Would you know the blood types of your parents?

Philippines
March 21, 2008 9:05am CST
My friend would like to know the blood types of her parents. She just want to get the reason why things happened in a period of her life. She is a mother of 3 and just learned of her blood type when she gave birth, A+. She accidentally learned that her parents' blood types are both O during one of their visits. It was just a chitchat about diets and diets for certain blood types. When her mother exclaimed of her blood type and her husband's as both O, my friend replied with a question on her face that she's type A+. But she isn't sure yet of their blood types, because after that moment, her mother tried to make her wonder by trying to ask her(mother) husband to confirm his blood type but her father walked away saying he's not sure. And it's bugging her all the time. Whenever we got a time to talk, she always asks me ways on how would she know the blood types of her parents without offending them. This friend of mine has been telling me all her troubles towards her mother since her childhood. Her life was under control in almost all aspects; from school, profession, to (almost) lovelife. While her other siblings do not experience what she did. While she's having a good life and relationship with her mother now, but there is still a manifestation of favoritism among siblings by her mother, and she's absolutely not among them. I'm so carried away by my friend, but I don't know of any way how to help her. She's like a lost bird, trying to find out about her roots. How could I help her out?
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@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
22 Mar 08
I think the issue with your friend is not about the blood type but rather who her biological parent might be since she came to know of the family's blood type. I do not think there is any simple explanation for this except from her parents and since she is now married and settled down. I think she could approach either her dad/mom whoever she is comfortable talking to and ask who she truly is. Now, whether the "truth" will be revealed to her or not will remain with her parents. However, what your friend should not be doing is trying to put the past into the present. Parenting is always difficult and most of the time different. For some reason(s) your friend could be willful, restless and a difficult child to handle during her childhood. So no matter what, all these years of upbringing and for what she is today - I think would have compensated. Put it that way, if she had been outside her family, wouldn't she be abandoned since her parents have their natural children to care for? Just let her see for herself and weigh her conscience.
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
Of course she love them, specially her father, but it's the child in herself that's asking. I already told her about being thankful for them, yes she is, but she's still wondering why her mother treated her differently from her other siblings. Her mother will always make her feel unworthy of whatever life may bring. They have a great relationship now, but this just came along unexpectedly, waking up the long-slept forgotten child in her. She doesn't even let them aware that she's suspecting something from it. Thanks for the comment.
• Singapore
22 Mar 08
As I had said beforehand, I think all of us are rather individualistic and as such we need to be treated differently. So in parenting, I think it is the same too. Parents do vary with the way they care and manage their children. Sometimes your friend may feel that she is treated "unfairly" or in a manner indifferently but that is an individual perception and sometimes misperceived. I must say that what happened during that time is also circumstancial. Behaviour especially from a child can be quite challenging sometimes and adults will then care for a child from their perceived understanding from this behaviour. So it is quite difficult to conclude and pointless to pursue. As I have said before, I think she is wanting to know her true identity and as such it would be wise that she approach with tact accordingly. Because, we may never know if the other party especially the father is aware that his daughter is not having the same blood type as he is. Also, she is not relating to her mum well, and seemingly she is the best candidate to get an answer from. Hope you see what I mean here.
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
I am a parent myself, but I don't treat my kids differently, that can make one say he/she's been treated unfairly. And I don't think it's the child's fault(because of his/her behavior) that she was treated that way. I could even conclude that it's how the parents brought up the child that molded him/her to behave that way. Like for a battered child, when he/she becomes a parent, he/she will also instill discipline by hitting his/her children. My friend just came to a point of concluding that she might not be one of her parents' biological children, with the way things happen in their home before. She's the type who would not beg or demand anything from them while growing up, but when she was grown up, her mother was demanding everything on her, including her lovelife, but it's the other way around on her siblings. She's skeptical of asking about it from her father, coz she knows it would hurt him that she is thinking that way, though she felt much love from him than her mother. Oh, I remember, she had told me that there was once she opened up all her burdens towards her mother, but her mother just shrugged her off, not explaining to her why. When her father was consoling her, she had actually told him that she might not be their own daughter, but he didn't respond with a yes or no. He just told her not to think about it. How could that give her a peace of mind? I know what you mean, but she wanted to get a proof that will justify her doubts and confirm from them. So, the blood type was her first step to determine a portion of her true identity. She doesn't want to hurt any one of them with her dilemma. Only after she's sure of their blood types, she will proceed with that BIG question for them.
@mbs730 (2151)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
Have her parents talk to their dr about it. I have no idea what my father's blood type is but my mother is O+ and so am I, and so is my husband. I should really go out there and donate some blood as type O would work for all blood types, I think anyway. Anyone know that for sure?
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• Philippines
22 Mar 08
In your case, you won't have an issue since both you and your mother has the same blood type. But her issue is, her father should be type A blood while her mother is O. But she isn't sure coz of the confusion created by her mother's declaration during their discussion about it. Oh yeah, you're right, type Os are the universal donor, they could still donate for her when she needs it. Thanks for the response.
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@mbs730 (2151)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
Her father should be tested for it. Yeah I thought type O is universal. Thanks for clarifying that... I should go out there and donate!
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I don't really know how she would find out her parents blood types. Both my sister and I are A-. My mom is O+ and my dad is A+. My ex husband is A+ and like I said, I am A-. My kids are O+, A+ and A+. Here is calculator to determine possible blood types that I found. http://www.biology.arizona.edu/Human_bio/problem_sets/blood_types/inherited.html
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• Philippines
22 Mar 08
Thank you for responding and thank you for the link.
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@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
Well, if they are both O, chances are she is blood type O too. I asked my mom what her blood type is too, but she does not know about it, or have already forgotten too and says she is not sure if it is O. Does your friend know any of her parent's doctors? If so, she can ask their doctors. Why is this knowing the blood type thing bothering her ? Did she think she is not really part of the family? I hope she won't think that way, she just might be creating her own ghosts. Our parents, no matter how much they love us, i have to agree that sometimes they have a favorite son, or daughter. i feel that too with my mom who is very obvious that she liked our youngest sibling more than me and my older brother. It has caused me to worry before, but it does not worry me much now that i am used to it.
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• Philippines
21 Mar 08
You're the second person who suggested to ask her parents' doctor. I will surely suggest that to her, thanks. She knows her type which is A but not sure of her parents', and expecting one of them is A, but the incident made her confused and somehow confirmed why she was treated differently among her siblings; technically not because of their blood types, but maybe biologically. As a friend, I tried to make her forget about it and just enjoy life but you can't just make someone do that easily, specially if it's about her own roots. All her life, she's been wondering why her mother treated her differently among her siblings. I will just be here for her when she needed me. Thanks for the comment.
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@Canteen (593)
• China
21 Mar 08
maybe she can ask her parents' doctor. or find some medical records of her parents. i think she can have a talk with his father. ask him what happened in the past. i think father is more frank than mother. how could this happen? sounds like plot in a movie. hope it can be solved properly in the end.
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• Philippines
21 Mar 08
I'll try to tell her to ask from their family's doctor. I know everything that happened to her and the burdens she's been carrying while growing up. Even asking for help from her mother is very difficult for her, because she knows, her mother will counter with her long list of obligations too. While, if her other sister is in need, her mother would immediately volunteer to help. There was even a time when she opened up to her mother all her sorrows towards her, and even told her father that, maybe she's not their real daughter. But her father just shrugged the thought of it and consoled her. I can't even imagine what will happen if her doubts are true. Yes, you're right, just like a plot in a movie. I'm afraid of her dilemma. Thanks for the comment.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Mar 08
yes, I know the blood types of my parents - but I do not think your friend can ascertain the type of her parents without asking them for permission, if she is in the USA. maybe she can get a typing kit - they are not very difficult to use and as for *fun* one day ask her father for a sample of his blood (needle prick) and test it.
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
We're from another country, and we're not sure if typing kits are available here. Thanks for the response.
@Hatley (164257)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Mar 08
As I am a senior citizen no I do not know the blood types as they have been gone for awhile. but now days i think all women should know the blood types of their parents. Is your friend perhaps thinking she might not be their real daughter? It seems odd that her parents would not just tell her their blood types.If she is A+ would not one of her parents have to be A+ also. I am no doctor. could she prevail on her parents doctor to find out their blood tyes? Surely at some time they must have had their blood typed for some medical reason.I would suggest to your friend to go to the family doctor and tell him what she wants to know and why.
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
Third in a row. I have told her about that, she'll be working on it. Thanks for the suggestion.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
22 Mar 08
yes, I know the blood types of my parents - but I do not think your friend can ascertain the type of her parents without asking them for permission, if she is in the USA. maybe she can get a typing kit - they are not very difficult to use and as for *fun* one day ask her father for a sample of his blood (needle prick) and test it.