if you find out that your boy friend is looking for other girl behind you

China
March 19, 2008 8:31am CST
It is common that single person looks for their future other part through the internet. BUT if you find out that your boy friend is looking for other lover on the web behind you, what will you do? tell him that you has already known or don't tell him and just to wait and see. what do you think of his behavior? does any man do such a irresponsible thing? How can you believe in him from then on? I do believe that if one loves the other, he or she will never betray her or him. right?
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13 responses
• Singapore
20 Mar 08
i will immediately broke up with my boyfriend if i find he is looking for another lover behind me. i will never believe him any more
@gemini_rose (16193)
20 Mar 08
I would not be able to keep quiet! I would have to say something, I think its very bad behaviour and a lot of trust would be lost. I too believe that if you love someone and are committed to that person then you do not betray them in such a horrible way, but sometimes a partner/loved ones Idea of love can be totally different, and I know this from an experience I had with my husband.
• United States
20 Mar 08
You are right. If a man really loves a woman, he won't do anything that will hurt her on purpose. It's not right for him to be searching for other women online. If that were happening to me, I wouldn't tolerate it. I would confront him about it right away, and see what he had to say about it. Well, it probably wouldn't matter what he said to me because I wouldn't stay with a man like that. THere's no reason why any woman should have to put up with a man who is not loyal to her.
@sid556 (30998)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I would definitly question the relationship and how serious he is about being with me. If he is still looking elsewhere then that would tell me that he has not settled with me and it would cause me to back off. If he were truly in love with you....he would not be on the internet looking for others.
@chiyosan (30202)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
If and when i do catch him doing that... i will most probably be angry at him and tell him straight up. I mjust might gather up my confidence and break up with him. Besides he is looking for another person and i do not want to share his love with anyone in the world. I could never live with his infidelity. and will always think if he is stabbing me at my back again. I dont want to ever feel betrayed by him anymore.
@suehan1 (4355)
• Australia
20 Mar 08
i would have a talk with him,and if you do not like his answers i would be ending the relationship,as i think i would never be able to trust him again.who knows why he is doing it,maybe harmless flirtation,but on the other hand maybe not.you need to get this out in the open,otherwise you will just stew on it and the situation may become worse.cheers sue
@sophialin (2678)
• China
20 Mar 08
you're right,i can't stand defection in the relationship of love.from my standpoint,one will loose his chance for ever if he betraies me for one time. once and never.i'm such absolute person in love domain.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
20 Mar 08
it will definitely hurt me. also i will wait for few days and see if he himself admit it. if no, i will talk clearly with him and leave him. it cheating and i can't stand cheating.
• Canada
20 Mar 08
If it was me I would make sure I had proof then talk to him about it. If it has happened and I found the proof there wouldn't be much talking tho. I would break up with my BF if he EVER looked for other women online or offline. I agree that if your bf or gf loves you they would never in a million years betray your trust in such a way.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
I think that would hurt anybody. Better to break up first with your love before looking for someone new. Why stay with someone if you're no longer happy with him/her?
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
He doesn't really love nor respect me as a person and our relationship is more like it. Your boyfriend has a not-so-good way of handling a relationship. I will appreciate it more if he could tell my flaws or the qualities that he wants and unfortunately I don't posses- all to my face, rather than doing his unfair act. If he doesn't love me, he can leave. I will prefer an honest feelings rather than being staying with me but is unfaithful - doesn't make any sense eh?...
@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
Whatever his reason might be for doing that, I cannot tolerate his acts of flirting with the other girls in the internet. It's a sort of disrespect for me and our relationship. Why will he do that?...just for fun or what? I will still listen to his explanation because I want to know what's going in his mind. I would tell him how and what I feel on his affair in the internet. It's not right to play and flirt with the other girls in the internet, making false promises and making them expect for nothing. I would be much affected if that happens to me. Love for me is a serious thing and I don't want any misrepresentation on this. For a relationship to grow, both should give enough time, love, caring and respect for each other.
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I would ask him about it , I would not go on as if I didnt know about it.If he dosnt want to be with me fine but he would be out the door, sometimes I know we have friends male and female on the internet and I think its ok to have them as long as thats where it ends so i would be sure thats what he is doing before I called him on it.