29 Mar 08
well you know i only have a few friends, literally i only have few friends most of them are highschool.. and some college classmate that become my friends, and unfortunately in our course we are only a few. and the said thing is we are backstabbing each other, and something we even do some crab mentality... well, i did always criticize them, and it turn out to be a backstab, since they misunderstood everything, but they are my friends, my few friends, that is why that doesn't affect me anymore, instead it makes our friendship grow old, although sometime it's hard to accept that they are once your enemy, but we set aside our pride and learn from that experience... in that way, every time their is trouble, or if someone needs help we voluntarily lend our hand to them even if we have misunderstanding... and after that, we confront and make up.
27 Mar 08
One of "best friends" really upset me. I was going though a nasty divorce and he called her. The two were on the phone for over an hour and she didn't even tell me. I found out through HIM. I had to ask her before she told me. I think that is just WRONG. WRONG! It's not even like the two of them were friends to begin with. That was so backstabbing. She is married to top it off! I feel she should have told him she didn't want to get involved. That's what I feel a TRUE BEST FRIEND WOULD DO. I can't even talk to her today.
27 Mar 08
It depends a bit what it is all about. If it is a serious matter he would no longer be my friend. If it was a minor thing I'd talk to him about it before I decide. I really do not need a friend that stabs me in the back. But I am for second chances for the ones that ask for them.
27 Mar 08
I guess I will be upset, very sad and hurt but won't hit back for sure. I have been in such a situation before and that is all I did. But yes, I will not forgive him for that action, may be never in a lifetime, irrespective of how things appear to be on the surface between him and me. We may appear to be friends on the surface but then I don't think I am capable of forgiving someone like that!
26 Mar 08
initially, i will get hurt. then i'll just pray for forgiveness, that i'd be able to forgive him or her and that he or she will realize his or her wrongdoing. as Corrie Ten Boom wrote: "Avoid gossip and slander. We shall all be judged one day by the standards of Jesus, not man. We have to answer only to God for our actions. Remember, as you point one finger at another person, three fingers of your hand point back at you." the Bible also has something to say on gossip: "Why, then, criticize your brother's actions, why try to make him small? We shall all be judged one day, not by each other's standards or even our own, but by the standard of Christ." (Romans 14:10)