24 year old virgin!!

United States
March 25, 2008 7:10pm CST
ok so I had to blog about this real quick. In another mylot post it was a girl asking if it was ok if she was 24 and never been with a guy period...never dated or anything. Everyone was telling her how it was ok and not to worry about it but I am sorry I had to post some rude comment about how not ok it was. I mean do people really think this is ok? Get a life! Also maybe if she could type english or know grammar at all maybe then she would get her some man with all her "wate"...ing that she has done. Geesh isnt it all cobwebbed up in there I would assume it would take some jaws of life at this point. Well I think I am done ranting for now.
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
hei you cant just judge a person like that especially her way of speaking english.. not all countries know how to speak your language.. only few countries do and you must know that.. yes being single is alright at the age of 24.. lets just say she is a late bloomer.. i have ob resident friends who are still single and never had a boyfriend since birth. yes she is looking for one and mind you, she is pretty, slender and tall... for a person like that mylot user, she is asking for opinions from people who would help her change her point of view right? why is virginity also an issue here? has it become a ruling that a woman has to lose her virginity at a very young age? okay tell me, what age should it be?? age 12 for you to call her a woman??? it is really okay and that it doesnt mean that having No Boyfriend since birth is an abnormal thing. who knows, maybe somebody likes her but is too scared to express his feelings for her. everybodys attitude are not the same.. the conclusion to this is that: IT IS ALRIGHT IF YOU STAY SINGLE AT THIS AGE BECAUSE THE RIGHT PERSON COMES AT THE RIGHT TIME. YOU DONT HAVE TO LOOK FOR THAT PERSON, HE COME LOOK FOR YOU...
• United States
26 Mar 08
Well you may be right about the english factor however where I live and where I am from it is not normal. As you say she posted it because she wants someone to change her mind. So I am just helping her along with that, she obviously doesnt think it is normal either if she needs validation on mylot.
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@callarse1 (4787)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Babystar22, it's really none of your business what she does with her life. Perhaps she is shy or insecure, but you aren't her boss, and it's her blog after all so it's her personal thoughts. She doesn't need someone being a smart a** to her. Basically, you just assume lots of things, like it's a bad thing being a virgin?! Bascially, I don't like your attitude and that is MY RANTHit me back if you want to chat further. Add me as a friend if you want. Pablo
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• United States
26 Mar 08
Well I would say after she put her story out on mylot that it isnt my business but hey if I can make some change off talking about it and saying my opinions on it they hey cool. I am not trying to be her boss...not sure where that came from..but I just find it odd.
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@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
Well I really don't see why you think it's such a BIG deal. Did you know that Pheobe off of Friends(can't remember her real name)was a virgin until she was 31yrs.old..she waited until she was married...don't see anything wrong with having self respect. If more people waited there would be less unwanted babies,STD's, HIV/Aids.
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• United States
26 Mar 08
uuummm that would be why Friends is a show on T.V. not real life. Remember that guy on Superman...he could fly around and had super human strength and faster than a speeding bullet....sounds good right? That doesnt mean I am waiting for the right color sun to come my way to have the ability to fly and stop trains....
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@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
The actress in REAL LIFE!!! whos name I can remember waited until she was Married !!!at the age of 31yrs.!!!
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• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Found it: "Lisa Kudrow from Friends is another famous person who proudly stayed a virgin until marriage (she was 31)." I guess, someone doesn't understand English much around here...tsk tsk...(hint! hint!) I totally agree with you BlackBay. We wouldn't have to deal with unwanted babies, STDs, HIV/Aids if people just learn how to wait.
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26 Mar 08
It's not abnormal to be a virgin at 24. At least she hasn't just followed the crowd and jumped into bed with anyone and everyone. The amount of people you've slept with isn't a status symbol. There is nothing wrong with being single either. If it makes you happy and you can support yourself then isn't that more commendable.
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@Hatley (164170)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Mar 08
you two are so right. nothing wrong with being a virgin at twenty four at all. its easy to do whatevery one else does but that doesn't make it right and it is very easy to lose your virginity and also to make bad choices but much harder and wiser to take care in whom you date and whom you marry.
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26 Mar 08
Thank you. It does seem that all too many people think they have to lose there virginity at an early age mainly because they believe everyone else to be doing so. I'm not saying I'm some virginal prude that is just backing the corner that she stands in but when I lost my virginity it was for the right reasons, for myself an nobody else. I remember the pressure and all the rumours that used to go around school about who was sleeping with who when they never were, they aren't going to say that they weren't as active as everyone was making out because it made them seem attractive, exciting and popular. It's easy to follow the crowd but harder to lead. You can't really make assumptions at what is normal and what is abnormal for everyone as we are all individuals with different needs. It's time everybody realised that some people aren't at it as much as they make out they are.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Mar 08
"ok so I had to blog about this real quick. In another mylot post it was a girl asking if it was ok if she was 24 and never been with a guy period...never dated or anything." I'd find it unusual, but people have their own lives to live. "Everyone was telling her how it was ok and not to worry about it but I am sorry I had to post some rude comment about how not ok it was." That's your opinion. "I mean do people really think this is ok?" Um yes there are people like this. Where you are from...I find it hard to believe you've not encountered people with this thinking or similar thinking, as people like this do exist (despite all of your claims to the contrary). "Get a life!" That is not an argument. Its only an expression used by people who fail at arguments. Also note how your rant first went from "explaining your opinion and trying to get some affirmation (that's what it looked like to me) to slamming everyone who has a different opinion than your own. "Also maybe if she could type english or know grammar at all maybe then she would get her some man with all her "wate"...ing that she has done. Geesh isnt it all cobwebbed up in there I would assume it would take some jaws of life at this point. Well I think I am done ranting for now." For someone complaining about English and grammar, your discussion has it's own flaws (missing punctuation, missing capitalization). Oh, nice personal attack too. You're looking stellar by the minute (/sarcasm) -_-.
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• United States
26 Mar 08
hahahahaha no I just find it amusing that people like you get all upset about it. That would be my thing. Also I have not personally attacked anyone who has replied to my post in anyway. So before you assume that I have been maybe you need to go back and read. Also no where I am from and the people I associate with this is not a normal thing..and yes very unheard of. I live in the U.S. and yes the people I hang out with are like minded to me so I suppose that would be why I would not know anyone like this. However I have spoke with a few people and, like me, they have never heard of it either. So I guess I have a second question for all of you who have posted and said they are or know someone who is...where are you from??
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@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I don't think there is a thing wrong with her waiting. I wish that I had waited until I met my hubby. I think you are being very judgmental. Also her bad typing could be just typos or she may not know English all that that is no reason to make fun of her. You really need to learn some compassion.
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@polachicago (19073)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I couldn't agree with you more. Some people are involved in additional activity like sport or passion and they don't have time for dating. I was in sport and than in medical school and I didn't have time for dating till age of 25, and I am glad I didn't.... I was good looking and popular, but too busy. It is very personal and it is not age related. I was able to achieved in my young age more than some people in whole lifetime.
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@cortney09 (1346)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Thanks, I I feel the same way.
• New Zealand
26 Mar 08
Hi there. This sounds like You were Judging her for being a Virgin. I am a 24 Year Old Virgin. I have had a Guy or 2 but I am still a Virgin excepting abuse by this kind of behavior. I don't expect you to care that I am excepting for this but I do hope that you won't Judge me for being a Virgin. Catch ya later.
• United States
26 Mar 08
No lol not wanting to give up your virginity isnt bad I just thought it was off that she hasnt been with a guy in a relationship at all not dating not anything. That was more of what I was thinking guess I should have wrote it differently ...thats what I get when I am hanging out with my friends lol
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• New Zealand
26 Mar 08
Hi there. Well ya it's a bit off them not being with anyone before, but maybe they just have not found anyone who they like or something like that. Oh well, we all get things mixed up when we are trying to do something online sometimes. Catch ya later.
@GhostCat (313)
• United States
26 Mar 08
babystar, what do you really know about this young woman? Is English her first language? Was she raised in a western industrialized country? Was she raised in a culture that included a religion which separated her from the rest of society such as some of the break off Mormon sects, a hasidic jew, one of the fundamentalist Muslim sects, or one of the other fundamentalist religious sects that keeps their women separated from the rest of society? Of course at the other extreme it is also possible that this young woman is one of the educatable mentally retarded who has lived most of her life in a relatively protective environment and is only just now being let out in an unrestrictive environment. Since I only got into the discussion, you may have answers to all these questions. But if not, maybe we should cut the young lady some slack. :) Cheers
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• United States
26 Mar 08
ok first off tons of the stuff you mentioned could not be true for these reasons. If she was in a religion that kept women separated why would she be posting about it looking for validation on the internet. Also she states herself that she has been to college and graduated. I highly doubt she is mentally disabled. Anyways I don't really care but from where I am from the whole no boyfriend thing is more then odd. If I can get a good old lashing going on too then why not?
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@GhostCat (313)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Just some suggestions/questions Babystar, and my opinions are not any better than your and may very well be less relevant yours since you had more information than I. Hope you are having a good week.
@_pahn_ (17)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
it would depend on the situation of the girl.. If this girl is really nice, why not,, I mean, there are cultures where women waits until they got married to the perfect person, or found the perfect guy.. they had their reasons.. but if this girl is suffering because she never had any experience or some kind, then she really needs to get a life.. it would really depend on what these girls want.. if they want to wait, or want to have fun.. that is their decision
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@Galena (9120)
26 Mar 08
there are no perfect guys. I love my partner dearly, he is wonderful, sweet, kind, lovely lovely lovely person. but far from perfect. if you wait for perfect, you wait forever. I just waited for someone who I loved, which I think I did by that time, but it's hard to say, compared to the magnitude of how I feel for him now, and who I didn't think I would look back and think, I can't beleive I lost it to that moron, about.
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• Indonesia
26 Mar 08
hi babystar22. 24 year old virgin, if she is not married yet, I just think it is normal. however, if the case was: "she is still virgin even years after she gets married", now I would question her husband. :P come on babystar22, not every part / place in the world are the same like your place. get a life doesn't always need to mate, you know. there are a lot of people who still enjoy their single hood even until their 30-something age. not to mention that there are still some places around the world that still value virgin new wed more than those who have given out their virginity before the marriage. I know many women who just regretted that their first was not with the men who have really loved them and brought them into the marriage. so I guess there is nothing wrong if this girl just makes the 'anticipation', perhaps she only wants to make sure that her 'first' husband in the future will really get the best part she could give, that's might be the point why she keeps it. about not getting a boyfriend yet, I know that not everyone will be interested in just a girl no matter how beautiful or smart she is, the males still have many choices out there so I just think that it is still explainable if she is 24 and never has boyfriend yet. anyway. I admire the girl, pretty much. :P
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• United States
26 Mar 08
Cool if you all admire her. I guess I do too in a way but I would have never waited till I was 24 and beyond. Yes I also realize that is my choice not hers just to avoid some whiplash on that one.
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@ersmommy1 (12595)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I think what people are trying to say is that what is "normal" is different for each person. And for you to say loud and Proud that you posted a RUDE comment on purpose about her choice, many will find offensive. As the mother of a daughter under 5, I will say that I hope my daughter chooses to wait until she is married. But even if she doesn't that's her choice. This girl who you are posting about probably wanted to know that she was still ok. That others may have waited or are waiting. And what you come across with is cobwebs and jaws of life. After reading some of you other comments about where you come from "it" isn't normal etc. I do feel very sorry for that. I think the world may be a better place if so many of us were not in such a hurry to grow up. I hope she waits until she is ready, finds the right person. Might be a better thing if we all had. I hope when you need it someone shows you more kindness then you have said you showed her. I think her attitude is normal. Not so sure about yours. May need to do a little growing up yourself,"baby"star.
• United States
26 Mar 08
I just wonder how big a tramp you must be to think you can judge that girl this way. It's her own choice, so you just need to shut the hell up. God doesn't factor into it, virginity doesn't factor into it. If she wants a man, she can get one with a simple snap of her fingers. And as for grammar and punctuation, you seem to be failing in that area yourself. Of course it's okay if she wants to wait. Screw you.
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@xlinzixx (511)
26 Mar 08
well i dont think anything is wrong with her still being a virgin i think thats perfectly ok so what she wanted to wait or never found anyolne she wanted to be with big deal im totally standing up for her and anyone who wants to discuss this further with me or has a problem with it please fell free to PM me
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@subha12 (18449)
• India
26 Mar 08
I do not know why this is such a big issue. In my country most of the girls are virgin till they are married. Now few also differ, but its not a big issue. she may be such type.
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@skalop (62)
• Malta
26 Mar 08
Nobody can judje this girl. Because she must face her problem which is not too much a proble, because sha can change it whenever she wants!! It is just that this person maybe shy or hadn't found the right person.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 08
Well, that's your view and I respect them... nevertheless, I think it is okay as long as she doesn't have a problem with it. I did not saw that discussion, but In my opinion, why would she ask about her being a virgin (if it is okay)when she's not worried about it?
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• United States
26 Mar 08
Thats just it why would she!? She obviously is not ok with it herself.
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• United States
26 Mar 08
..unfortunately people are often concerned with what others think.. also unfortunate, is likely some of the responses they will get!
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@chrissieatu (1033)
• China
26 Mar 08
Well, I do not know how is the situation in your country. I live in a country where people tend to be conservative. It's quite normal when someone is 24 but still a virgin. My roommates and I prefer to save ourselves. We do not want to do something that can make us feel regreted. Sometimes women are just fragile physically and spritually. About the girl, I think maybe she's a little to shy to just have a try. Maybe she's not confident enough to believe that she's attractive. Some girls face these kinds of problems. I suppose it's better for her to go out and try more. I could help.
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• China
28 Mar 08
I am sorry but I think you misunstood my response. I did not tend to blame all to the country where I live. I was just trying to tell you a truth that because of the culture differenc, people behave in a different way. I referred to the fact that it is extremely normal that women stay virgin until they are married in my country. The reason why I said the words after is that my roommate has caught a disease because of the hormone disorder. And this arise our attention to women's health. Undoubtedly, being a woman should know cherishing herself. My value is that if one does not show any respect to oneself, that one does not deserve other's respect either. As to that girl you've mentioned, maybe you are not quite agree with her attitude towards life; maybe she need some changes, what's done is done. As long as she is aware of the problem, that's a brand new start.
@barehugs (8984)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
Well it takes all kinds. I don't mind a girl mentioning thats shes Virgin. What gets me is when she braggs about it. Its like being 24 and never tasteing ice-cream. I wouldn't want to marry a girl like this. She might be a Cold Drink! She would lose her virginity to me before the wedding! Thats for Damned Sure!
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• United States
26 Mar 08
yeah for sure I make it a point not to sleep with virgins
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@celia4evr (209)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I don't think it's a bad things. I didn't read the discussion, but maybe she has some personal self esteem issues that keep her reserved.
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@djmarion (4900)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
being a virgin is not a big thing to be worried about, you can be 30 and remain virgin and you won't die, virginity is not an illness to be removed, for me it is sacred. remaining to be a virgin until you tie the knot is one of the most wonderful gift you can give to your husband. in some countries virginity is an issue, like in some liberated countries but there are still that look up to virgin people.
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