Parents: how would your child avoid getting bad influence

@djmarion (4901)
Philippines
March 26, 2008 9:05am CST
as we grow older we meet different people which eventually become our friends. these people will become part of our lives and whether we like it or not, they will influence our way of living. there are times when people got lost on their track due to influence of their friends, bad influence as they are being called, i have seen a lot of situations like that especially on younger and more aggressive people like the teenagers and those in their early adolescence. these people got lost on their track and even lost their chance of better future just because they had chosen to be part of "unworthy gangs". although we cannot blame the parents, there are times when the parents really took the bad part. they lead their children to "dirt" by not paying extra attention to their needs; like the needs for moral support, the need to be heard and the need for attention. parents need to take extra caution for their children especially during adolescence stage, where children are becoming more aggressive and easy to be influenced. if you are the parent, how would you make your child avoid bad peers?
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5 responses
26 Mar 08
I dont think you can 'make' your children do anything once they reach a certain age. But im hopefull that by the time my 2 children reach the age at which they have to decide whether a certain persons' influence is good or bad they will have the education and commen sence to realsie which path to take in life, I plan always to be open and honest with both my children in the hope that they will do the same with me, then if a situation arrises they can always come and talk to me about things and i will try best to guide them on the right path. Ultimatly tho the decision will be down to them and i just hope my children will be brought up well enough to make the right choices.
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
being a mother, its heartbreaking to realize that our children took the wrong path, i guess we should mix good teaching with an open heart and prayer.
@kezabelle (2984)
26 Mar 08
All I hope is that when my children go to school ive done a good enough job in making them see that they can say no make their own choices (and hopefully good ones) and not follow people but have their own minds. I cant stop who they make friends with just hopefully show them by example how to behave and act as they get older.
27 Mar 08
To be honest Kids will be kids no matter what you do. If you try and interfere you will only make it worse. Its only when they start getting into serious trouble that you should worry. I guess parents are just naturally uptight and overprotective of their children and there not to much you can do about it.
@msfreeze (89)
• United States
27 Mar 08
well unfortunately as much as i want to i cant keep my daughter at home stuck under me all her life. all i can do is pray that as a parent i have installed the values and morals in her to know whats right and wrong and the kind of people that she should not be associated with. let her know how special she is and always be there for her.
@lynboobsy11 (11345)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
yeah your right about that. I can't avoid my kids to have friends that can influence them but I can guide them and let them realize the consequence of having friends that can be a bad influence to them. Constant reminder to them is a big help to avoid friends like that.
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
26 Mar 08
I'd do what my parents did to me when I was still growing up. They made me feel that they were always there for their children. They made me feel that I could depend on them as they would support me in anything that I might venture on. They would warn me whenever they feel that I am straying out of line which helps me on choosing which group of people I could consider as good friends and those that I might just be friends with. They made me feel that they trusted me so I really don't like for that trust to be tarnished by anything at all. Of course, we can't always be there at every moment in their lives but as much as they are, we make an effort to inculcate in them good values as much as possible and if ever they do commit something we don't like, we don't reproach them as easily. Instead, we'd forgive and make it clear that we'd help them out no matter what.