How long can you give your trust???

@alexigne (903)
Philippines
March 24, 2008 4:52am CST
I know that trust is one of the main ingredients in a relationship... How long can you trust him/her if you discovered that, not once, not twice he/she lie to you??? Will you give up for your love or just keep on going on until your love will fade away and respect is gone???
5 responses
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
24 Mar 08
Hello alexigne and welcome to mylot, hope you enjoy it as much as I do. This is an important issue, a go topic actually. For me, I guess, one lie get my respect of the person who did lie to me is gone, and will probably take along time or if no time to get back. I know one of my daughters friend had a question from a boy about me, and she said to him, if you do not get her respect from the beginning, you will have a hard time to get it. You have to prove your self to her. I guess that say much about me. However, all my daughters friend like to be around me and talk a lot to me, so I guess I have their respect and that they do listen to what I say. I do not like to be lied to, in fact I do hate when people do not tell me the truth. My feeling is tell me in front of me and be honest and you have my respect. How am I to know if you do not tell me. How would I change if I am wrong and you do not tell me. I feel being dishonest is showing lack of respect of a person. That is how I feel.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
What if the one that has a lie to you is the one that you really love and his lie almost ruin you life
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
24 Mar 08
To me , respect one person is as important as Love. I feel respect and love goes hand by hand. Instead I would ask: How can you love and respect someone who lies to you.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
24 Mar 08
i think it depends about the intensity of the croime. if its purely cheating i won't give chance. it its just little lies may be 2-3 times.still it will depend.
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
What if the one that lie to you is the one that you really love and you think that you can't live without him/her
• United States
24 Mar 08
For me it was, I kept hoping that she would see that it was me that Loves her, but after repeatedly finding out that she was cheating on me, and bringing them into the place we worked while I was not there, and bragging that she was seeing them too. I had to finally let that one go.
@diillu (5128)
24 Mar 08
Yes, trust is the main ingredients in the relatinship. And it is sure that without Trust relationship won't get chance to mature rather it ends up having many other problems and eventually with trust the love will fade away. And to trust the partner even though they tend to lie, I think it depends upon the lie that they are telling. We can oversee some small lies just to protect our relationship but if there's something big lies than I think we should take action about that immidietley.
• United States
24 Mar 08
This is a tough one and it sounds retarded but the question you have to ask yourself is what do you stand to lose if you give them more time or if you shut them down right away. Really if it is new and there is more havoc and heartache then good times the answer should be there are other fish in the sea. The difference is you can guard yourself or distance yourself without giving up all trust. I think if you are lied to the trust is violated and in any circumstance to be fair should be earned back. Otherwise is your trust really trust or accepting the person with all their flaws?