Finaly told my father about the baby

@beyonce03 (2331)
Canada
March 20, 2008 3:54pm CST
If you want to understand the whole story just read my previous post about it http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1404069.aspx After reading some of my friend comment, I decided not to stressed with telling my father while I was pregnant and to wait after I gave birth. Almost 3 weeks after .. I called him, but I knew he would not answer the phone, so I left a message. I also wrote a message to my sister on facebook. 4 days later, i received an email from my sister. It was really a cruel and bad email. it makes me cried a lot. She told me she was not my sister anymore, so she would not be my son aunt. Also, she blame everything on myself and nothing on her and my father. She said my father was suffering because I didnt try to talk to him before and things like that. Neither my father or my sister try to contact me, but I did 5 years ago when we first stop talking to each other. This is a big resume of what my sister email was about. I'm happy that I told them, but was really hurt. I had prefer not receiving any email or phone call by them. Even if at first I wasnt expecting something, I think that finaly I was. Maybe I was hoping that my father and sister had change and were both wanting like me to start everything again. I will not try to contact them again and wait for them to maybe one day wake up. I will maybe only send them a picture of my baby. I've done what I had to do
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@Shawchert (1040)
• United States
20 Mar 08
well I don't really know what to say about this, I have never had a problem like this before. But i think you made the right move, at least you did try to tell them before the baby was born! I bet it is heartbreaking to read horrible things made by your own family. But yeah I hope they get their heads on straight or they will be missing out in your child's life. I'm hoping they do just for you and good luck with having your baby!!
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
I wanted to tell them before the baby was born, but it was to hard for me. But my father knew I was pregnant, because 2 of his sisters knew it ... Thank you for your comment :)
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@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
hi beyonce! well i'm happy that you finally told your father about your baby. but its really sad how your sister treated you and your situation. i can't really understand how can she be like that. in my case, when my sister got pregnant all of a sudden without finishing her studies first and not getting married, i was angry at her. but when she gave birth, i welcomed her again and her baby and its like, we are trying to forget everything misunderstanding in the past. well, now that you've told them everything, no one can expect anything from you now because you've done your part. as a daughter and as a sister. i kinda expected that they would soften towards you because they would want to see the baby. i guess it will take time. i hope it will be soon. and i hope everything will work out good for you and your baby Loic. good luck!
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
That's what I like from Mylot ... support from my friend :) A big thank you for your comment :) I feel better today. IT,s my father and sister lost, not mine :)
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@secretbear (19463)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
yeah. its your sister's lost and not yours. she would miss the cuteness of your baby! you're welcome. i'm glad you're already feeling better.
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@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
Good for you for taking the steps to try to make things right for your baby, and for yourself. You can't make someone want to be in your life, but you were the grown up here and did the right thing, and they are just being very childish, but there is nothing you can do about it. At least you know that you have done all you can and you don't have to wonder what if. Just love your baby and make the best life you can for him, and everything will work out great for you. I strongly believe that. My prayers are with you and your new family.
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
I'M still thinking about it, but less everyday. I'M feeling a little bit better about it. I can't be completly heal like that. Maybe one day my father and sister heart will be open again. But for now, I'M only gonna think about my own little family :)
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• Canada
20 Mar 08
It's terrible when family turns on you that way. The way I see it though, if people are going to treat you like that, you really don't need them all that much. You are a better person than they are, so I hope that thought helps.
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
20 Mar 08
Thank you for your support my friend :) Now I have my own little family and I still have my mom and brother and also my gradn-parents, etc I have a bi family who really loves me and will give my son all the love he needs :)
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
29 Mar 08
It is good that you told your father and sister! It is now on them that they did not accept a new life with you. You have a new life and do not need resentment and anger while you are trying to raise your infant! This is a common situation, and there are television shows that deal with this type of family conflict!