I had a disaster today with my Grand-children
By marciascott
@marciascott (25529)
United States
March 20, 2008 9:17pm CST
My Grandson is 15 and my Grand-daughter is 16, do you know they are so clumsy, I went out earlier, they are out for spring break, so I let them stay over to my New apartment, they wer watching movies, when I got back the first tie, My grand-daughter broke my cloke, that was on the Frig, I should of had it nailed up to the wall, but i didn't, I know it was a mistake, and she didn't do it on purpose, She goes, Grand-Ma, I didn't mean to break your Clock, that clock, I had it for about 3 yrs. and every hour it would have different Bird chips, I thought it was so cute, but she broke it, I was so furious with her. I know things happen. Then I left and went to the store, I came back, My Grand-son broke a real nice Vase that I had on the table, along with this white candy dish, and this little elephant. I was furious again, I got so mad at both of them, I was ready to take them home, and I did. They are so careless. I told them you half to be very careful, when doing something, I told them oh, You all are going to tare my house down. Do you go through this with your Children?
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13 responses
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I have the grandsons staying the weekend, I know how it can be. Sometimes you do get furious with them. I already had to butt heads with one of the boys. Gramma won that battle. The kids do need to learn that they have to becareful with others belongings. 15 and 16 yrs. is old enough to know to becareful, they are not little kids. Us grammas have to be tough, yet loving with the grandkids. We also have to show them who is boss in our homes. The 7 yr. old thinks he can do anything he wants and nobody can do anything about it. I have news for that boy. I happy to hear that you are getting moved in and settled in. I wish all good things for you Marcie, and much happiness. I am going to send you a few pictures in your email.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Thanks Vicky sure they know better, they are old enough to be more aware of things.
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@smileygizzle (32)
• United States
21 Mar 08
you should diciplin them more often. you should realy set some ground rules .the more you do it the more they beheve
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I agree with you smileygizzle, No I am not the prison guard Kitten but I expect for my Grandchildren to behave and not to let anything happen while I am away. Kitten, see you are over protective of yours I see Well, I love my grand-children very much, but right is right!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 08
kitty you brought up something I have been thinking since I first tuned into this discussion When you are fortunate to have grandchildren, which I am not, your love for them should come first then things second as you can replace things but you cannot replace children. I did tell her what my mom used to say to us dont roughhouse in the house take it outside but i also forgot to say that if we had broken something my mom never really got mad over it as we were her daughters and we knew she loved us. I would love to have some grandchildren.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
21 Mar 08
Being an accident prone/clumsy person myself, I feel bad for them. I know that for me, when I am upset or have a lot on my mind, I become clumsy. I can not even go out in public at times like this for fear of falling. Some people believe that this can be a form of mental illness.
I would never tell you have to treat your family, but I think that getting mad at them can hurt their self-esteem. As long as they did not do it on purpose, I feel that they should be immediately forgiven. I learned this lesson from a brother-in-law whom I can't even stand.
But he never gets made if his children do something by mistake. He just tells them to try and do better next time. This lets children know that they do not have to be perfect. Just like we as adults are not perfect.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I don't know Raydene, I had a couple of appointment that day, and I couldn't take them, some place you don't take kids, I had busseness to attend too, My geand-daughter, was looking in the refrig, and had the clock, just sitting on top of the refrig, I was goint to hang it up. but I didn't get around toit just yet, as I have a lot of things to hang up, I am still gettng my apartment together. I still half to hang pictures. anda few other things. I don't know if they where horse-playing or not, as far as the stuff on the table being broke. My Grand-son is so hyper. he has long legs, and he bumped into table. and the Vase and Candy dish, and the little elephant all broke at one time. Imy grand-son said Oh, Grand-ma, you are going to be so mad at me, well yes I was, because I feel like he is to big to do this. One fellow said here, that He does that a lot and he is a grown man.
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@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yes, but I have a lot more patience and understanding nowadays, than when I was raising my kids!
I just wish I could go back in time , and relive my life with my kids, and treat them the way I should've treated them! I don't guess we'll ever get a chance to do that!
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Hi, where have you been you were missed. I know you were buzy with the work, and you Band right? I am glad you came by, don't stay away so long. I was wondering did you get my invite?
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Well, what do you think happened, is it ll right now? Are you getting all of your emails from Mylot now?
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@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I don't know what happened! I'm not getting any notices in my e-mail of discussions anymore!
I was wondering myself where everybody had gone!
I couldn't believe that everyone would quit posting!
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@sweetestkate (133)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I think you should go and have a talk with them. Tell them how hurt you were when your stuff was broken by them and ask them if they can be more careful and not touch anything? If your scared about them breaking things in your house, instead of hanging out at your house, take them places so they can't break your things. Go to the mall with them or out to lunch. You can still see your Grandchildren that way and then nothing will get broken. I'm sorry your things got broken by them.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Hi welcome to mylot, everything is fine, I talked to him, It wasn't that serious.
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I haven't gone through that with my children since they were very young. Don't feel bad that you got angry, if anything that will teach them that you expect to have you and your property respected. (Which in my opinion is a good thing to learn) At those ages they should have already learned these lessons, but if not, then you are perfectly in your right to set them straight. Don't beat yourself up over getting ticked off, I think anybody would, especially if it was just from carelessness. One boo-boo would be one thing, but twice in the same day (and with so many different things getting broke) it would be more of a dis-service not to let them know you are upset. I'll bet the next time they come and visit they'll be a little more respectful (hopefully anyways!)
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Yes Joy, I agree, I joked around with them and told them I am going to half to put everything up when they come over. I was angry because it happened twice, I know you don't blame me, I come home once, and then came back again, and something else breaks, sure I am angry. but everything is fine, I just told them to be more careful. How are you, Glad you stoppped by What is going on with morachat. Is the site down?
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@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Marcia,I am very sorry about this.I know that you were very upst.i know that the Grandchildren did not really mean to break your things, but this does not replace them either. They will have to be more careful when they are at your house. I do have my 10 year old Granddaughter, hat comes to my house alot, I will say she is very well behaved, and does not get into my things, I am very fortunate in that area, I do not have to ever worry about her being here, she never destroys my things.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
22 Mar 08
That is good some Children are well behaved. It was no excuse, well, they just need to be more careful.
@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
24 Mar 08
I am sorry to say this to you, but do you not think that it was you who was careless leaving them alone in your new apartment? Especially if you think they are so clumsy?
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
25 Mar 08
Apparently it is quite a common thing in teens. So why then do we let them get their drivers license at this age?
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
21 Mar 08
Children are careless, they just have no concept of how important some things are to others. The amount of times mine have broken something of mine through messing about. But with them being a bit older they should really know to be a bit more careful and take more care of whats around them. My nan has one of those clocks that you had, she loves hers too, she would be upset if someone broke hers as she has had it for ages.
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@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Sure gemirose, you are right, But everything is fine. I think they know better now.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 08
Oh my sorry for your losses. I never went through that with my own children but have seen some others go through that. I taught my children just as my mom taught me that if I wanted to roughhouse I had to go outside with it Hence no broken glass ware and no upset parents. WE wanted to play catch take it outside we wanted to wressle take it outside. I am sure they did not mean to break things but they must have been pretty active some way.
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@lishiwei (1550)
• China
21 Mar 08
I think that is very comman.Evry child is like that include me.But I also envy you grandchildren that they are so lucky that they can stay with their grandpa.I have never seen my grandparents,I also miss them in my dream.And I only can look their phtoos now.What a happy life you and your grandchildren have!This little things is nothing important,everything can come back expect the love.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Correction Dear, Grand-mother, I am the Grand-mother.
