Is it difficult to find friends?..

Italy
March 30, 2008 12:09pm CST
I live in Italy...I came here almost 2 years ago. but I didn't find any friends here uptill now. I mean, I'm a young girl, absolutely normal, I love communicating, I had hundreds of friends in my country...You may think - it's the culture difference! Well..Some years ago I was in the USA and in 5 months I made a lot of friends there. We keep in touch. So why is it so difficult to find friends here?
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• United States
30 Mar 08
well i am italian and i am studying in the USA now.Yes for some reason it's easier to make frinds here then in Italy ( even for me as an italian it is difficult to keep in touch with onother italian , i dont know why). It also depends in which part of the country you are living..
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• Italy
30 Mar 08
Well, I live in Naples...I don't want to offend someone, but sometimes I think that it is very difficult to find a person here that is able to speak on various topics. I mean for me it's difficult to make friends with a person that doesn't know some things that children of elementary school know..
• United States
30 Mar 08
ok i see why is difficult for you to make new friends ...people from Naples might be a little close minded sometimes ( not all of them ) but they have a good heart ..why dont you move to another city ? like Rome? thats where i am from and i can tell you that people are different and that the city is more international
• United States
30 Mar 08
When we moved the town I'm living in now (which is right next to Mexico,) I had a really hard time making friends. We've now lived here almost 2 years, and although I have a few friends here, I don't feel like I have a huge connection to many of them. I think one reason for me is that I work for myself, so I don't come in contact with anyone other than clients. My husband works night shift, so we aren't hanging out with people from his work. After I hadn't met anyone here after a few months, I made it a point to hang out at a coffee shop more often and strike up conversation with random people. I think the only way to meet people is to like join some kind of group and just get yourself out there. Good luck! I know it's not easy spending so much time by yourself.
• Italy
30 Mar 08
Even my situation is very similar...I work all day long, so I have to communicate with the clientsand I don't have many opportunities to hang out. My boyfriend is working as well, so after the work we are too tired to go out. Well, at least we speak to each other and it means that after 5 years together we have still some common topics to speak about!
30 Mar 08
Oh thats sad as i couldnt be without friends maybe i think its because italian are very close knit families and generally stick with there own...i dont mean this in a rude way or discriminating but my friend is italian and has told me this many times. also they may think your just a tourist and feel u are on holiday!! get involved in a course or group it'll be fun and you may make friends this way.
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• United States
31 Mar 08
If your an outgoing, nice person I don't understand why it would be hard for you to make friends anywhere. Did you make real attempts at it before now? Do you work? Work is always a good place to find people to become friends with. Real friends...I mean absolutly true friends, are hard to come by. They're as unique as genuine good guys. But when you find good friends, the right friends, I think you'd know! Maybe you just haven't met the right person to be your real friend, or maybe the person you said you just met is going to be that true friend!
• China
31 Mar 08
maybe in the USA,people are more open and easier to communicate. Italy,an European country,has its old culuture and tradditional custom. it's the reason A. reason B,if you get friend easily in the USA you'll happy to meet more new guys but if you have not friend in Italy in the first weekend mostly you may not seek friends in your own initiative.
@subha12 (18449)
• India
31 Mar 08
i think not at all place its easy to find friends. also in today's world real friends are very difficult to find. so its better to be cautious before making friends.
• Philippines
31 Mar 08
I think it is easy to find friends but but it is hard to find a true friend. My really true friends are the ones that I use to know since I was a kid. The new friends are worth trusty but still different from the ones that I used to know since I was a kids. Its difficult to find true friends because its also hard to go out of your comfort zone. Some people would always tend to save their friendship from the past.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
30 Mar 08
It could be, Kotopes, that you are not going to the right places, or not showing yourself in a friendly manner. A lot also depends upon what type of residence you live in(for instance an apartment or house). Do you attend any kind of social events, sports events, etc.? Do you regularly shop for groceries? The grocery store is a great place to strike up a conversation with someone you have seen there before.Sometimes all it takes is a walk through your neighborhood several times and noticing familiar faces. They should invariably lead to some friendship.
@s2a2n2 (1732)
• India
30 Mar 08
when u change it is difficult to find new friends...and where r u now..