i want to be more determined

For me, it's all about pacing myself. I've found that trying to get all motivated about something suddenly usually leads towards burning myself out and giving up. Instead, I focus on making small steps towards the goal. For instance: Health: 5 minutes of calisthenics each day, no more. I make portion sizes medium instead of large whenever possible, but don't restrict what I eat. Finances: The goal is to make progress each month, not live in forced poverty. I use a monthly budget, but it's updated automatically throughout the month (See Yodlee.com or Mint.com) Professionally: The goal is to learn a little more each day or week. Not drop everything for a cram session to get a certification or something similar. If it's too painful, you won't do it. Some people have a higher tolerance for self-sacrifice, and I believe that can be developed too. I would just rather set up a plan so that I can achieve my goals without that pain. Life is for living.

My motto in life is that everything happens for a reason, the moment you let go of wanting to be something or have something you'll find life is so much easier. I try not to overthink anything now and go with the flow so to speak and i feel calmer, more serene - and to be honest life is going great. If i want something i go for it, if it doesnt work out i move on to the next thing. Life has a funny way of leading you where your meant to be :)