How well would you be able to handle being with a disfigured partner?
By tjades
@tjades (3590)
Jamaica
March 28, 2008 1:10am CST
I recall some time ago watching a documentary about a man who lost most of his face because of some rare kind of sinusitis he had developed. The doctors had to do surgery and remove a large portion of his face and then a mask was made for him.
I do not remember all the details but ever since seeing that story I have been conscious of the fact that the person we choose as partners should be someone who will stand by us and who we can stand by even if we become disabled or physically deformed.
His wife and children were a blessing. They were not afraid to be seen with him and they just portrayed the picture of a very happy family. As far as they were concerned all was not lost, just a portion of their husband's and father's face, but his personality and everything else was still intact.
How well do you think you would be able to handle it if your partner became physically disabled?
3 responses
@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
29 Mar 08
When you choose to marry someone, you do so "in sickness and in health". Even though the person may be physically different on the outside, inside he/she would remain the same. The personality traits and characteristics that you fell in love with would still be there. I would also think that going through a traumatic event together would help to bring the family closer.
So yes, I think I would be able to handle it if my husband were disfigured or disabled, because essentially he would still be the same person that I fell in love with.
@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Yes, I think if you really love someone then it goes deeper than just the other person's physical appearance.
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
28 Mar 08
When you love someone it should not matter if that person becomes disfigured. I lost the love of my life who is now in Heaven and if I had to choose to be with my lover/partner who is disfigured or who lost their life and passed on, I would choose to be with my lover who became disfigured. True love is more powerful than that, it is deep in your heart not on the outside.
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
29 Mar 08
I agree with you Howard. To love someone dearly when all is well and then unlove them when things change is not love at all. Love is not a trivial matter, so we really ought to choose carefully.
I am sorry to hear of the passing of your loved one but thrilled to hear you say you would walk that road again with her if given the chance. If it is at all possible I am sure she smiles at this pronouncement with much fondness for the man who loves her so. (lol)
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Love conquers all. That is what I believe. No matter what the condition of your partner be. If love is still there, you will still respect and do the much needed care.
I am not married and I don't know how it feels. I might even say if I can stand that challenge. I will just pray hard that it won't happen to me soon.
Prayers! 
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
31 Mar 08
I pray only good things to happen to you Jeannie but whatever it may be the key is to never lose your inner beauty. I think that was the the thread which bound that family together. They all maimtained their inner beauty and allowed only the physical features to suffer the challenge. I think that is just awesome. (lol)
