Would you disown someone for being gay?

United States
March 26, 2008 1:24pm CST
If a family member or close friend told you they are a homosexual, would you disown them? If so, what are your reasons?
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7 responses
• United States
27 Mar 08
Well i would never disown anyone for being gay,I have a few friends and family members who are gay and I love them the same as before they came out,being gay does not change the person.Most people who say they would are just ignorant and need to educate them self about the gay people,just because there gay doesn't mean they ahve something or gonna hit on you or your frinends,come on really,gay people are no more different that me and you.
• United States
26 Mar 08
Personally, I cannot think of very many things that anyone I cared for could do that would make me disown them or turn my back on them. Regardless of my beliefs about their lifestyle or behaviors, it is the person that I love. I can disagree with what they do, I may not even like it, BUT it is their business, not mine to deal with. Plus, even if I believe *MY* beliefs are right, I cannot prove they are and who am I to judge someone else. I would still be there for them when they have troubles, even if the trouble is directly related to whatever behavior I disagree with. I look at it like this, my sisters have had some cruddy boyfriends who I disliked immensely. I still loved them during that time, even though I would love to have seen them leave the jerk. When the relationships ended, I was still there to help them through the sadness. People are people regardless of how they look, behave, believe, etc and they should always be treated as such.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Nope, I wouldn't. They don't judge who I choose to love so I wouldn't judge who they choose. It's not up to me how they 'turn out' and if I loved them before they came out about being gay then of course I would love them after.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Well, yes that was my point, I just didn't word it right. I wrote it as 'turn out' because I was thinking in terms of a teenager or adult realizing that they were gay...saying they 'became' gay was obviously wrong, 'decided' to be gay didn't work either. Ok put another way...if my child 'turns out' to be athletic, they most likely had that in them their whole life it just won't present itself until they are old enough to be interested in sports...whether that happens when they are 5, 15 or 25. A person who is gay, has been their whole life also but it won't present itself until they become aware of it...whether that happens when they are 5, 15, or 25. Does that explain my choice of words better?
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Oh...so God just makes judgemental and narrow minded people.
@havfaith (174)
• United States
26 Mar 08
I had a very good friend for years. If I ever need someone to talk to she was there. She was someone I could always count on. Well, she came about 3 months ago and told me she turned homosexual and that she would understand if I didn't want to be friends. I am still friends with her. She is the same good friend as she was. As long as she knows i'm straight and never tries anything we will always be friends. havfaith
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
26 Mar 08
Hi lamecasper, I would never turn my back on a good friend or family member, especially not for something that they have no control over. I know that there are people who do this but they are not loving and compassionate people, they care more about themselves than they do others. How could any parent turn their back on one of their children? Such people do not deserve to be parents. The only real love is unconditional love. Blessings.
@megumiart (3771)
• United States
26 Mar 08
Never. A person's sexuality does not affect how I see them at all. I think anyone who disowns people just because they are gay are pretty ignorant. :/
@gemini_rose (16264)
26 Mar 08
I have seen many shows where the parents have disowned a child for being homosexual, all I want to ask is why? How could anyone turn their backs on a child so fast just because of that. I certainly would not disown my child for being homosexual.