Do you stand up for your child or do you back the teacher?

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I have one teacher that both my daughter's have this year. At first I told my girls that they needed to be respectful to this teacher. I then went to the first parent teachers conference and talked to this teacher. He wanted my older daughter to explain a business term she had learned. When my daughter couldn't he turned to me and gave me the definition. I watched him and listened to him as he explained it to me. I stopped him and said is this how you explain it to your class? He was a bit taken back and said well yes. I leaned in and said to him you are talking to a mother that took Business Marketing and Management in College I understand what you are talking about and added a bit more he had left out but then said I am here to tell you that no 10th grader would have a clue what you just said. Do you really think that is the correct way to teach this? I did not look away but kept eye contact which he had a hard time with. Later I found out he did this to other parents. Those parents had no clue what he was talking about. I realized at that point he was the type of person that liked to feel like he was smarter then everyone else. The year with him has been very hard on both of my daughters as well as other students in his class. We have had 3 meetings with all their teachers but he has failed to show up to them. I told the others that I have no problem with any of them but that a teacher that does not talk on a students level nor will he answer them if they raise their hand. I was frustrated as I was not getting anywhere. He then put my youngest daughter who has dwarfism in the back of the class. She told him she could not sit in the back cause she couldn't see. He told her that he couldn't change the seating. That was the final straw. I wrote a note that if he felt that his new seating plan was not able to be changed I would call a meeting myself and have it put into the plan that I would make his seating chart in the plan myself. Well I guess I finally made him see that in no way did he threaten me because he has done a full circle. He not only moved her but is calling on them both when they raise their hands and he is asking them if they understand what he is saying. So this is working for my children but what about the others? The superindent and the principal both are aware of this problem but doing nothing to change it. I know the other children in his classes are getting in trouble for not paying attention and not finishing homework because I have talked to them and their parents. We only have a short time until school is out but I worry about how the kids will move to the next grade no knowing what they should because they couldn't understand it. OK I rambled on about this but it really is bugging me. So would you stand up for your children and the others or would you let it go and let the teacher keep going?