How often do you try to see yourself through other people's eyes?

@klaudyou (501)
March 21, 2008 6:53pm CST
...both when you do something bad and something good... It's about self-adjustment by understanding how others think about us. Do we care about this social aspect? I usually try to put myself in others's person (my friends and not only) just to see myself better, with a more critical eye...in this way I think I can adjust my social interaction and my own way of thinking, acting...and so on. What about you?
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6 responses
• United States
22 Mar 08
Actually, when I think about it...I do this quite often. I think about how I may look, act, or just how others percieve me in general, from both male and female perspective. It's not that I'm worried about what people think of me, I just like to see where there coming from when they say certain things. Lately I've been trying to adjust my facial expression because most of the time people think I'm angry or irritated with something, when it's just my normal expression. But most of the time I forget and don't realize it until my boyfriend tells me someone asked him what's wrong with me...but I don't stress over it, that's just me I guess.
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@klaudyou (501)
22 Mar 08
Maybe it's not always about image. Thanks.
@madlees (1381)
• India
17 Apr 08
I also this very often creative angel. It at that time I am able to understand others and why they are behaving like this. I always put on that sort of a thinking cap and try to find out what is wrong with me from their point of view and vice versa. I have seen that it has worked many times and I have been able to sort out the problems easily. I am able to empathise with them alsoeasily, if need be help them out of their problem. But still there are one or two I am not able to understand because they are not consistent.
@chiyosan (30196)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
I do this when i think there is a need to do so, or when a situation calls for it. Other than that... i just try to be me. I just try to understand other people more cause there is always a reason why people do certain things.
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@klaudyou (501)
22 Mar 08
Of course, but we are becoming "me" in accordance to the society, right? Thanks.
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
22 Mar 08
I don't do it often...not unless a situation comes up and then I HAVE to think from the other's point of view...and then I realize why they are acting the way they did...because of how they percieve me...based on previous experiences. If nothing's said, I usually don't bother to see myself through the eyes of others. I just assume it's the same as what I think about myself(though that's not always the case).
@klaudyou (501)
22 Mar 08
Feed-back for our actions is important, since it may improve our behaviour in the future, no matter if the feed-bac is negative or positive... Thanks.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
22 Mar 08
You are so right about that!
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• United States
22 Mar 08
I usually do this when the situation seems to dictate it, mostly in order to avoid confrontations. I examine what I say and how I say it. I do however do this even with my actions also in certain situations.
@klaudyou (501)
22 Mar 08
Good thing to do, to adjust self-control. Thanks.
22 Mar 08
I do this all the time. But I honestly think I care what others think about me too often. I mean I do think that it is good to do. But I wouldn't advise being like me and really letting others opinions get you down.
@klaudyou (501)
22 Mar 08
Maybe you are in a "transformation stage"...This care for others won't take forever, trust me... Thanks.
@Breath (1297)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Call it a fault but I always try to see my self through other peoples eyes.My friends become my reality check and mirrior.I think it is good to be your self but oncein a while just keep your self in check...