How do you reward your children?

@nixxi76 (3192)
Canada
March 20, 2008 8:55am CST
When my child does something good for himself it makes me so proud of him. So proud that I feel the need to reward him for his hard work that he's put into a task. Wether it be for school, his teacher writes entries into his agenda book everyday and when he's good she rewards him with a smiley face and if he's having a bad or just off day, she will give him a frowning face or no emotional face, and beside that she will write something like he's too chatty, or had a great day, or improving. When he's worked so hard on cleaning his room I give him kudos for that because it can be really hard work especually if he's invited a friend over and they didn't help him clean up before they left. When he helps me around the house with chores, such as.. dishes, I'll give him plastic cups or tuperware or some silverware to dry for me he'll grab one of the kitchen chairs and get up and help out with that. Or when I'm doing dishes he will come up to me and ask if I need help. Just little things. At the end of the week I'll give him an allowance of $5.00 or buy him a prize (which he usualy appreciates more than the $5.00), or take him somewhere fun on the weekend if he's done well in school and I see at least 3 out of 5 smiley faces in his agenda, if he cleans his room every night before bed, and if I don't have to ask him to do things that are his daily routine. What do you do as a reward for your child when they're doing good?
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
21 Mar 08
my 7 year old daughter will do those things. offer to help, or sometimes even just do things she happens to see needs doing. pick up a book and put it away, empty a wastebasket if she sees it full. sweep off the stairs. shes obsessive with her school work,m and even gives herself homework if she doesnt have any that night just to practice something she needs to improve on, all without being told to. she really is a wonderful loving little girl and a pleasure to be around all the time. she gets her usual allowance for the assigned chores, but i keep a watchful eye on the things she does that she isnt required to do and she just does cause she sees it and decides shes going to do it. for the things she does that she isnt asked to do, she will get a bonus, either in her allowance, or i will buy her a new storybook or new pack of colored markers or sometimes buy her flowers, which she loves. even something as simple as extending her bedtime a litle to let her watch something she likes on tv is an often occurance. her father does his own thing to say " yer a great kid, and i love you" takes her out for breakfast or lunch just the two of them, hit an arcade on a saturday afternoon and spend a few hours playing games, or go to the movies. showing your appreciation for doing well is just as important as pointing out when they need to improve on something. its nice to know imnot the only one who does this =o)
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
21 Mar 08
Hi tessah, What I'm hoping for is my son's motivation to pick up and keep it a good habit. You're so lucky your daughter does things that she's not asked to do and she sounds like the perfect little girl. As for my son, he's not motivated and my rewards will hopefully work in order to help him out in the positive direction. Thank you for your comment
@tessah (6621)
• United States
21 Mar 08
you didnt mention how old yer son is, but it sounds like yer doing all of the right things. just keep doing what yer doing and be consistant, and im sure he will do just fine =o)
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
My son is 7 yrs old
@Swaana (1208)
• India
24 Mar 08
Hi, A great topic for discussion indeed. My daughter is in school and if she gets stars in her test papers every month, she gets an incentive either in the form of a eat out or her favourite ice cream. Also for the help that she does at home, I give her money to be put into her kiddy bank and she is saving that to get something for her own or she gets gifts for her brother, me and my spouse on our birthdays, or her grandparents during their birthdays. She also uses them to buy things to do crafts (which she gifts generally to her friends). Son is also following her footstep in helping around the house and he gets money incentives in his kiddy bank. He loves to hear the sound of the money clinking. He is yet to start using it. But whatever be it, they first get a Big Hug and a Kiss from me.
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Hi Swaana, I'm glad to see that you're encouraging your children to do the right things in a positive way. Keep up the good work.
@Mamagee (392)
• Malaysia
24 Mar 08
Hi, I did the same thing as you. I give my children $1.00 a day for washing dishes, sweeping and tidying. I told my children not to spend the money but save it. They can buy anything they want with the money.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Thanks for your comment mamagee, I'm very glad you do the same as I do
@sunshine4 (8707)
• United States
24 Mar 08
The one thing that all my kids think is cool that I do to reward them is very simple. I bought a dinner plate that says celebrate around the outside edge of the plate. When someone does something that deserves a reward, I will get out the celebrate plate and they get to eat dinner on it. It costs me nothing~ but gives them a great sense of accomplishment.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
That is such a good idea sunshine. That gives me an idea or two thank you
@cripfemme (7713)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I don't have kids yet, but when I do I think I'll give them money for good grades (my mom used to pay me $1 for every B and $2 for every A I got, plus if I really improved in a subject that was hard for me like math or spelling). I'll treat them to movies or a special time hanging out with mom doing whatever they would like. I'll also reward them for doing good work at home, I exspect them to be better at cleaning then I am as I resolve to teach them better than I was taught in this reguard.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
Thanks for your comment cripfemme
@ipeacock (14)
• India
21 Mar 08
the packet money is wrong way .it leads them into wrong way. but appreciate them they can enthu
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
21 Mar 08
I don't think it's wrong to reward my child with something wether it is $2 here or $5 there for something they've done right. It's not always money,it's a nice comment or hug telling them that you're proud of them or it's a little gift sometimes. It's just showing them that they are doing good. I think that kids have to be shown somehow that doing good is full of rewards wether they get money, hugs, complaments, or prizes for. My son's teacher does this for her class as well. Thanks for your comment
• United States
20 Mar 08
I reward my children in different ways. One of the ways that I reward my kids, is giving them the privilege to purchase icecream on Fridays, if they have received a good report for the week from their teacher. Another way I reward them is surprising them with a wrestling man. My kids are over their heads with wrestling. You could reward your kids with other things other than money. I reward them with comments, such as; "Good Job", ""Good Boy", "Excellent", I think good comments are just as good for rewards, because it would teach your children more than looking for money or things that consist of money all of the times. Good Luck on the rewards!
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
21 Mar 08
Hi jmcmillan, I have given my son a pat on the back or a hug and an "I'm very proud of you" for good things he's done and I do it all the time. I know he appreciates this very much by just seeing the expression on his face. In return he will say thank you mom and I see an improvement so I know he's encouraged by this. I don't give him money every week sometimes it's just a little dollar store prize. Just to keep him enthusiastic. I'm glad you do things as well to keep your children encourages with doing good for themselves. Thanks for your comment
@jimbelle (485)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
I usually praise my son if he has done something good or if he gets good grade in school. Occasionally i treat him out or give him extra money. It will boost their self confidence if we appreciate openly the good things they have done especially in schoolwork.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
I completely agree with you! It will definitly encourage our children to act more responsible for what they need to do in life. Thank you very much for your opinion.
@jona_jz (80)
• Philippines
20 Mar 08
My son is only a year old but I starting to teach him that you can earn with his every good deeds. If he behave and do as I say, I would let him play outside which is what he likes to do best. Fortunately, he learns from it. Sometimes, he even tells himself that what he's about to do is a "NO" by telling himself no. It is a good way to reward a kid for every good thing he does so that he would love to do good things.
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@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
Hi Jona, I think what you're doing here is great! It's dividing the good from the bad and it's best we teach our young ones when they are at an early age. Thanks for your comment