Did you happen to live under the shadow of a smart sibling in your family?

By Bala
@balasri (26549)
India
March 23, 2008 1:36am CST
Did you grow up thinking that you were not good enough? If so do you have any implications of that effect on you now?
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
23 Mar 08
lol..after the last discussion I started, I think my sister must have grown up thinking so. There are lots of pros and cons to either side...depending on the people around. I was smarter as far as academics and obedience went....but I feel my sister was smarter about doing the things she wanted to. Maybe because we felt she wasn't smart in studying (my theory for that is very different from what others in the family think...but that's another discussion topic altogether), we were always there to guide her to make smart moves and to choose the right path (her interest and capability taken into consideration) in career....and it worked out well for her. As far as I am concerned...being the academically smart one, I was left to my own devices....and had to make my own choices....but at that age it was confusing and I did make some wrong moves. so, now you tell me...who overshadowed who?
@balasri (26549)
• India
23 Mar 08
Well, by the way you explained the things it looks that you both avoided the shadows of each other falling on you both very tactfully.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
29 Mar 08
lol..certainly seems like that, doesn't it? We just had different positives and negatives...and maybe because our parents were who they are....we never felt one was favoured over the other because one of us is smarter. Our individual areas (where we were smart) was discussed in a matter of fact way.
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@zeloguy (4913)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I was the first-born in my family and most definately the A-type personality in my family. I was the leader no matter what that meant and a lot of times that got me into a LOT of trouble. Ahh... if we had life to do over again. Thanks great question Zelo
@balasri (26549)
• India
24 Mar 08
Even I am the oldest among us brothers.I do had my privileges.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
I actually grew up thinking not good enough, but it only made me try harder with more than extra effort. It is not the thinking that matters sometimes, but what we do about it. I also grew up thinking that my sister is much smarter than me, but I grew up more popular than her and breezed through high school and college through scholarships which my sister didn't have. Again, it was because I tried harder because I always felt that I have to prove something to myself. In the end, I couldn't say that I still ended up better than her, but it made me happy because I gave my best shot.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Yes, I know what you mean. I have an older sister who in the eyes of my dad she was always perfect. Is okay because I love my sister a lot and she has always been there for me. Due to her strong character she is the most successful ,so I'm happy for her. My brother and I are happy for her ,but we like our lives too ,and is okay if we don't have so much money like her. At the ends what counts is that we are all happy.