kitchen sinking in an argument
@Hatley (163772)
Garden Grove, California
March 23, 2008 12:47pm CST
MyLotters has this happened to you during an argument with your mate. the one who is upset completely leaves the topic of his upset and starts bringing up old conflicts from the past that have nothing to do with your current argument? this is called kitchen sinking as they bring up really old arguments about everything but the kitchen sink.
ex my husband was really upset with me over my leaving the cap off the toothpaste tube and started to go back over past grievances like you never put my tools back youalways do thus and thus and brought up everything but the kitchen sink
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@getunaddicted (210)
• United States
23 Mar 08
yeah, I think every one has done that in relationships. I don't think it is right to do, but even I have to admit I have done it.
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@getunaddicted (210)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yeah in the heat of the moment we usually say stuff that we regret later own... Or atleast how we said it...
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
24 Mar 08
That's is "understandable".
It ALWAYS happens. Disputes routinely bring out the worst in people. For all parties.
I would just suggest you remember only the good things. Don't remember the nasty things he says no matter how true it might be - he just doesn't mean it that way.
In a dispute, the key is to hurt the other party. I am sure that if he loves you, he will regret all the harsh words he said soon enough. Forgive him, set yourself free.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 08
ooh I did a long time ago I am now a widow for some years. now my son is the one who at times kitchensinks and I will walk off when he does that as he will then realize he has pushed me too far. I always forgive him as he does love me.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Is that what that is called? Okay, I am guilty of that....I tend to go off topic and start complaining about everything and nothing at the same time...Yikes!! I will think before I do any of that again...
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@above31rubies (1863)
• United States
23 Mar 08
This is actually something my husband and I rarely do...on occasion it will but is usually bringing up a very recent "offense" that hasn't been completely resolved.
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