk to another authority at the school because to me a good relationship between the parents and the school is beneficial and important in a child's education. I don't think you can have a good relationship without good communication.
@kilani123 (864)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Mar 08
This Teacher is amazing. imagine that every parent would think that his or her son is the only one who does not speak french. so he or she is gonna motivate his or her son to speak french. finally we would have a full class speaking french. I mean what is benefit of lying in such situations. i think that the teacher wanna make an improvement though this strategy.
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@aretha (2538)
• United States
19 Mar 08
well by the sounds you have every right to be bothered by this. it sounds as though the teacher has no clue! i would talk to these other parents and see how they feel and if they would be willing to go with you to the higher up. if not then i would do it my self. if that next higher don't want to do anything go a little higher. i was told by my sons school counselor that its like the army,there is always someone higher and there is. if this teacher has no clue what she is doing it could really effect your daughter and i would want it taking care of. this teacher don't need to be teaching if shes this messed up. it kind of souns like she has no control and needs to blame but no sure who she should with out blaming her self.
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• United States
18 Mar 08
I think that you should get a group of parents together to discuss and take it to someone who is above this teacher. This is very disturbing; that she would lie. It needs to be addressed by someone in charge. Good Luck!
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