Did you know that "Patience" is a skill?

@Feona1962 (7527)
United States
March 25, 2008 5:29pm CST
There is good news..."If you don't consider youself a patient person, you can become one with a little practice." At the grocery store, wait in the longest checkout line...Or when your child is crying, try quietly holding him rather than rushing to make him stop.... "You will learn that patience gives you vision." "When you are patient you tend to see things that you would have otherwise missed..--..like your childs emotional needs rather than the annoyance on the surface." Be patient and see the world around you... Are you a patient person? I am and then I'm not...just depends... With everything that goes on in our lives, I can see how our patience would wear thin...It is not as easy as it sounds....
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
26 Mar 08
I always knew that patience was a virtue, but I didn't know it was a skill. I'm not the most patient person, though it depends a lot on the situation, and my mood. I have actually improved quite a lot in the years since my son has been born, and my wife often comments on how differently I act in situations now, as compared to 5 years ago. I guess maybe I have already started learning that skill.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
26 Mar 08
If you ask my husband he will say I have no patience...I don't have patience for mechanical things...I am always saying, "nothing should be this hard." so I give up and he fixes it...but when it comes to my grandsons, I have alot of patience..It gets tested but for the most part I am patient with them...I don't know that I will ever become the patience Master...but that is okay...
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
27 Mar 08
I like mechanical things and technical things, I'm just not that keen on doing that sort of thing if someone's hanging over my shoulder. Let me know if you ever do become a patience master, I'll need your training manual! If I had the patience to read it, LOL!
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Ha Ha Ho Ho He He....That manual will never be written, by me anyway...so please don't hold your breath....
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
26 Mar 08
Yes I am a Patient Person I must be I suffered a Marriage of verbal and emotional Abuse for 21 Years before I realised it would never change no matter how hard I tried for it to work I am patient it takes me a long time to loose but when I do beware lol as there is no stopping me
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Oh Gabs...this is something I did not know...thank you for sharing it with me..I am so sorry for what you went through...No one deserves that, ever...I am glad you are out of that situation and that you have Gissi to comfort you....BIG SUPER HUGS......((((Gabs))))
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 08
Don't apologize Sweetie only a few People know and that is only when it comes up in something like this it's over now and I have to get over it I have not done bad in the 5 years I have been divorced and I proved that on my Daughters Birthday I was not scared of him any more and that is a big step for me Big Hugs back to you
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Yes and no.... Sometimes it all depends if I know I have other things to do I will do them in a faster way to get everything done.. I won't wait in the longest line at the store to get checked out, I just won't do that takes to long... See I'm not as patient as I really should be.. My husband is always telling me to slow do and be just that.. Yeah right I learned it from my parents..
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I know what you are saying..especially if I'm running behind or something of that nature...then everything has to speed up to get it done...Half the time I just say, oh well, it can get done tomorrow...LOL...and who now adays has the time to wait in the longest checkout...like we have that much time...especially with kids...
• United States
26 Mar 08
Yeah if i were to say I'll do that tomorrow it doesn't happen for a few days after wards.. I'm like oh yeah I was suppose to do that yesterday... I can be so forgetful at times... Yes having kids in the store and having to wait forever in a line isn't a good thing cause then they are running around bored out of there little minds... lol
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• United States
27 Mar 08
Yes i do believe that patience is a skill. It is something that we can put to action or not. We all have some kind of patience. I think that being patient is very good for us as humans. Sometimes when we move to quick, we end up facing some serious problems. So that is why we as people need to be strong minded you know. But I will say that patience is a skill. You either activate it or not.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Hi Des, I liked the way you explained it...and I do agree that if we move to quickly, we would end up worse off....
@karma118 (294)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I was unaware that patience was a skill. HAHA I actually thought it was inherited!! It sounds silly but I always thought you were either born with it or you weren't. I'm glad to hear that I can practice and get better at it. I guess I just never gave it a chance! Thanks for the info!! That makes me feel a lot better! Maybe I can actually change! haha
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Now don't you worry..I can understand with 2 little ones that your patience runs pretty thin sometimes...and that is normal...
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
26 Mar 08
It's a very interesting discusion and I 'm happy to knoe a few facts about patience. I don't have patience at all but after marriage, situations are forcing me to be patient and wait for the things to happen on their own.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Sometimes waiting is all we can do..It can be tough but if we wait the outcome can be alot nicer...
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
18 Apr 08
I am really patient. but, the problem is sometimes patience will not lead the results you want. I mean patience to get nothing in the end is not patience, it is simply a waste of time. if you are standing in a row, you know that your turn is gonna come this is why you wait and be patient. but in other cases this turn will never ever come. the bottom line is being patient is good if you know where you are heading to. I like this discussion.
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@overhere (515)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I have to say that as I get older I become more patient I tend not to fret about the things I can't change anymore (like long lines though working in Walmart I can at least avoid the cashiers that I know are slow haha the shortest line isn't always the quickest!. The funniest thing is that I tend to get most impatient and lose my cool over my husbands irrational impatience lol he has the shortest fuse with other idiocy of anyone I have met but as I learn he will never change I guess I'll grow more patient with that too.