Oh I really wish I hadn't posted that discussion

United States
March 23, 2008 1:50am CST
Have you ever posted a discussion and as soon as you started getting responses or even when you've looked back at it later, regretted posting it? Have you posted discussions that made you uncomfortable or you felt were too shallow? Have you tried to have these discussions deleted or wished that they would never resurface? Or is there comments that you have left on other people's discussions which you wish you hadn't?
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@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
Yes, but not because of the responses. It's because of the fact that nobody liked the discussion. No responses were given for it. I felt that maybe, it is something out of their interest and just a waste of time. Anyway, amidst all that, I will still pursue sharing my thoughts and learning. Coming to mylot is a journey for me. To learn, to share, and to get along. You might want to know two of my discussions that got no responses for days. Here it is: 1. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1440350.aspx (it's been 5 days) 2. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1442018.aspx (it's been 3 days) Help me tell what is wrong with it or was it so shallow. It would be a great help! Thanks!
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• United States
23 Mar 08
I don't think either one of your discussions was shallow by any means. Perhaps a bit complicated, particularly the first one. Perhaps simplifying the question and giving examples of what you are talking about would help. Either way, I have left you comments for both. I hope that helps.
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@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
yeah, I know how you feel jeanniemay. and I also kinda feel ignored when no one posts in my discussion. hehe..
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
Thank you KB, it was helpful and I am learning now. I'm pleased. Dons, it helps to have good friends who teach and tell us the good points. Keep posting too. See you around!
• United States
23 Mar 08
I have done that a few times, plus I have posted a few articles, that I wish I would have proof read a few times before I sent it off for the world to see...
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• United States
23 Mar 08
Infact I now wish I would have just proof read the last discussion I posted... I used a word that I hope no one takes offense to...
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• United States
23 Mar 08
I don't necessarily worry about misspelling something, because we have to leave room for human error.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
23 Mar 08
No not yet I haven't but I suppose it can happen and probably will happen one Day to me I hope not to be honest but it is easy done I guess when you are not in the right frame of mind
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• United States
23 Mar 08
Thats incredible that you don't regret anything you've posted for as many posts as you have obviously made. It just goes to show, that you really take the time to think out your discussions and comments before posting them. Good job.
@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
I certainly have. I made a post about "not gonna say" but it got me slammed by a lot of people. I regretted creating it after the first two posts when I noticed that the post had not been read the way I wrote it in my mind. To make it worse I told a friend about how I screwed up and guess what. They went in and found the post and made a comment on it, which brought it back to the foreground and I started getting responses that I didn't want over and over. I take a couple of minutes thinking about the subject matter now, before posting a discussion.
• United States
23 Mar 08
I've had this happen also. As I said in a previous comment, sometimes to be able to give out all the information you might need so that someone can give an informed opinion, would take writing a novel, which obviously we can't do. All they can do is go on the information they are given and its hard to word it sometimes in a manner which is easy to understand.
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
Know, I am happy will all my discussions, I can't help how some people will take them though.
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• United States
23 Mar 08
I don't think you should be worried about how people will take your comments as long as they aren't purposely meanhearted. Giving your honest opinion is vital to any discussion.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
23 Mar 08
I have posted responses which I hoped persons would not take an offense to but I always say how I feel. There's one discussion I came across earlier which really had some heat to it. I did not contribute but persons really seemed to say exactly how they feel and I think thats how it should be. I believe that as adults all around the world posting our own veiws and responses on various issues tempers will flare and all. At the end of the day the aim should be about learning as much as possible from each other and to learn even more to respect another persons view or way of thinking.
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• United States
23 Mar 08
I think your answer was very well put and makes alot of sense. I am always afraid of stepping on someones toes. I probably should shoot more from the hip.
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
Yes I do, actually not just discussion but also some comments I have made. I wish that there's a delete function somehow. Haha... Sometimes, I would feel that my comments would end up hurting somebody else. I was too stupid to post it up and when I read it again. I would say "Uh oh! what have I done?" Haha
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• United States
23 Mar 08
I never worry about the comments I leave. Perhaps I'm too nice or worry too much about hurting someones feelings. As a matter of fact, usually if I don't have something nice to say, I usually don't comment at all. I should probably get over that.
@donsky14 (5961)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
yeah, that happened to me once. But it was on a different forum. I posted about my "love life", and man...did I get a lot of scolding from my story.. hehe...
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• United States
23 Mar 08
Sometimes its really hard to post about something really personal. You can't give all the details without writing a novel and people can only comment on the information you were able to give. Without having the whole picture, they might not see your point of view.
• Philippines
25 Mar 08
that happened to me more than once. i was being scolded by some of my friends for being honest. hahaha! i also posted topics that are quite personal. and so, ive been given comments that are intriguing.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I have on occasion made certain comments without really thinking about what I was saying. I did apologise once as I know I used the wrong word and it sounded quite mean what I said. Oh well I apologised and if they were still upset then there really isn't anything else I can say.
• China
24 Mar 08
hehe,it didn't happen till present,i am new here..
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
24 Mar 08
oh yes. just the other day i posted 2 that were so similar it was stupid. It was something that was weighing on my mind and I wasn't sure how I was going to word it. I got on and posted and then went to work for 10 hours. when I got home, I forgot that I actually posted the discussion and thought that I just thought about it and did another one. I felt so so stupid. I do wish they would add that feature so that we could delete our own discussions. I just read one where a lady posted and worded it so very badly and got such harsh responses. I felt bad for her because as she answered the responses , i could clearly see that it was just how she had worded it. If only she could have deleted and started over with what she really meant to say!
@catmint (628)
• Singapore
24 Mar 08
I haven't done something like that yet, and I hope I won't be doing something like that...but humans erred. What I really wished for was an edit button, sometimes I hit the post button too quick and goes back to see spelling mistakes! *gasp* I guess the wonderful thing about the internet is the delete button. It gives you the freedom to reconsider your actions and you can delete whatever you intend to do before you do it.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I have only started a handful of discussions. I don't regret any of them. I have responded to a bunch of discussions and I can't think of any off the top of my head that I would take back. I guess if there were any, they would have been written in the beginning before I had a full grasp of how mylot worked. I didn't realize for a week or so that links weren't allowed. I saw them posted left and right in discussions, but I learned quickly.
@cortjo73 (6500)
• United States
23 Mar 08
Yes! 3 times! I won't be specific! I just wish that I could take them back. They were nothing to salacious but, I still would rather have them gone, never to be seen again!
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
23 Mar 08
A couple of times. Plus there are a few members on here who are looking for any reason to grill you. If there's an "opening" or if they've got some sort of mental hangup they'll do it. Its worse when you encounter members who forget that this place is an opinion and expression forum and they try to grill you personally for your opinion (instead of trying to deal with the opinion/argument).
@gemini_rose (16192)
23 Mar 08
Yes I feel like that, sometimes I have put up a discussion thinking it was ok, only to notice a while later that someone has put the same discussion up but just worded it differently, but they have worded it better than me and I think well why didnt I put it like that instead. Sometimes I leave a responce that sounds like one thing in my head but in words looks completely different. Then I think that the person will think I am being funny with them when I am not!
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
23 Mar 08
So, far, that hasn't come to me. I am really careful about the topic I choose and the way I say things. The only regrets I have are the physical errors I overlooked that I only realized after posting. Sometimes, I add an erratum, other times, I don't bother because it's understandably, human error.
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
23 Mar 08
I respond to discussion about Obama. I said what I believe is true about Obama, because I think he is really good candidate. Should I think twice? There are so many people thinking about him as too black or too white and obviously if you say something positive about him, they are ready to burn you alive. I should know better by now not to respond to any discussion about politics.
@mummymo (23707)
23 Mar 08
I think I have done both at some time in the past sweetheart but I guess it is more to do with the fact that I am more worried about not getting my point across properly or thinking that people do not see what I am trying to say properly as I may not have worded it properly more than anything! I have only ever tried to get one discussion deleted as I had somehow managed to post it about 5 times! lol They did eventaully delete most of the multiples! xxx