Do you stand your kids in the corner?

United States
March 21, 2008 2:03pm CST
I stand mine in the corner for 1 minute for every year of their age. for example my daughter is 9 so she stands in the corner for nine minutes when being punished. Well the other day a friend of mine was telling me that the school told her that standing her kids in the corner was considered child abuse.What do you guys think of this?? I think that is crazy.
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• United States
22 Mar 08
That is ridiculous. Even my daughter's daycare uses time out - it's not in the corner, but they have to sit in the "red chair" when they misbehave. I sure use it - but then I spank too, so according to the majority of folks now I might as well be an abuser. Gonna be interesting to see how this generation of parents likes it when they're older and all their kids are grown up and spoiled, selfish authority-rejectors because they were never disciplined...
• United States
22 Mar 08
No kidding. That is my point. If kids are not disciplined there will be big problems later in life.
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• United States
22 Mar 08
I find it hard to believe that putting a kid in the corner is considered abuse. If it is thats the dumbest thing I have heard. I used to not do it with my kid but I have tried everything else from the naughty chair to taking away things she likes to do to spankings. I for one hate spanking my kid but when I started to put her in the corner for however many minutes she is old, one minute for each year, she started behaving. My kid is great in public however at home for me she is horrid. So one day I got fed up hearing it and asked her which form of punishment she wanted everytime she talked back and said mean things to me. She told me she should stand in the corner. Yes I realize she is just a kid but if she thought standing in the corner sounded better to her then all the other punishments we spoke about people need to reconsider what they think is abuse. Which would you rather see....a parent having their kid stand in a corner or a parent spanking their kid?? and yes spanking is NOT considered abuse as long as it is below the waist. So for all of you who think we are horrid parents..think again.
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• United States
22 Mar 08
Thank you so much for your comment. I totally agree with you.
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@norrisl4 (65)
• Zimbabwe
22 Mar 08
I consider it abuse if the child is made to stand for a long time. For those who are against this practice, what alternatives are they offering?
• United States
22 Mar 08
Alot of people now say time out is the best. But ya know all kids are different and I believe you have to use what works the best with your kids. The schools I know say that you need to "talk" to your kids instead of punnishing them. Well I hate to tell them but you cant "talk" to a four year old. They just dont have the mind set or the attention span to sit there and listen to you.
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• United States
22 Mar 08
I definitely was a "stand in the corner" parent. My kids, now all grown into teens, still to this day say it was the best punishment ever. I rarely if ever would strike one of my kids but the idea of "put your nose to the wall" made them want to just die on the spot! LOL I have pictures of my twins in their "corner". My son would get into trouble and be sent to put his nose to the wall and his twin sister would go stand next to him. I tell her she didn't have to go to the corner because she didn't do anything wrong and she'd say "but bubba needs me". LOL
• United States
22 Mar 08
LOL, my boys are the same way. They are very close in age. one is 4 the other is 5 1/2 and they do the same thing.
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• Bahamas
22 Mar 08
Everything you do now to disipline your children someone calls abuse. I for one dont think standing your child in a corner for a reasonable amount of time is abusive.We as parents are responsible for the upbringing of our children. When we have kids not only do we owe it to them to raise them right... but we also owe it to society to raise productive citizens.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
How in the world can they say that standing a kid in a corner is child abuse? You are not harming them or anything. How are you suppose to disapline a child if you are not allowed to punish them in any way shape or form? When I was younger my father would beat our butts if we did something wrong. The last time I got my butt whipped was when I was like 10 so almost 10 years ago. As we got older we would tell him to beat our butts so we could call the cops. *we never really would of done it, we were just mad at him* All he would say is "go ahead and call them, they'll be needed when they get here if you call them." or give us the whole "go ahead, i'll tell them to take you away while their here" Anymore you cant whip a child in public without the fear that someone will report you. And then they wonder why so many kids get in trouble with the law. HELLO! they wont allow you to disapline your child and then they go wild. Heck, you cant even whip a child in your own home anymore either. Someone finds out and they go around yelling child abuse. Don't get me wrong, a person who is actually abusing a child should get in trouble, but not someone who is tring to teach their child wrong from right. I see nothing wrong with standing a child in a corner. My husbands mom use to do it to him, but they would make him sit in the corner for 5 mins. He had a problem of not keeping his mouth shut when he would get in the corner and they would add another 5 mins every time he would start going off. If there is a person who is abusing a child they should have the child taken away and get into trouble. But standing a child in the corner is no way child abuse.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
I agree. Ya know I just wonder if the people that say these things are really parents. I would love to see someone try and parent a child without some form of discipline. Until you have kids you just cant understand what it is like.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
I totally agree with you hallmarkjl. I don't believe in "punishment" but discipline. You should never discipline a child out of anger. Easier said than done! All my kids are grown and their days of discipline are over, for the most part. But we would tell them why they were being disciplined and tell them how to handle the situation the next time. Oh! And someone better contact Super Nanny and tell her. Her form of discipline is time outs in a chair. Is that abuse too?!
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@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I know alot of parents do the "time out" thing as you have stated about the minute of their age. I never stood mine in the corner, I usually sent them to their room for that amount of time. Some parents have a chair in which they place them on, etc. I think it's up to each parent to decide what works best for them. As for as it being child abuse for you sending your child to the corner, I myself don't see it, but who knows now a days.
@Chey1970 (1193)
• United States
21 Mar 08
Might I add if anyone ever watched "Little House on the Prairie", that is how the children were disciplined.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
I dont see any thing wrong with putting my child in the corner. It is essentially the same thing as a time out except they have to look at the wall and they have to stand instead of sit.
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 08
i agree why do not you stand in a corner for nine minutes then see how you like it. seated on a chair in the corner with her back to you would be enough punishment for nine minutes but not standing in a corner as it does something to their self image.
• United States
23 Mar 08
The only difference you are talking about is sitting instead of standing.I have been put int the corner when I was a kid and let me tell you it works.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I have a 2 year old boy..But I have never tried with the "time out" technique. Some of my friends uses this discipline technique. They also advise me to practise it...But I feel it is too early for my son..At this age, he will not even understand the concept.Also I'm afraid whether he will feel insecure. As a mom, it is my duty to explain the situation to my child rather than asking to stand in a corner..So I never practise this technique and will never use it in future also.
• United States
23 Mar 08
My youngest is 4 and there is no talking to a 4 year old. They do not have the attention span to listen to you and comprehend what you are saying so I know that it doesnt work that way with a 2 year old.I have 3 children so it is not like this is a first time thing for me. I have used the corner with all 3. There is nothing wrong with my kids, they have great self esteem and they are not humiliated in any way. I do not talk down to them. They know exactly why they are stood in the corner. Before they go in I tell them why they are in there and they are told to think about it for the time they are in there. My nine year old get 9 minutes, 5 year old gets 5 minutes and 4 year old gets 4 minutes.I'll tell you there are parents out there that treat their kids so much worse, like beating them or talking down to them.
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@smilyn (2964)
• United States
25 Mar 08
yes, I accept it is a kind of disciplining the kids..But I'm really excited how you do it..My 2 year old is not even listening to my words..How can I explain him about this? Can you please suggest me how you introduced this technique to our kids?
• United States
22 Mar 08
That's ridiculous! So your're telling me it's child abuse to discipline your kids? I really don't think that's true.
• United States
23 Mar 08
some people really dont think you should use any form of discipline on your kids. Especially the schools now a days. It is crazy.
• United States
21 Mar 08
Well if its considered child abuse to stand your child in the corner I'd hate to see what they call it when I make my son go in his room without toys or tv when he's bad! You sound like a great mother ;) I wouldnt let that get to you, that's just crazy!
• United States
23 Mar 08
Boy I'll tell ya my parents would have spent years in prison. I spent more time in the corner than I dont know what. LOL
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
21 Mar 08
I'm not going to judge this myself...you don't tell me how to raise my kids and I'm not going to tell you how to raise yours. BUT the school system does consider this a form of abuse. Being stood in a corner is thought of as a form of humiliation that can emotionally traumatize a child. A school can get in big trouble if they do it to a child (and I know that somewhat first hand because a former teacher of mine did this to us constantly...the school settled out of court and he was required to take special classes, have counseling and there was money involved but they couldn't disclose it) I don't know what they would do to a parent caught doing this but it wouldn't surprise me if you were at least required to take parenting classes with the understanding that you'd lose your children if you didn't. Harsh I know but that's the way the system works today.
• United States
23 Mar 08
I agree. I think you should discipline your children privately. It is humiliating to them if it is done in front of other people and I dont think that is right.
@banipenet (283)
23 Mar 08
My boy is 1 year old and half. For the moment i can't put him on the corner because he don't understand me, but when he will grow a little i will trully put him on the corner when he will do a bed thing. I don't know really at what age i can do this, but i'm convinsed that i will know at the right moment. I don't think that is a child abuse because we don't hurt them but we impose them who is the parent and who is the child.