what is wrong with women having brown skin color?

@skbh12 (2950)
Philippines
March 26, 2008 7:27am CST
i have a friend who desperately wants to have fair white skin that is why she bought glutathione medications for her to have a fair complexion. when i look at her, she looks good with the color she have. me too, im a brown skin colored lady and i have taken some of whitening pills before but got tired of it because i tend to stay long on a sunny day when im at the beach. im a beach lover somehow so it wont do any good to me because there wont be changes at all due to medication intake. then one afternoon we exchanged text messages and she told me how his boyfriend would tease her of her skin color and how envious she is with me because my boyfriend doesnt pull a joke on me about my skin color. she was told that of all the girlfriends he has ever had, she is the only one who has dark skin. i told her to answer his boyfriend back, "if that is so then why thought of courting and asking me to be your girlfriend if you are interested more with white girls? arent i brown skinned colored lady." then his boyfriend answered him back, "it is just your eyes that has caught my attention." now she bought acna care metathione from my boyfriend who is selling one and has now for sure started drinking one. why is it that some find black or brown colored women not pretty? what is it with fair white skinned women that we women dont have? arent we beautiful in your site too?? why are we so discriminated? sigh.. that is really sad. nobody appreciates the color that we have.
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17 responses
26 Mar 08
Being fair white is nothing to get excited over, i am fair white and take after my mum. When it come to summer or holidays abroad, I have to use a high sun cream as i burn really easily! Whereas my dad and two brothers tan really easily! My legs are white as milk bottles so dont really like showing them off. Though they have now produced that moisturing cream that is meant to tan your skin, that is a good idea though would need help putting it on my back! I would love be a bit more darker skin, a nice tanned colour but obviously im just wishing. As for your friend i wouldnt recommend taking all them tablets, she should ditch her boyfriend and find some one who likes her for more than 'the way her eyes looked'. you should be with someone for their personality, not the way they look. her boyfriend sounds pathetic and needs to grow up, he shouldnt be saying nasty comments about your friends skin colour, this obviously hurts her feelings and your stuck in the middle between your friend and her boyfriend. Tell her to get rid as she needs someone a whole lot better. If she doesnt want to get rid of him, tell her to comment about him the way he does about her and see if he likes it, im sure he might stop when he realises it hurts! Good luck x
@subha12 (18452)
• India
27 Mar 08
it is the outlook of the society. it is always seen the fair skin as more beautiful. I ahve seen that in my family also, when i was child, some elders al;ways used to compare me with cousins who are fair. they even said how beutiful they look in certain dresses as they are fair, I am not. i felt humiliated. Later i found its my quality which making me superior to them they never could make a cereer but i have a successful one.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
yep i agree with you cinderella, white skinned people are prone to skin cancer due to less production of melanocytes. most of white skinned people needs high sunscreen protection lotion to prevent this type of cancer. by the way, what can you suggest me to teach her how to answer back her boyfriend whenever she gets teased by him? hehe.. something that will make him think that beauty is not only skin deep...
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
to subha - glad to have someone with same skin color as mine proud to show off our natural beauty. that black is truly beautiful! hurray! when i was young, i get teased a lot by my classmates and kids whom i happen to pass by the streets of my former village regarding my color. and whenever i tell these things to my parents, what they always tell me is that when i grow up and become successful in life ill face these people with my chin up high and show them how great my life is despite of what they have said to me when we were little. they were right about it because both of us became successful people and we became someone whom we wanted us to be.
@heart143 (1204)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
The answer is simple my dear skbh. It is because you are in the Philippines. Filipinos belong to the brown race so it is normal for us to have brown skin. Because most Filipinos have brown skin, people find the white ones more attractive because they stand out from the rest. Because of this attitude of Filipinos to white whiter women, we tend to associate beauty with whiteness or the mestiza look. The case is different if you are in any Caucasian country where most of the skins are white. When summer comes, they rush to the beach and sunbathe the whole day just to get that beautiful tan color on their skin. If we apply whitening lotions on our skins, they put tanning lotions instead. Most foreigners like brown or tanned skinned women because they think it's exotic and differs from the rest of them. So cheer up my dear friend and all of those who have tanned skins. If our "kababayan" cannot and do not appreciate our native brown colors, just let them. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and beauty is only skin deep. What matters most is the beautiful personality in you and that will make one more attractive be you a brown or white skinned person.
@reejane (294)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
I definitely agree with this! Same thing goes for people who have fair skin like in Europe. Since most of them has pale white skin, they find brown skin/tan skin attractive. Simply because the stand out and it's way out of the ordinary that they see everyday.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
To HEART143 - that is why we are being admired is because of the positive personality we filipinos portray to foreign countries. it is just really funny how our kababayans feel ashamed of the skin color we have when we are seen as very attractive people by foreigners. me, i am not ashamed of having a complexion like what i have right now because this is how i was born with. true i wasnt really proud with what i have when i was small but as i grew old in a very maturely manner, ive come to realize that i can be very attractive to anyone on my own ways. im very much proud to be a brown girl! hehe.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I have straight dark hair and would love to have curly light hair. I am pale as a ghost and would love to be a bit tan. I am tall and wouldn't mind being a bit shorter. I think some women, including me, always want to be something they aren't, it's in our nature to feel this way. But I would look ridiculous with blond curly hair (really I'm so white, why would I want to enhance that with having light hair?). Tanning would be stupid because of the risk of skin cancer, plus eventually I would look like one of those old sun worshippers/prune ladies. Being tall has a lot of advantages cause I can reach higher things. Anyways, it's just part of being human ;)
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
i wanted to be a tall girl too but unfortunately, God created me to be small. the advantage to that is i dont look old. in fact, i am mistaken to be a highschool student and what shocked me is when i was in china looking at jade bracelets, a chinese sales lady asked me if i was 12 YEARS OLD!!! haha.. but that was a good compliment to my part. haha. ill never look old in the eyes of anyone. haha!
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I have a brown skin and Im proud of it I really love my colour.. Makes me stands out in the western world..they are loving it.. I have a perfect tan. I tried so many whitening products before but it never works.. she got to love that skin colour and be proud she have it.
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@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
yup.. it is hard to look for whitening products that you think will work and spend amounts of cash to it and still find no positive results. haha! being brown is very unique..
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
1 Apr 08
heart - drawing of a heart
i dont think there is really a big difference for a woman's skin color...it all doesnt matter because all that will fade away when they grow old...the most important of it is the way they love someone...they have to be loyal to the one they love and readily shows how much they love you....
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
yes.. we should learn to love a person with not the way the look but with the great personality they could offer other people..
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
uhuh.. well, it is just a matter of appreciating a persons physical appearance right?
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
9 Apr 08
woman - pretty woman
yah,a perfect example for that matter....
@popocan (222)
• Hong Kong
27 Mar 08
Hi skbh12, you're not alone, I have brown skin too! My brother and sisters all have whiter skin, it really makes me looked "different" and left out. Most HK people prefer white skin tone, so I'm so used to getting teased by everyone and even my partner. Sad, but no choice...
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
really? even your partner engage to teasing activities? hei that isnt fair?? how does your partner tease you with your skin color??? most HK people ive noticed have yellow colored skin right?
@popocan (222)
• Hong Kong
27 Mar 08
yup, my partner calls me stupid names like black swan and spider. I usually ignore him or slap him if I'm in a bad mood. It's true HK people have yellow skin, something btw white & yellow, but many young gals I've seen look so white, I guess it's all bcos of the whitening product.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
really? aww.. thats so sad... partners shouldnt be treating each other that way. aaw.. well, whitening products does really work in HK?
@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
First and foremost, you'd have to love yourself as you are because if you don't, nobody will... Learn to appreciate what you have and never try to compare because you'll never be happy and contented if you keep on comparing yourself to other people. I am also a Filipina but I have a lighter skin color but not classified as fair. I had swimming class for a year scheduled at 10-11 am, twice a week so you could imagine how I burnt my skin but who cares? My bf then or my friends did not tease because they have seen in me something more important than skin color. Skin color doesn't define what or who is beautiful. Some who are black like Vanessa Williams, Halle Berry, Denzel Washinton, etc are considered beautiful yet they have deeper skin tne than we have. I think we Filipinos are descrimated because of our skin color, rather, we are the ones who feel low just because we are not as fair as Chinese, Japanese, Koreans, White Americans, etc. But isn't it ironic that these white people would sun bath just to get their skin tanned while we would do everything to be as fair as them? I think its all a matter of acceptance. Your friend's bf might not be the outspoken type who would say "i courted you even if you are dark even I've seen something in your eyes that I've never seen in my exes"...Some guys are just so egoistic that they find appreciating their women difficult instead of teasing them. Lets just be happy that we are the ones who are considered "well-cooked" by the Lord, just enough melanin to protect from the harmful UV rays. :-)
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
yup you are right. we are are very well protected from harmful UV ray due to our increased melanin production! hurray to brown and black women and men of the world!!!
@chrysz (1603)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
Thanks for choosing my answer!
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
sure thing.. you made sense that is why i chose your answer. well im not saying others did not make any sense to me. it is just that i liked what you have answered.. take care always!
@jvego7426 (153)
27 Mar 08
Its more of 'people tend to want what they don't have'. Like how fat ones to become slim, small to become tall, straight hair that curls their hair or the other way round. If tanned people want to go white, its the same for them. I'm not generalizing but I know someone who really wanted to get tanned so she goes into like sun-beds and she sometimes even wear fake-tanning lotion in her skin. I would say its the lack of satisfaction and as you've said appreciation of what you have.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
yup.. first and foremost, you have to love yourself for others to appreciate what you have right? it is a matter of fighting for your own right that you can live the life like what white women can..
27 Mar 08
and another thing, beauty starts within. It's in the eyes of the beholder. Sometimes its not just a state, its more of a decision to be beautiful. When you learn to appreciate what you have yourself. Then you're right, alongside that people will come to appreciate what you have.
@rhane7315 (5670)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
i guess women are pretty conscious about their skin especially when they're bf teases them lol i guess the logic would be like this, if you've got a straight hair others would want it to perm and if other women has a curly hair then they wanted a straight hair and so on
@teka44 (3423)
• Brazil
19 Apr 08
Yes, but few people like themself the way they are.
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
hahaha, i find fair white and light brown women pretty.. ^_^ hahaha, i dont know why but those light brown girls are more pretty that super white girls.. ^_^ and it's not really about the color cause if your talking about love, then there's no reason to tell people that brown girls aren't that pretty.. which i think that brown girls are really pretty.. ^_^
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
i hope that is what other people see in brown and black colored women..
• India
30 Mar 08
Even i went through this skin discrimination, i am brown skinned and my husband is all fair. But i never had any probs with that niether did my husband. He always adored me 4 what i am. But whenever i went to my in-laws house for some gathering, i used to get these remarks like try this or do this for it can lighten ur skin, who asked them? I am good as i see it. When i say 2 my husband that ur ppl just dont stop giving me tips, he plainly refers its me you shud bother not them and i love you just as you r and in fact he thinks its very sexy. As far as ur frend is concerned she shud find some1 who really appreciates her 4 what she is....
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
you are a fortunate lady to have married somebody who knows what beauty really means... he is showing you true love no matter how you look... stay inlove!!!
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
30 Mar 08
The problem lies within the media. For so long, fair skinned women have gotten all of the attention. Just recently, things are beginning to change for the better (in the U.S. anyway). People are FINALLY beginning to see that all women are beautiful, no matter their skin color, weight, etc. The world has been color blind for far too long. It's time we start freeing our minds so we can see the beauty hat lies within. Personally, I would not make such drastic changes for ANYONE. If you don't like me the way I am hit the road! I don't need anyone that doesn't love me for me. Your girlfriend should tell this guy to hit the road too. Thoses medications can't be doing her body any good.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
yeah.. i hope this happens too in the Philippines because here people having non-fair white skin are still being seen as the ugly ones. i just hope they see the beauty in these people too.. that they'd get to learn to appreciate where they really began... right?
@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
you must be in the philippines.. he he Many guys i know here are into fair skinned girls. I am lucky, if i may say that i have a fair skin cause of my chinese blood... i think it is not fair for some who does think of it that way too... also, if i was your friend, i will break up with her boyfriend.. why does he want me to change my color anyway if he knew for a fact that it goes with the person he courted. i could never stand a man like that who is just not appreciative of the person he is with and always looks in the physical aspect. For me, beauty is skin deep. nothing about colors - whether you are black, brown, or white...
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
yep.. everyone one were made in same way by God but there are just specific things that He has made us Unique.. right? yep i live in the Philippines. hehe.. and i know that most of filipinos here are against from having dark skin color and are really ashamed of it.. well im very proud to say I LOVE MY COLOR NO MATTER WHAT BECAUSE GOD GAVE ME THIS WITH A PURPOSE.. eventhough i am morena, i live a great life.
@Galena (9123)
27 Mar 08
in the UK, most people want to be tanned. they'll sunbathe, use fake tan, sunbeds, bronzers, the lot. personally I don't, I prefer to keep my skin pale with sunblock and staying out of the sun, but this is unusual for a white woman. in days when people did more manual labour, it was considered a sign of wealth, and therefore more attractive and aspirational, to be pale skinned, as it meant you didn't work out in the sun all day, but were a wealthy, "kept" woman. as more people had jobs that took them indoors, a tan was a sign of having the free time to relax outdoors, or even of affording a holiday abroad, and that became peoples aspiration. so in the UK, most people consider more tanned skin to be more attractive, but some people prefer skin to be pale. sounds like in darker skinned countries, the opposite is true. people with curly hair straighten it, and people with straight hair curl it. people bleach dark hair blonde, and I dye my blonde hair black. so it boils down to this. people want what they haven't got.
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
yup.. here in the Philippines, when you have kinky curly hair you'd get teased a lot. discrimination here is really high when it comes to physical attributes and that is what i hate among white skinned filipinos. it is as if they look down on women with these type of appearances and do not see what is the beauty in them. i pity those women who couldnt stop comparing beauty with these people. they dont know and understand the true meaning of beauty.
@plrk008 (23)
27 Mar 08
my dear there is nothing great in colour.colour is only skin deep.under the skin everyone of us wud look the same. pls tell your friend that she may hv to face some adverse reaction by using such unknown medicines and she might look like a leukoderma patient afterwards. BLACK IS BEAUTIFUL www.makewealt1.blogspot.com
@skbh12 (2950)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
really? sure thing.. ill send her the site you have given me for her to know that not all whitening medications are good for the body.. thanks for the healthy advice!
@meiteoh (420)
• Switzerland
9 May 08
Personally, I think it has everything to do with how people have learnt to equate skin colour with status. In Asian, if you were dark skinned, it meant that you were a worker. Poor and unable to relax OUT of the sun and have maids serve you all day long. Only people who work in the sun are dark/tanned. Chinese girls in Asian strive for that porcelain white skin because it means that you're rich and successful...you don't have to work like crazy to be where you are. In some Western countries, being tan is equated to not being a workaholic - you can have time off to enjoy the sun and well, you don't look sickly either. Over time, people have subconsciously seen dark people as people who are oppressed. Take a good look at your own society and ask yourself - how many opportunities to regular dark skinned folk get in comparison to their fairer counterparts. Be honest and you'll understand why your friend is nuts about being fair. It's not always the right thing but it explains why things are the way they are. Btw, this doesn't happen to just black or brown coloured women. It happens to white women as well - those with dark colouring (brown hair) compared to blondies. My hubby's friend who is French and fair with dark hair and dark eyes had a baby recently and her baby has light brown hair and blue eyes. People have stopped her to ask if she was the maid or if the kid was hers. Go figure.
@Gesusdid (1681)
• United States
8 May 08
when i think about it i can count about at least 7 dark skin black women that ive been with and was attratect too, i really dont see that much dark skinded black women that much none that are attractive to me , maybe its the part of town im in ,their attractive and all but as much that i like ..light skin women i mostly go for , as for white women i dont date them either , no offense but they just do anything for me ..im open to all women still, i still dont see why would yall make yourselves lighter for another persons respect , if they dont like you for who you are than leave them