we nearly lost our little girl....
By elemental69
@elemental69 (1561)
Ireland
March 22, 2008 3:18pm CST
Last night was the most horrifying night of mine and my husbands life... My 2 year old daughter started having a seizure and stopped breathing. I called for an ambulance straight away, but thankfully my husband was able to get her breathing again. We both thought that we had lost her. The hospital checked her out and said that it was a febrile seizure caused by a rapid increase in her temperature. I havent let her out of my sight all day...I am still shaking writing this...it was so frightening to go through. It was the first time this has ever happened to us. I sent my boss a message saying what had happened and that I wouldnt be able to go in today. Well she rang me back and asked was I not available for work at all this weekend (I dont work Sundays anyway). I explained the situation again and she wasnt very happy. She also told me that I should ring her during the week to see if my job is still there..I was so annoyed at her that I nearly told her where to stick her job, but I just told her fair enough and hung up on her. So now I have to look for another job in the next few days. My friends tell me to seek legal advice but I dont know if it is worth the hassle... I am just so glad that my little girl is ok.
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@kym555 (13)
• Canada
22 Mar 08
Well first off I'm glad to hear that your little girl is ok! I couldn't imagine going through that myself! And second (pardon my french for saying this) but your boss is a B!#C*!!! She oviously doesn't have kids of her own and if she does I feel for them because it seems she doesn't have a heart! I wouldn't let her get away with this. You should do everything in your power that you can. Take legal matters go to the labour board if you have to. That just isn't right! It just erks me that someone would be that insensitive! Good luck to you and what ever direction you take!!!
@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
22 Mar 08
Thank you kim.... She doesnt have any kids and cant bear to be around them. I have decided to take it further and get advice on what steps to take next. Its definitely not for the money... she treats a lot of her staff like dirt and its about time that someone took a stand.
@kezabelle (2974)
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22 Mar 08
I am so glad your little girl is ok, having had the fear of almost losing my daughter the day she was born I say take a little time to spend with your little girl its a huge hit to the system which can take a while to get over.
As for your job while there are many others out there your boss still has no right to even threaten the loss of your job when your daughter was so obviously ill, good luck with that wether you choose to go back or not.
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@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
22 Mar 08
I hope your little one is doing okay now... My boss is more interested in lining her own pocket. I am going to apply for 4 jobs first thing monday morning. I dont really want to go back to where I was and my hubby says that he doesnt want me to go back there to put up with that kind of crap... I have done some research on the net and I have a good case if I want to go ahead with it so its something to think about...
@kezabelle (2974)
•
23 Mar 08
Oh yes she is fine, a healthy little girl now just turned 4. Good luck with the job hunting then and if you decide to take things further against your boss. hope your little girl is feeling better
@inked4life (4224)
• United States
22 Mar 08
That is awful. I'm glad everyyhing worked out ok. I can't imagine how you guys must have felt. It is my worst nightmare that anything should happen to my kids, I don't know if I could hold it together if it did.
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@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
22 Mar 08
Thanks inked... It is so frightening.. I held it together as best as I could until we got home and then I just fell to pieces. I am so thankful that my husband was still able to think straight and got her breathing again. And if it wasnt for the little lady in my avatar I wouldnt have known that there was something wrong with her little sister. :-)
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Oh my, elemental...I am so glad she is doing well..I can't even imagine how scared you all were..As far as your job, well if they can't understand then that is just horrible..Your daughter is more important than that job...I can't believe they treated you that way...Hugs to you, your husband and super duper hugs to the little one....
@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
22 Mar 08
Thanks you so much Feona.... I cant wait till I find another job... I will have great pleasure in telling her I quit!!! :-)
@Pandaboy (157)
• China
23 Mar 08
what can we say to such a so-called boss!!He is just a boss,not human.As my imagination,ireland should be a country with peace,fair and humanity.But there is just economic benifit in his eyes!
I dont know what you will suffer if you change your job.However,congratulation to your princess!God bless her and you family.
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@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
14 May 08
Thank you pandaboy, I left that job a couple weeks after that and was offered a better job, closer to home with a better boss!!
@gavsmomjamie (319)
• United States
22 Mar 08
I'm so sorry!
I'm glad she's ok though :)
I cant even imagine what that was like for you and good luck with the job search. If your boss is going to be that ignorant than I'd be happy to leave them
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@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
22 Mar 08
It was so so terrifiying.... This is a woman who has no kids herself and hates kids full-stop. To be honest I do feel sorry for her sometimes, all she has is her money and her partner. When all is said and done I would rather be poor and happy, than rich and miserable..... :-)
@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
Oh my hun I am so sorry for what you went through that must have been so scary.
I have always believed that our family comes before our jobs and if your boss wants to be suck a cow then let her. I'm sure you can find another job and it will only be her loss.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
25 Mar 08
First off, I'm glad your daughter is doing better. I hope her temperature stays down (and the seizures stay gone). Hope she's hanging in there, and the same for you and your husband too. I can only lightly imagine what this was like.
Other than that, I'd at least consider legal advice. Why should you be punished for leaving your job to care for your dying daughter? I see it in a pragmatic way (being derelict in duty) but lets face facts. With most civilian work, if someone skips out a couple of hours or a day, the world's not going to end. Most places should be lenient on issues like this and if not, that's just sad. -_-
@alamode (3071)
• United States
24 Mar 08
It took me a while to be able to answer this because it took me back to when my grandson first showed his sleep apnea... he was a week old, sleeping on my chest, and he just 'stopped'. I still haven't quite gotten over it, even though he's 21 and doing fine!
As for your job... she may think you were just making an excuse... see how it goes.
@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
4 Apr 08
That is terrible. I hope she is ok now. I am so lucky to have never been through anything like that with any of my four. Mine just worry me in other ways, like the way they threaten to cause an emergency trip to the ER from their climbing.
I hope you didn't lose your job. If you were in Australia, they wouldn't be allowed to sack you over that. It's called compasionate leave here.
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
2 Jul 08
OMG! i coukd so understand how scary that would be for you and your husband!. that must have been a nightmare:( im glad your little girl is okay though. and your husband!!!!! hero much! he got her to breath again!. if he couldnt do that who knows what could have happend. good job for him. im sure shell thank him for it one day:)... and i know i would cherish him for the rest of his life for sure for that.
i hope that this never happends again.i know how scared i would be...
best wishes to you and your family...
~britt
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Mar 08
Hi that is a very frightening experience.I am so glad too that your little girl is okay. How thoughless and unkind your boss wasafter you had taken pains to inform her of what happened. Maybe you well be better off with a new job with a more humane boss. good luck.
@sophiasmom911 (1345)
• United States
22 Mar 08
As a mom myself I can only imafgine how terrifying this was for you... I dont know what I would do, just be happy your princess is ok! I cant believe your boss is being like that. she technically cant fire you, because if you back to the hospital they will give you a statement saying you were their
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@elemental69 (1561)
• Ireland
22 Mar 08
To be honest I couldnt care less about the job, there are plenty more out there. It was just her attitude. My kids are way out in front as far as any job is concerned. Thanks for the advice. :-)
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Oh my, that had to have been terrifying. I am so very glad that your little one is ok. Your boss sounds like a real dooozy. I agree with you and your hubby, you don't have to put up with none of that crap. Who does she think she is, she can't compete with your little girl. If she acts like that she is going to have troubles finding anyone to work for her. I have always told my sister when she is contemplating getting a new job or leaving a job. There is only one you and hundreds and thousands of jobs. You were looking or a job when you got that one. Good luck with next week. Happy Easter, it will be happy....everytime you look at your litle one and know she is ok. I am really happy for you that she is ok.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
23 Mar 08
i can imagine how scared you and your husband are last night... i will be as well if i were the mother... i'm glad that she is OK now... i'm sorry to hear that your boss treat you like that... she doesn't understand at all and she is acting like a jerk... i wish you all the best in finding a better job... take care and good luck...
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
23 Mar 08
oh im so sorry hear about your little girl, im glad she is ok. my neice has been through that a fair bit over last few years.its a shocking situation to be in looking at a young life infront of you.
if i was you, your boss cant do that to you as that is classed as unfair dismissal. you have the right to have day off to your child health. unless if you dont want to work there anymore, sounds like your boss isnt a very nice person (dont worry im ina similar situation at work at the moment) and we dont need rubbish like that when going to work, we should be treated with respect.
hope everything works out for u
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I'm so sorry your little girl had a seizure. I have seizures too sometimes but since getting a cat a year ago I have had none. They say cats regulate your brain chimistry or something. I would try talking to your boss again, perhaps she and you were both a little rattled and hasty in your decision. If she fires you I'm sorry and I'm sure the powers that be will deal with her better than you, I or any court system could. I employ several epole and would only fire someone with an ill child if them missing shifts became a habbit. Since this is only a one time instance, we hope to God, I woudln't fire you, but my employees say I'm different than the average boss
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Mar 08
You definitely made the right choice. I believe that it would be very cold and irresponsible to take off and go anywhere that your life did not depend on. I am so sorry to hear about you going through something so horrible. I couldn't imagine it.
I am glad that your baby pulled through and is going to be fine. I don't think that I would want to work for a boss who was that heartless. But I personally would not want an employee who would think more of work than family. Maybe that would not make me a good boss, but that is how I am. Family first, EVERYTHING, else second. With the exception of God.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
How frightening for all of you. So sad little children have to go through such horrible things. Blessings to your precious one. It is hard to believe that this is what your boss said to you. What type of work do you do?
