My little sister has changed and it worries me.....
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
March 26, 2008 7:53am CST
We have always been close. But lately, the last couple of times she has said she would be coming to visit she hasn't showed up! One weekend I told my granddaughter she couldn't stay because my sister was supposed to come and spend the day with me shopping etc. Well she never called and never showed up! It was contingent on her son coming home for a visit but later I found out he hadn't come home....so we made plans for her to come yesterday. Well I never heard from her so I made other plans. Yesterday morning she called me at work to say she had sent an email saying she wouldn't be coming (after I went to bed) but then when she got up yesterday she felt better and would be coming. I finally told her that I had made other plans...which I did because I didn't hear from her. She used to always come if she said and I don't understand her not letting me know one way or another..it's like she is getting forgetful! She sent an email and apologized for ruining our plans and said we would reschedule. But she is getting forgetful about a lot things....not just plans with me. I am worried about her. She has headaches all the time and goes to the doctor but this is unusual for her. Would you say something to her out of concern or do you think I am being overly protective of her. It could be age...it could be stress...many things could be part of it. She is six years younger then me.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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27 Mar 08
Hi Jill, As you sister has always been reliable before she is acting very out of character, I read in an earlier response that there has been worry over a house move and that can create a lot of stress and also stress cause headaches. Maybe it could be to do with her age and menopausal type forgetfulness. Whatever the problem though, there does seem to be one and I feel you should try to talk to her and discover the underlying cause. I hope you get to see and chat to her soon so you can resolvve it and no be worrying over her so much which is a natural thing for a loving sister to do. Good luck. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Thanks Ellie....can going through menopause cause forgetfulness? She has just started...that is part of the problem I think with the headaches. I am not sure but I am going to feel her out. Before Christmas we went to see Kenny Rogers in concert. She bought the tickets. One was for her neighbor who was going with us. That day the neighbor called and said how excited she was to see the concert and my sister said to her...are you going? The gal was kinda upset as my sister had gotten the ticket for her too! It's things like that situation that really worry me.
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@ellie333 (21016)
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27 Mar 08
Hormonal fluctuations can cause memory lapse,lack of concentration, sleep loss, irritability and headaches, but the above situation that you mentioned does sound quite severe, but in some cases pre-menopausal or menopause can cause this. Hope you find out the cause though Jill you have every reason to be concerned. God bless. Ellie :D
@ellie333 (21016)
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2 Apr 08
Hope you have managed to have a good chat with your sister and that she has ben given something to help with menopause. My friend found taking extra vitamin B helped which is also good for PMT. Lets hope she is back to her normal self soon. Thoughts are with you both Jill. Thanks for BR. Ellie :D
@KarenLO (238)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I guess I wouldn't worry too much until you see her. Then maybe you should take note of things that she does. She is maybe having stress from the long winter, a family problem or just has lots of things on her mind. If she is having headaches and going to the DR....haha.....she is most likely getting some meds to take...that could be causing her problems. If you see a real problem, I would probably talk to her kids or husband and see if there is a problem..most likely she is having the Minnesota...can't stand winter anymore...syndrome.
Take care....and pray for spring to get here...then we will all feel wonderful.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I am with you on that...they also have decided to find a different place and I think that is part of it..getting her house ready and showing it...then they did find a house they wanted and they didn't get it because it was contingent on selling theirs.....she was kinda bummed.
@KarenLO (238)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Moving could be the entire problem....I am trying to get myself ready to make a move, too. I have about 3 month of work to do before I can be ready to put it up for sale so I am really stressed out, too. Many things I can't do until winter goes away...I can't work out in the cold anymore...so I am anxiously waiting, too. Moving away after being here for 42 years is really stressing me out...I didn't realize how much "stuff" that I have and will have to make some pretty hard choices...but I am taking my time. I think if she has a move coming up...she is really pre-occupied with that...always so many things to do and take care of before someone sees your home.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
27 Mar 08
I think some peopel are bound to cahnge in time. i have seen similar cases in case of my mom and her sis. It seems my aunt has just forgot what my mom did for her all throughout. its like helping hr, giving money to get her married, helping her when her husband lost the job, when the needed money to buy food for their children, money to make their house and list goes on.. Now she just refuses to accept what my mother did!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
27 Mar 08
With her having headaches, I would be worried too. It could be many things. I guess the best thing is to get her a doctor for tests.You are right to be concerned.I hope you can find out what is wrong. Take care.
@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
It could be one of the reasons that you have mentioned. However, it would really be better I think that you discuss your feelings towards her. Since she is your sister and you were close, then I believe that she could be someone that you could be open with and tell things without fear of being misunderstood. I would rather lay out things in the open and see together what we could do about it. there might be some real problems at it would really be resolved through open discussion.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
27 Mar 08
If she's always been reliable before and this is a recent drastic change, I'd have an honest talk with her. Be prepared with dates and times and if you have to, your granddaughter and others that can corroborate. Does she live alone? If not, do the others that live with her have the same concerns? Could she have a drinking problem or maybe a medication is having side effects?
You're right to worry, she's lucky to have someone like you to watch out for her. I hope you get this resolved and she gets her self back.
