Single mom responsibilities

@hey_baby (426)
Philippines
March 21, 2008 7:58am CST
I am a single mom solely raising my 9 yr old son. I chose to separate from my husband of 10yrs 2 yrs ago. But thats another story. Anyway, i have my mind set that i am brave enough to raise my son alone. But i was watching this movie 'love actually' and there was liam neesons widowed character and his son. his son got a crush on a girl and his dad all out supported him. Which gets me thinking, what if my son went through that? He has no one to talk to about that. Ofcourse, he will be awkward to talk to me.He'll start keeping secrets on things too uneasy for him to talk to me. Then i thought about circumcision, certainly it would be very awkward for him. I am not what you call a worry wart, but anything about my son i worry about. Thinking about these 2 things made me feel overwhelmed by stuff i am sure i could do, but can't do. Im sure there will be other circumstances like these so i worry about them too.
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@roniroxas (10574)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
lucky for you have only a kid i have four children and i am a single mom. we left my husband because he is an abusive man so we just ran away. we ran away from him 7 years ago and now my children are teen already. its not easy but i need to do it. i saw that movie too and i love that movie. you will learn how to deal with it as you get along. as of now that he is young enjoy him. dont worry on something that is not yet here deal with what you have to deal now. dont lie to him so he wont lie to you. i have a son and we have our ups and downs but we are still here. just always open your communication with him. goodluck. welcome to mylot and happy posting
@hey_baby (426)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
wow. 4 kids. i'm not sure i'm equipped to be in your situation. atleast you are far away safe from your abusive husband. i'm not the type really of worrying about what happened in the past and what will happen in the future. i guess i was just caught in an emotional mood when i watched that movie. goodluck to you too and God Bless us brave single moms.
@roniroxas (10574)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
yes we need to be brave for they are relying on us. if they see us weak they will feel weak as well. goodluck to you to. God bless. happy easter ( i was here sunday )
• China
22 Mar 08
A ha, I'm so lucky to be a girl... Mom is always the greatest person in the world. Is that a common thing for a boy to tell things to fathers instead of mothers? I don't think so. You love him so much and you are the most raliable person for him, so don't be worried, he will understand. Just do what you think are the best for him. Best wishes.
@hey_baby (426)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
i just had this thought that boys relate better w/ their fathers esp things awkward to tell their moms. I guess im the one who finds it awkward to discuss. thanks for your reply.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
22 Aug 08
I am a single mother of one 9 year old son. His father has never been around really other than occassional visits when he is in the country. It has always been the two of us, so thats all he knows. But his life consists of just me, I have made sure that he has other healthy relationships with men that are a part of his life. He is very close to his uncles and his grandfather. He plays 3 sports so he has been with his coaches for 3 years now and he has a mentor from the Boys Club. But these are the same normal relationships that he would have if his father was around. There are many boys that grow up without a "father" in the home and they do fine. Of course its the ideal situation but sometimes thats not the hand that life deals us. You just have to play the best game with the hand that you are dealt. If there is ever a time that he needs a "male prospective" hopefully he will be able to rely on these men that have always been a part of his life. Your son too will find his way. Life has a way of working it out.